arnoldpalmer
Confused
- Jun 24, 2024
- 7
One of the main issues I've always struggled with is being a people pleaser and putting so much of myself in how I feel other people perceive me. It's caused a lot of social anxiety and frustration, especially when it's a situation where I know I shouldn't care but can't help it. And it definitely doesn't help that my default is feeling like everyone secretly hates me and finds me annoying or boring or forgettable.
I have two friends who are outwardly very comfortable in their own skins and not terribly concerned about pleasing others and I asked them once how to stop caring so much about what other people think of me. They both agreed the main thing is that you have to like yourself first, which I guess sounds obvious and is easier said than done. But it's so hard to like myself. There are certain times when I am able to see good things in me, but the majority of the time I hate myself so much. I feel so much shame and I really don't think I can ever get to a place where I am comfortable with myself.
I have two friends who are outwardly very comfortable in their own skins and not terribly concerned about pleasing others and I asked them once how to stop caring so much about what other people think of me. They both agreed the main thing is that you have to like yourself first, which I guess sounds obvious and is easier said than done. But it's so hard to like myself. There are certain times when I am able to see good things in me, but the majority of the time I hate myself so much. I feel so much shame and I really don't think I can ever get to a place where I am comfortable with myself.
