Many gorgeous women are lesbians and if they want the feeling of a penis, they use toys, or their or a partner's fingers, toes, tongue. Practice whole-body sensual massage and master hand and tongue techniques. Humor, excellent hygiene, great personality, intelligence, humor, fresh breath, etc are the most important thing.
If a woman's built like the Grand Canyon, then there's nothing but Pete Davidson or a toy for her; but I'm average and I have had countless women partners (most smoking!). Personally, I am a sensualist, very tactile and oral, all over her body. Take it slow. Throw out the clock. I've been told by two women I was "too small" for them. Fuck them. They didn't say that as I gave them orgasm after orgasm with my mouth and fingers and hands. My last gf. one of the hottest in Vegas, truly, thought my size was MORE than plenty for her---and actually hurt her at times.