Where does this happen? Who does this? The church? Why care for what a corrupt shithole thinks about you?
If someone berates you and looks down upon you for such a small thing, then they aren't worth your time, if you want them to be worth your time, if you want to associate with people who'd treat you like this, then I don't know what to tell you.
When I was 13 I had long hair for a boy, you know what I did if people talked about it like it was the plague? (they assumed I was gay and they were religious , gay = bad) I stopped talking to them, I started to ignore them.
What can they do to me? Nothing, because they were the same as dogs behind a cage, they can bark all they want, in truth when shit hits the fans, those people become small puppies, it's not like they have some control over your life, stop thinking about shit like this.
If the people that mattered in your life started talking about you in this manner and start to belittle you for something so minor , then yes, I would start to worry somewhat, maybe reevaluate who I've been spending time with, but who cares about what an evil organization (church) thinks? Those pedos can rot in hell for all I care.
Also you shouldn't care about this because you are pressured into a relationship to prove them wrong, for your information, relationships in theory should be something you do with someone out of mutual respect and love, I can point you to 50 families who ended up together just because religion said it's the right thing to do, all these families are in absolute turmoil every single day. You can't force stuff like this.
Also I don't think any of my girl- friends who are feminists hate virgins? I think they hate actual creeps/sexists, people who when given the opportunity insult them just for the fact that they are girls , in games, in public , etc.
If those creeps happen to be virgins it doesn't mean that they hate all virgins, that's a dumb thing to say honestly. I can hate any person I want for something, if that person happens to be black and trans does that make me transphobic and racist? What does that trait about them have to do with the initial hate I have for them, I hate them because they are an asshole, plain and simple, the rest is just their own life.
And remember, there can be Jews that are Nazis, Trans people who are Muslims, Girls who are sexist, Men who are sexist. You need to view individuals as human, humans are flawed and can always and have always managed to be evil to a certain extent, no umbrella or catalogue of "tags" (I don't know how to express it) will give someone immunity from being an asshole. I know girls who want to be tradwifes and hate gay guys because the church told them so, they can go fuck themselves lol. They are girls yes, so? I judge the human, not the gender, not the race. You should start doing the same.
Don't go down some weird pipeline into hating a certain group, except the church and mega corporations that use propaganda, you can hate those fuckers all day everyday; these is just how humans are, you will find a piece of shit in every group and sometimes you will find a person worth your time, don't judge an entire group of people but be on your guard to be disappointed. I have terrible parents, yet I don't hate other people's parents , I only hate the shit ones.
So what if you are a virgin? who cares about that old 70 yo relic religious fat fuck who is a piece of shit that judges you? who cares about what some backwards middle of the nowhere person has to say about you? Live what rest of your life you have without giving a fuck about these bastards, they are dumb, they are scared of what doesn't fit the norm, try to be a good person to those who are good to you and try to be neutral to those who are evil to you, cut them off , don't feed them more hate back. Just ignore them, they hate that.
And don't go hugging the first person who feeds you what you want to hear, that person doesn't feed you this information to help you, they just want your money and attention, they wouldn't do it if there wasn't something to get out of you. Those people also don't come to these conclusions themselves, they are always taught to say them but they don't really take time to analyze what the hell they are saying, grifters exist to make more grifters, they are like the buzzlightyear meme. You know why some politicians say things so proudly? it's because they don't understand what they are saying, they are saying the things they are taught to say, they have no autonomy nor critical thinking.
I'm typing this because I'm tired to see threads like this, try to read what I said and understand that there is no grand oppression from people as equally oppressed as you, the hate that comes is from people who believe that they are superior to you and in no reality could they be your friend or family unless YOU yourself want to be an asshole and are angry that you haven't succeded yet and "are excluded from your rightful place" , see the Jews that got angry at the Nazis for killing them, then the remaining Jews went to kill Polish people; this is a thing that actually happened. Don't be like that, if people reject you for something so minor, no need to associate with them anymore.
Also if you are doing it; Stop going for the classic grifter pumped full of steroids who sells you lies and reads his thoughts from a paper, he is a hairless ape, nothing more. At least this was my theory from where you would get such views and takes. When will people learn that muscles =/ good person. We are Homo Sapiens, not Homo Habilis, we should value intelligence and critical thinking, not shitty vanity and lies, and the people who value that vanity and lies should be an auto exclusion from your friends/family list from now on because they are only doing harm to you.