why should i even bother improving myself if women are going to reject me due to my penis size anyway? i should just end things there is no use trying

[HermitLonerGuy]

I'm far from a typical woman I suppose.

What do u mean?

I've come to realize I'm lesbian now, but as a girl, I have had many friends who are girls and we talk about all kinds of things. Yes, height matters, but most my friends don't care about 6'0+. They just don't want to look down at their boyfriend. As far as dick size? They couldn't care less. When they obsess about boyfriends it's about his hair, his smile, his laugh, the flowers he bought. If you find a girl and you both love each other she won't care.

thank you you made me feel a bit better.

As I said in my other post, 90% of women can't even orgasm with P in V sex. So skill would refer to clitoral manipulation skills. Fingers and tongue are usually used for that.
Overall, though, it sounds like you are just meeting shallow women. I guarantee you it wouldn't matter to me if I loved the person. My main crush through high school was shorter than me, and I'm 5'3". No idea about his other sizes, though... But honestly dick size never mattered to me. It mattered if I clicked with them.

Thank you you helped me feel some hope.

A few thoughts.

As someone else itt mentioned, it's very difficult for women to achieve orgasm with vaginal penetration alone. Your size really doesn't matter in this regard. The only thing that a well endowed man can do differently is hit the vaginal fornix, and while it is an erogenous zone, it's still not going to stimulate her to an orgasm, and some women find anything probing around the cervix to be painful anyway. The g-spot is also an erogenous zone, and it's located very shallowly inside the vagina behind the pubic bone, which makes it easier to stimulate for guys on the smaller side. Clitoral stimulation is what women need, and frankly, you don't even need a penis to offer that.

Some women are shallow, some men are shallow, but for many women this is not a deal breaker. If my husband were injured in a way that he lost his completely, I would not leave, would not cheat. People are worth way more than the sum of their parts. Speaking of parts though, they do make penile extenders these days, they can be obtained at most novelty shops. Don't get discouraged OP. The size of your penis has absolutely no reflection on who you are as a man, you are not lesser than any other man out there.

Youre very kind.Your husband is very lucky to have you! i too would date a woman without a vagina or breasts and still find things about them attractive.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Forever Sleep said:
I'm far from a typical woman I suppose.

What do u mean?

I've never been a girly-girl. I find I don't really relate to a lot of female chatter. I've also never had a boyfriend- so I wouldn't have a lot of dicks to compare.

I have done life drawing at college though and seen guys with massive dicks. Friends of mine said it would hurt being with a guy that big. I don't think dicks are attractive (sorry- I don't think female genetalia are attractive either to be fair.) So- a massive one really doesn't appeal (to me.) If they are so big it hurts the woman- how is that going to be pleasant for either of you? To my mind- I think that may actually be worse.

Plus- I don't want children, so- I don't actually need a guy at all. For a long time, I wanted one- that whole fairytale love thing but I don't think I'm actually cut out to be in a relationship. It's made my mind calmer to accept that. I just have to settle for my imagination.

Also- like other people have said- it's knowing the female anatomy. I have a married friend who said female orgasms were rare. I felt so sorry for her because they're really not- if you know what you're doing. Another friend said it was really painful for her. I'm sure sex can be amazing with the right partner but I don't think size is the be all and end all... How do you think lesbians get by? I do get it that lesbians aren't looking for big dicks but they clearly manage to have good sex lives. I actually do wonder how many women out there are satisfied by their male partners (regardless of size.)

I don't know though- like I say- I don't really get involved with girly chatter. Maybe they are all after that but they can't ALL be like that (I wouldn't have thought.) Really think you should try looking for dating apps geared towards this. If you are desperate to find someone and this bothers you this much- I think it would be an advantage from the get go if they knew about your size.

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

What do u mean?

I've never been a girly-girl. I find I don't really relate to a lot of female chatter. I've also never had a boyfriend- so I wouldn't have a lot of dicks to compare.

I have done life drawing at college though and seen guys with massive dicks. Friends of mine said it would hurt being with a guy that big. I don't think dicks are attractive (sorry- I don't think female genetalia are attractive either to be fair.) So- a massive one really doesn't appeal (to me.) If they are so big it hurts the woman- how is that going to be pleasant for either of you? To my mind- I think that may actually be worse.

Plus- I don't want children, so- I don't actually need a guy at all. For a long time, I wanted one- that whole fairytale love thing but I don't think I'm actually cut out to be in a relationship. It's made my mind calmer to accept that. I just have to settle for my imagination.

Also- like other people have said- it's knowing the female anatomy. I have a married friend who said female orgasms were rare. I felt so sorry for her because they're really not- if you know what you're doing. Another friend said it was really painful for her. I'm sure sex can be amazing with the right partner but I don't think size is the be all and end all... How do you think lesbians get by? I do get it that lesbians aren't looking for big dicks but they clearly manage to have good sex lives. I actually do wonder how many women out there are satisfied by their male partners (regardless of size.)

I don't know though- like I say- I don't really get involved with girly chatter. Maybe they are all after that but they can't ALL be like that (I wouldn't have thought.) Really think you should try looking for dating apps geared towards this. If you are desperate to find someone and this bothers you this much- I think it would be an advantage from the get go if they knew about your size.

are you asexual?

 

[Forever Sleep]

are you asexual?

Nope. I fancy men. I've had limerance (crazy obsessive crushes) on 4 guys over say maybe 15 years. I DESPERATELY wanted a partner for a long time. I think I just kind of realised it was just that though- crazy desperation. I don't think I'm cut out for healthy relationships because I'm too obsessive/clingy.

I had a very strict Victorian-like upbringing too- no sex before marriage. That has kind of turned into sex=marriage in my head. I wouldn't want casual sex. To me- it needs to mean something. Sounds corny but it's the joining of souls to me. I wouldn't do that with someone I wasn't sure loved me and I loved them. That's just me though- I don't judge people for what they want to do.

Plus, like I say- I'm not particularly feminine or attractive. I made a big effort at one point to try and impress a particular crush. Truth is though- I find SO much about expectations on women demeaning and cruel to a certain extent- heeled shoes are agony to wear, makeup irritates and it can't be good to be covering yourself in chemicals, attractive fashion- short skirts and tight fitting clothes aren't comfortable or practical. I'm just not willing to do all that shit! It doesn't appeal whatsoever. Plus- I'm not domestic. I don't want to cook and clean and iron and bring up children. I'm also SO independant now. It would feel kind of weird to suddenly have to make joint decisions on everything.

I realise that the price of that means being single but it seems the best option (for me.) I just have to use my imagination when I get lonely! Upshot of that is- in your mind- you can be with whoever you want to be with and look however you want to look. Yeah- it isn't real and it is bittersweet because of that but hey- it probably beats all that domestic hassle, heartbreak if they leave you and possibly even domestic violence- seeing as SO many relationships seem to end up like that too. Still- I'm way off-track there- sorry!

I do appreciate how painful and awkward it must be for you. I do remember how awful it was to yearn after someone you know you can't have. (Honestly- limerance is awful!)

 

[Seekingawayout]

I don't suppose there are dating apps for men with micro penis'? That way- women know what to expect- so really shouldn't be disappointed. Did a quick Google search and there do seem to be some- although- maybe not where you live.

I once heard that there is a fetish for everything, it honestly might be right up some women's alley!

 

[jessisme]

As a woman penis size matters but it is not everything. I would rather have a good man who I am attracted to and who treats me well and has something to offer me than a man who treats me poorly and happens to have a large penis. If you want to better yourself to attract women I think you should go ahead and do it. If you are concerned about doing this and getting your hopes up only to be let down later I would say that it is possible that you could run into some women for whom penis size matters a lot but you may also run into women for whom penis size matters little in comparison to what else is on offer. If you increase the quality of what is on offer this gives you the greatest chances for success across the board. It would make you feel better about yourself too.

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

As a woman penis size matters but it is not everything. I would rather have a good man who I am attracted to and who treats me well and has something to offer me than a man who treats me poorly and happens to have a large penis. If you want to better yourself to attract women I think you should go ahead and do it. If you are concerned about doing this and getting your hopes up only to be let down later I would say that it is possible that you could run into some women for whom penis size matters a lot but you may also run into women for whom penis size matters little in comparison to what else is on offer. If you increase the quality of what is on offer this gives you the greatest chances for success across the board. It would make you feel better about yourself too.

thanks for being honest and insightful. Maybe i can still attract a woman who would settle for me because of the other things i offer.

 

[MideonNViscera]

All I can really say here is that there's always someone out there who will love you for who you are. There may be less of those people for some of us, but there's always somebody.

Try to focus on what's good about yourself. There are other ways to pleasure a woman besides pounding them with a big cock, after all.

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

All I can really say here is that there's always someone out there who will love you for who you are. There may be less of those people for some of us, but there's always somebody.

Try to focus on what's good about yourself. There are other ways to pleasure a woman besides pounding them with a big cock, after all.

Nice username , The Ministry Of Darkness.

 

[MideonNViscera]

Nice username , The Ministry Of Darkness.

Hahaha It's so rare that someone actually gets the reference.

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

Hahaha It's so rare that someone actually gets the reference.

u should pop into chat, we chat about wrestling often.

 

[Zegers]

She was very understanding and said all the right words that she date me for who I am not for sex. Few days later she ghosted me.

That's just the way it is. Measures matters.

 

[Zeus35]

I'm a women and for me the smaller the better. I hate large penises. Some of us like it small. Don't worry about it x

 

[ApproachingDeath]

i was watching a podcast on Youtube with the Pornstar Nicole Aniston.
She spoke about a guy she was dating, he said he was perfect, handsome face, good job, own apartment, sweet, loving, good body.
He pushed off sex with her until she came to find out he had a micropenis just like me.
She broke it off immediately with him and said she can never date someone so small it disgusted her.

Theres also many women on Reddit and other forums says they will end things with a man right then and there if they find out a man has this problem.
I dont blame them as its so small we cant even penetrate.
Dont give me that nonsense about sex doesnt matter and relationships dont matter. im lonely and it would have been nice to have sex, love and validation.

This is a huge dealbreaker for 90% of women.
I rather be dead, whats the use of working on myself and my life. I can become perfect, rich, successful, loving etc but i will always lack the main part of a man.
Then you get bums who cheat, lie and dont even work and because their dick is big the lady stays with them.

Life is unfair i didnt ask for this , what is this life as a man. Fucking Eunuch Dickless freak, someone put me out of my misery.

Of course a porn star is going to have an ill opinion about a small sized penis, but there are many other women, outside the sex industry, who do not care about the size of their partner's penis.
Many men think having a larger one is better, but most women experience pain and discomfort if it's too large. In my opinion, size is not of great importance and does not equate to pleasure. Most women can not orgasm with penetration alone and fortunately, regardless of size, clitoral stimulation can be a skill anyone can learn! Not only that, there are other ways to penetrate a partner than with a penis— such as toys and fingers. There are also silicone expanders one can wear over their penis during the act of sex (similar to a strap, except the real penis is inserted inside the silicon penis).
I say all of this not to disregard your insecurity, but instead, to offer a different avenue to combat it. Communication and sex should go hand in hand, and you and the right sex partner for you should be willing to discuss insecurities, boundaries, likes/dislikes, and then explore ways to achieve pleasure for one another!
The best sex I have ever had did not come from a penis, but it came from a partner willing to learn my body and listen to physical and verbal cues all while using their fingers and a vibrating toy!
P.s. the sex had in porn isn't really realistic and women know this! (I hope men do too) anyone, regardless of their penis size, can have a healthy and fulfilling sex life! If size isn't your strong suit, that's okay! I suggest working with what you got (fingers, mouth), look into honing in on those skills, and don't be afraid to explore toys. After all, sex is about pleasuring you and your partner :)

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

I'm a women and for me the smaller the better. I hate large penises. Some of us like it small. Don't worry about it x

its not just small, its so small that its disgusting and cant be used for sex.

Of course a porn star is going to have an ill opinion about a small sized penis, but there are many other women, outside the sex industry, who do not care about the size of their partner's penis.
Many men think having a larger one is better, but most women experience pain and discomfort if it's too large. In my opinion, size is not of great importance and does not equate to pleasure. Most women can not orgasm with penetration alone and fortunately, regardless of size, clitoral stimulation can be a skill anyone can learn! Not only that, there are other ways to penetrate a partner than with a penis— such as toys and fingers. There are also silicone expanders one can wear over their penis during the act of sex (similar to a strap, except the real penis is inserted inside the silicon penis).
I say all of this not to disregard your insecurity, but instead, to offer a different avenue to combat it. Communication and sex should go hand in hand, and you and the right sex partner for you should be willing to discuss insecurities, boundaries, likes/dislikes, and then explore ways to achieve pleasure for one another!
The best sex I have ever had did not come from a penis, but it came from a partner willing to learn my body and listen to physical and verbal cues all while using their fingers and a vibrating toy!
P.s. the sex had in porn isn't really realistic and women know this! (I hope men do too) anyone, regardless of their penis size, can have a healthy and fulfilling sex life! If size isn't your strong suit, that's okay! I suggest working with what you got (fingers, mouth), look into honing in on those skills, and don't be afraid to explore toys. After all, sex is about pleasuring you and your partner :)

i guess i could use those as replacements but ive also had women outright tell me that they prefer the real thing.
a man should be able to give them piv.
im not a real (sexual) man.
i hate my life.

 

[Samsara]

I understand why you would feel this way, but honestly there are women out there who wouldn't care. There are lots of ways for women to be satisfied sexually besides P in V. 90% of women can't even orgasm that way anyway.

Agreed, lots of women can only cum with clitoral stimulation

 

[Ashu]

(Honestly- limerance is awful!)

Ah, but it's the awful stuff of life. I wouldn't give up those days of transcendent agony for anything.

It may be that most women can't cum just from penile sex, though I think age must be a factor: I remember the girlfriends of my early youth, who like me were so sensitive and excited that cumming was almost as easy as touching. I've always been a naturally generous lover, finding pleasure in giving with tongue and hands. I almost get off on cunnilingus. But I have been with women who _want_ to get off on penile sex alone, though they find it difficult. Perhaps they were female victims of the P in V myth that haunts and limits so many men. It certainly made it much more difficult to enjoy sex with them.

I'm very sympathetic to the original poster's suffering, into which I think I have a little insight because of my own intense dysmorphophobia over my circumcision. It hasn't limited me as much as his problem, but it gives me at least an idea.

 

[Archamais]

That really sucks my dude! I'm so sorry that this is making you feel so lonely and frustrated and I don't blame you.

Speaking from a woman's perspective and one who has encountered a few micropenises within the last year let me tell you that having a sexual partner with a micro penis did not bother me (I was in love and in a serious relationship with a guy who had an above average sized member but could not penetrate me the entire 18 months we were together and would have married that guy).

It was the attitude the guys with the micropenises had that creeped me out and made it an immediate no from me. And that was all of them acting like they didn't have a micro penis, sadly humping me a few times, finishing and confidently saying "was that good for you baby" EW! a guy that knows what he's working with (or doesn't have to work with) who takes it on and gives good deep foreplay, encourages toy use, finds other ways of making me feel attractive and special, kisses deeply and communicates. I will take that guy with a micro penis any day over the big dick wanker who humps a couple of times and assumes I finished.

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

That really sucks my dude! I'm so sorry that this is making you feel so lonely and frustrated and I don't blame you.

Speaking from a woman's perspective and one who has encountered a few micropenises within the last year let me tell you that having a sexual partner with a micro penis did not bother me (I was in love and in a serious relationship with a guy who had an above average sized member but could not penetrate me the entire 18 months we were together and would have married that guy).

It was the attitude the guys with the micropenises had that creeped me out and made it an immediate no from me. And that was all of them acting like they didn't have a micro penis, sadly humping me a few times, finishing and confidently saying "was that good for you baby" EW! a guy that knows what he's working with (or doesn't have to work with) who takes it on and gives good deep foreplay, encourages toy use, finds other ways of making me feel attractive and special, kisses deeply and communicates. I will take that guy with a micro penis any day over the big dick wanker who humps a couple of times and assumes I finished.

yes i am willing to do anything to satisfy my future prospective partners, i just hope that its enough for them and she wont end up missing the D.

 

[randy]

not sure I'd go by what a porn star says.

"This is a huge dealbreaker for 90% of women."

even if true, 10% of all women is 350,000,000 women

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

That really sucks my dude! I'm so sorry that this is making you feel so lonely and frustrated and I don't blame you.

Speaking from a woman's perspective and one who has encountered a few micropenises within the last year let me tell you that having a sexual partner with a micro penis did not bother me (I was in love and in a serious relationship with a guy who had an above average sized member but could not penetrate me the entire 18 months we were together and would have married that guy).

It was the attitude the guys with the micropenises had that creeped me out and made it an immediate no from me. And that was all of them acting like they didn't have a micro penis, sadly humping me a few times, finishing and confidently saying "was that good for you baby" EW! a guy that knows what he's working with (or doesn't have to work with) who takes it on and gives good deep foreplay, encourages toy use, finds other ways of making me feel attractive and special, kisses deeply and communicates. I will take that guy with a micro penis any day over the big dick wanker who humps a couple of times and assumes I finished.

yes i am willing to do anything to satisfy my future prospective partners, i just hope that its enough for them and she wont end up missing the D.

not sure I'd go by what a porn star says.

"This is a huge dealbreaker for 90% of women."

even if true, 10% of all women is 350,000,000 women

Knowing my luck they will all reject me too lol.

 

[Obliviate]

Hi,
Just gonna put in my two cents. Just a little background info: Now I am not perfect in any means and not trying to bee egotistic, but society deems me as "attractive" that fit into the beauty standards (excluding race). As someone who receives countless male attention (mostly unwanted) and deemed as "very desirable" in men's eyes, receives countless proposals for dating and relationships and sex I for one do NOT give a fuck about penis size. Infact I'm very lonely and all this attention just annoys the fuck outta me.

I know some women can be nasty and cruel too but I want you to know that there are women out here who genuinely want you for you. Infact I have rejected every man that has tried with me no matter how attractive they are or how large their penis is. None of those things matter if your egotistic dick is larger than your physical one.

If you wanna sleep around with women that's one thing but if you want the "love of your life soulmate type" know that "the one" is not gonna give af about your penis size so why should you?

The person you are meant to be with that is written and created for you (if you believe in that) is literally gonna accept you so don't sweat it.
It's literally something you were born with, you shouldn't be embarrassed.

The same thing goes for women's breasts, hips, butt, face etc women have to live up to countless beauty standards where they are putting themselves in danger with all these life threatening BBLs and plastic surgeries just to fit in to society and not be bullied and ridiculed for their bodies and obviously wanting attraction from men. Imagine how hard it is for women

Also from a scientific perspective on human anatomy I'm also a scientist so, here's a secret, most women like stimulation instead of penetration anyways. A big dick is useless if the male doesn't know how to utilize it correctly to give pleasure instead of discomfort/pain. Why do you think the clitoris is a huge topic women keep bringing up? There are plenty of ways to make a woman orgasm without penetration. Most males literally do not give af about women anatomy and don't respect it. They objectify women and see them as a "hole" and don't take the time to study on how to pleasure a woman especially the ones with the big penises as they get egotistic thinking it's enough when what really matters is strategy and technique not just ramming your penis inside a vagina and thinking your doing great and are a boss when it's the opposite. Most women will hide their true feelings about not orgasming or feeling discomfort. Getting to study and learn a woman's body, what she likes, doesn't, physical touches, intimacy, passion, mental/emotional connection, foreplay, how to turn ON your partner are all HUGE factors to consider, again not just aggressively ramming a dick inside and being done 10 seconds later leaving your partner unsatisfied.

Porn is literally fake and an illusion which rots out the brains of average people and causes so much miscommunication, preaches the wrong things. It should just be used for entertainment purposes and not a guide. Their literally acting.

If the most amazing perfect man dropped into my life and he had a micro penis, I wouldn't love him any less and would reassure him that it's not his fault and try my best to aid with his insecurities as he should do the same with mine. That's the thing. I am an empath and I would never judge a person by their looks. We exist, it's just hard to find because social media has literally corrupted and rotted our brains out.

I'm in no position to judge but the reasoning for wanting to CTB shouldn't be because you can't get women. A person is way more than their partner, remember you are your own individual human. So go be successful and execute all the plans you had, and that right person will fall in your life like a puzzle piece. Don't ever go chasing something. "The moment you stop trying to fit in is when stuff fits around you." one of my favorite quotes

And it sucks because we need more people like me but I'm gonna suicide soooo LMFAOOO

 

[peacetime]

It's unfair but there's still that 10% for whom it's not a deal breaker. There's also some women who don't really enjoy sex in the first place. You can find a partner, it's not over. It's just more difficult.

 

[SamTam33]

It was the attitude the guys with the micropenises had that creeped me out and made it an immediate no from me. And that was all of them acting like they didn't have a micro penis, sadly humping me a few times, finishing and confidently saying "was that good for you baby" EW! a guy that knows what he's working with (or doesn't have to work with) who takes it on and gives good deep foreplay, encourages toy use, finds other ways of making me feel attractive and special, kisses deeply and communicates. I will take that guy with a micro penis any day over the big dick wanker who humps a couple of times and assumes I finished.

I was about to type something very similar. I've only been with one guy who had what I considered a micro-penis and he failed to address it beforehand. It's definitely the kind of thing that should be talked about before sex. Him acting like nothing was out of the ordinary is what turned me off.

OP - IIRC, you said you were a good-looking guy and had no trouble meeting women based on your looks.

If so, have you considered dating less attractive women, are you willing to lower your standards, etc.?

Either way, you can devote your first time together by only pleasing her. Demo what you can do.

Focus on giving her an orgasm without penetration. Then after the ice is broken, you can bring it up.

I think men put a lot more weight into physical characteristics than women do. Size isn't completely irrelevant, but it's far from the #1 thing women care about.

For instance, I think the way you choose to communicate that you have a micro-penis is exponentially more important than the fact that you have one.

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

Hi,
Just gonna put in my two cents. Just a little background info: Now I am not perfect in any means and not trying to bee egotistic, but society deems me as "attractive" that fit into the beauty standards (excluding race). As someone who receives countless male attention (mostly unwanted) and deemed as "very desirable" in men's eyes, receives countless proposals for dating and relationships and sex I for one do NOT give a fuck about penis size. Infact I'm very lonely and all this attention just annoys the fuck outta me.

I know some women can be nasty and cruel too but I want you to know that there are women out here who genuinely want you for you. Infact I have rejected every man that has tried with me no matter how attractive they are or how large their penis is. None of those things matter if your egotistic dick is larger than your physical one.

If you wanna sleep around with women that's one thing but if you want the "love of your life soulmate type" know that "the one" is not gonna give af about your penis size so why should you?

The person you are mean to be with that is written and created for you (if you believe in that) is literally gonna accept you so don't sweat it.
It's literally something you were born with, you shouldn't be embarrassed.

The same thing goes for women's breasts, hips, butt, face etc women have to live up to countless beauty standards where they are putting themselves in danger with all these life threatening BBLs and plastic surgeries just to fit in to society and not be bullied and ridiculed for their bodies and obviously wanting attraction from men. Imagine how hard it is for women

Also from a scientific perspective on human anatomy I'm also a scientist so, here's a secret, most women like stimulation instead of penetration anyways. A big dick is useless if the male doesn't know how to utilize it correctly to give pleasure instead of discomfort/pain. Why do you think the clitoris is a huge topic women keep bringing up? There are plenty of ways to make a woman orgasm without penetration. Most males literally do not give af about women anatomy and don't respect it. They objectify women and see them as a "hole" and don't take the time to study on how to pleasure a woman especially the ones with the big penises as they get egotistic thinking it's enough when what really matters is strategy and technique not just ramming your penis inside a vagina and thinking your doing great and are a boss when it's the opposite. Most women will hide their true feelings about not orgasming or feeling discomfort.

If the most amazing perfect man dropped into my life and he had a micro penis, I wouldn't love him any less and would reassure him that it's not his fault and try my best to aid with his insecurities as he should do the same with mine. That's the thing. I am an empath and I would never judge a person by their looks. We exist, it's just hard to find because social media has literally corrupted and rotted our brains out.

I'm in no position to judge but the reasoning for wanting to CTB shouldn't be because you can't get women. A person is way more than their partner, remember you are your own indiviudal human. So go be successful and execute all the plans you had, and that right person will fall in your life like a puzzle piece. Don't ever go chasing something. "The moment you stop trying to fit in is when stuff fits around you." one of my favorite quotes

And it sucks because we need more people like me but I'm gonna suicide soooo LMFAOOO

Thanks you for giving me some hope . Yes we do indeed need more people like u . I hope to find a woman like u. I wish u give life a chance cause u clearly a good kind person.

I was about to type something very similar. I've only been with one guy who had what I considered a micro-penis and he failed to address it beforehand. It's definitely the kind of thing that should be talked about before sex. Him acting like nothing was out of the ordinary is what turned me off.

OP - IIRC, you said you were a good-looking guy and had no trouble meeting women based on your looks.

If so, have you considered dating less attractive women, are you willing to lower your standards, etc.?

Either way, you can devote your first time together by only pleasing her. Demo what you can do.

Focus on giving her an orgasm without penetration. Then after the ice is broken, you can bring it up.

I think men put a lot more weight into physical characteristics than women do. Size isn't completely irrelevant, but it's far from the #1 thing women care about.

For instance, I think the way you choose to communicate that you have a micro-penis is exponentially more important than the fact that you have one.

Thank you so much for your kind words and yes as they say communication is very important in a relationship. And yes I don't have that big standards to begin with as long as the woman is decent looking .

 

[Obliviate]

Thanks you for giving me some hope . Yes we do indeed need more people like u . I hope to find a woman like u. I wish u give life a chance cause u clearly a good kind person.

Thank you, unfortunately life has been very cruel to me in other ways no matter how kind and courteous I am and my hope of good people existing declines more and more everyday. There has to be more people like me out there. rare but hopefully they exist. I hope you find a woman like me too lol.

Honestly, you're not missing anything out in the dating scene it is NASTY out there. I stay away from all that crap. Giving yourself orgasms is the way for me. Don't need a partner at all. The one you were meant for will drop in. That's how soulmates work unless you pick a fucked up path that deters it. It all depends on you and who you are as a person.
And honestly, I stopped giving a fuck about males a long time ago. I found comfort and safety in loneliness, in fact I prefer it after seeing all the horrible humans out here.

Now I just ignore the male attention as much as I can because you get numb from it and it bores you. I'm really only interested in my soulmate at this point and maybe a really sweet kind guy who may not be a soulmate but a great sexual companion where you both consent to have fun.

If you don't find your soulmate for whatever reason, learn to love being individual and alone, it's so peaceful and powerful because you don't need anyone

AND plus if you believe in the afterlife, you will meet your soulmate there anyways. I'm excited and curious to see who mine is.

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

Thank you, unfortunately life has been very cruel to me in other ways no matter how kind and courteous I am and my hope of good people existing declines more and more everyday. There has to be more people like me out there. rare but hopefully they exist. I hope you find a woman like me too lol.

Honestly, you're not missing anything out in the dating scene it is NASTY out there. I stay away from all that crap. Giving yourself orgasms is the way for me. Don't need a partner at all. The one you were meant for will drop in. That's how soulmates work unless you pick a fucked up path that deters it. It all depends on you and who you are as a person.
And honestly, I stopped giving a fuck about males a long time ago. I found comfort and safety in loneliness, in fact I prefer it after seeing all the horrible humans out here.

Now I just ignore the male attention as much as I can because you get numb from it and it bores you. I'm really only interested in my soulmate at this point and maybe a really sweet kind guy who may not be a soulmate but a great sexual companion where you both consent to have fun.

If you don't find your soulmate for whatever reason, learn to love being individual and alone, it's so peaceful and powerful because you don't need anyone

AND plus if you believe in the afterlife, you will meet your soulmate there anyways. I'm excited and curious to see who mine is.

do you feel those guys are just into you because of your looks and that puts you off?

 

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do you feel those guys are just into you because of your looks and that puts you off?

So I have met all types of males in my life. The assholes, the sexists, the nice sweet ones, the ones who pretend to be a sweet gentleman and end up being an asshole, ones that are socially "attractive" ones that are not (I for one think everyone is beautiful) (excluding personality ofcourse cuz then that gets really ugly)

So obviously as humans we are naturally judgmental, it's human nature and a reflex for first impressions. Males have ALWAYS looked at my face and body as a first innate natural attraction which in the disgusting creepy male mind, makes very much sense. It's insane like males don't even know anything about me and just from my looks and small talk they want my number, wanna date etc all these things just because of how I look and don't think at all if I could be a horrible human/serial killer even when I'M WEARING A MASK. They do this because they have male privilege and think they are entitled so they will assault women countless of times for simply rejecting them.

Yes, males being thirsty is a HUGE turn off and disgusts me BUT surprisingly lots of males want relationships with me more than just sex because of my personality. Most of them want more (serious relationships, marriage etc) even without sex because ding ding personality is a huggee factor. I on the other hand have met only trashy males in my life so no luck and I just go around rejecting everybody regardless of their looks.

So I have met all types of males in my life. The assholes, the sexists, the nice sweet ones, the ones who pretend to be a sweet gentleman and end up being an asshole, ones that are socially "attractive" ones that are not (I for one think everyone is beautiful) (excluding personality ofcourse cuz then that gets really ugly)

So obviously as humans we are naturally judgmental, it's human nature and a reflex for first impressions. Males have ALWAYS looked at my face and body as a first innate natural attraction which in the disgusting creepy male mind, makes very much sense. It's insane like males don't even know anything about me and just from my looks and small talk they want my number, wanna date etc all these things just because of how I look and don't think at all if I could be a horrible human/serial killer even when I'M WEARING A MASK. They do this because they have male privilege and think they are entitled so they will assault women countless of times for simply rejecting them.

Yes, males being thirsty is a HUGE turn off and disgusts me BUT surprisingly lots of males want relationships with me more than just sex because of my personality. Most of them want more (serious relationships, marriage etc) even without sex because ding ding personality is a huggee factor. I on the other hand have met only trashy males in my life so no luck and I just go around rejecting everybody regardless of their looks.

Feel free to PM me if you need any insight but with only a respectful attitude and demeanor

 

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Feel free to PM me if you need any insight but with only a respectful attitude and demeanor

@HermitLonerGuy I've actually read some of your posts. comments and threads and wow we have a lot in common actually, how we view the world, even our experiences on this platform from stupid trolls here, I'm also a hermit and stay inside mostly cuz humans disgust me, nilhist, dealt with trauma/abusers etc. I totally understand where you are coming from

 

[Sakura94]

Have you tried DHT gel for it (at least 20% DHT)? You may get a couple of inches. Having seen images of ftms who use it for bottom growth... it does something.
It may be very difficult to get but if it helps save your life it may be worth it. You might have ask around but it shouldn't be impossible.