What's supposed to be enjoyable as an adult?

[Ambivalent1]

As a kid and teen, I loved tv and movies. Modern movies all need to have some political message and it's a turn off. Modern tv is unimpressive as well. I've already read quite a bit. What else is there that's not overly expensive like traveling and going to restaurants every day?

Having kids and a spouse sounds awful. A relationship looks uninteresting full of petty drama and manipulation. Apparently, regular sex doesn't emulate porn sex, which is a downer.

 

[アホペンギン]

I haven't had the chance to experience life to the fullest as an adult because of my mental health. I assume adults enjoy the same things we enjoy while they are in their prime years, partying, gaming, etc. When they get older, i think they'd like to raise kids and achieve some of their life's wishes. None of these appeal to me, though. Thats why i don't see any point in living.

 

[Ambivalent1]

I haven't had the chance to experience life to the fullest as an adult because of my mental health. I assume adults enjoy the same things we enjoy while they are in their prime years, partying, gaming, etc. When they get older, i think they'd like to raise kids and achieve some of their life's wishes. None of these appeal to me, though. Thats why i don't see any point in living.

Yeah same here

 

[willitpass]

Nothing seems to bring me much joy anymore. To be honest the little boy I find is in the things I loved as a kid, or the things that I wanted to do but wasn't able to as a kid. I like to play card games and board games when I have the energy to be around other people. If I have the energy to watch a movie it's usually some animated kids movie. One time I went to a candy store and said fuck it and did the fill-a-bag with candy things because I never go to do it as a kid but always wanted to. Adult life is dull. Unfortunately because of my depression those things often are fleetingly joyful or never enjoyable to begin with.

 

[ChronicPain23]

I see nothing pleasant in life, everything is empty and boring.
I suspect I have a broken brain, mental illness has destroyed me, but I am aware that I have lost in the game called life.
I don't want anything from life anymore, I just want to fall asleep and not wake up

 

[Zegers]

The things to enjoy as human are always the same, the question is whether you have the capacity to enjoy something. I listen music and watch shows basically, maybe go out when i don't feel so anxious.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I think some sports look kind of exhilarating- kite surfing or something. I expect they're expensive though- plus- they require fitness! Some are cheaper though- walking, hiking. Someone I know is doing some sort of aerial hoop work- circus skills type stuff! Gyms do all sorts of things.

Depends what you like really. Google what's on in your area. I went to a kite festival once on the spur of the moment- doing that. That was beautiful. There are usually free museums around though. Free festivals. You might hate it- but- it's worth a try. Sometimes, it's better than just being indoors all the time.

I also used to go on coach trips quite a lot. I'm assuming you don't drive. They were good- a day by the coast, a trip around the local countryside. They don't tend to be enormously expensive.

I'd recommend asking in the 'recovery' section too though- I doubt that many people here are actively looking for fun stuff to do!

 

[Ambivalent1]

Nothing seems to bring me much joy anymore. To be honest the little boy I find is in the things I loved as a kid, or the things that I wanted to do but wasn't able to as a kid. I like to play card games and board games when I have the energy to be around other people. If I have the energy to watch a movie it's usually some animated kids movie. One time I went to a candy store and said fuck it and did the fill-a-bag with candy things because I never go to do it as a kid but always wanted to. Adult life is dull. Unfortunately because of my depression those things often are fleetingly joyful or never enjoyable to begin with.

Candy would be great but I rarely eat sugar so when I do, it tastes awful. Also I'm terrified of cavities.

I see nothing pleasant in life, everything is empty and boring.
I suspect I have a broken brain, mental illness has destroyed me, but I am aware that I have lost in the game called life.
I don't want anything from life anymore, I just want to fall asleep and not wake up

Are we not more free because we want nothing?

I think some sports look kind of exhilarating- kite surfing or something. I expect they're expensive though- plus- they require fitness! Some are cheaper though- walking, hiking. Someone I know is doing some sort of aerial hoop work- circus skills type stuff! Gyms do all sorts of things.

Depends what you like really. Google what's on in your area. I went to a kite festival once on the spur of the moment- doing that. That was beautiful. There are usually free museums around though. Free festivals. You might hate it- but- it's worth a try. Sometimes, it's better than just being indoors all the time.

I also used to go on coach trips quite a lot. I'm assuming you don't drive. They were good- a day by the coast, a trip around the local countryside. They don't tend to be enormously expensive.

I'd recommend asking in the 'recovery' section too though- I doubt that many people here are actively looking for fun stuff to do!

I drive but I'm always worried my car will mess up. Doing outdoorsy things is nerve-wracking because of PTSD.

 

[thebookofdisquiet]

I don't even know, I hate consumerism and I'm always tired so I don't enjoy sports or going out. My mom's hobby is gardening, my dad's is his motorcycle and my brother's is his guitar, but I just read, write and listen to music.

 

[_Alfarooq_]

As a kid and teen, I loved tv and movies. Modern movies all need to have some political message and it's a turn off. Modern tv is unimpressive as well. I've already read quite a bit. What else is there that's not overly expensive like traveling and going to restaurants every day?

Having kids and a spouse sounds awful. A relationship looks uninteresting full of petty drama and manipulation. Apparently, regular sex doesn't emulate porn sex, which is a downer.

As an adult, I find travelling enjoyable. I haven't on my own yet, but I will when I move out forever. If things don't work out, then its time to CTB.

 

[befree]

Being all alone in the middle of the forest.

 

[busybee]

Being asleep is nice

 

[Ambivalent1]

I don't even know, I hate consumerism and I'm always tired so I don't enjoy sports or going out. My mom's hobby is gardening, my dad's is his motorcycle and my brother's is his guitar, but I just read, write and listen to music.

What do you read?

 

[thebookofdisquiet]

What do you read?

What I recently read (last 6 months):

- House of Light by Mary Oliver
- The unabridged journals of Sylvia Plath
- The Stranger, The Fall and The Myth of Sisyphus by Camus
- On the height of despair by E.M Cioran
- Walden by Thoreau
- The case of Charles Dexter Ward by H.P. Lovecraft
- The Secret Wisdom of Nature by Peter Wohlleben (very interesting if you like nature)
- A compilation of Kafka's short stories

and books about linguistics (I adore Wittgenstein).

Now I'm reading Sartre's Nausea, "The Trouble With Being Born" by Cioran and I just bought Schopenhauer's "On The Suffering of the World".

What about you? Any recommendations?

 

[Ambivalent1]

What I recently read (last 6 months):

- House of Light by Mary Oliver
- The unabridged journals of Sylvia Plath
- The Stranger, The Fall and The Myth of Sisyphus by Camus
- On the height of despair by E.M Cioran
- Walden by Thoreau
- The case of Charles Dexter Ward by H.P. Lovecraft
- The Secret Wisdom of Nature by Peter Wohlleben (very interesting if you like nature)
- A compilation of Kafka's short stories

and books about linguistics (I adore Wittgenstein).

Now I'm reading Sartre's Nausea, "The Trouble With Being Born" by Cioran and I just bought Schopenhauer's "On The Suffering of the World".

What about you? Any recommendations?

I like the classics. I recommend
Les Miserables
Count of Monte Cristo (at least the first half. Second half is boring.)
lord of the rings
Stories of Old Greece and Rome
Death of Ivan Ilyich by Tolstoy
Frankenstein
Fahrenheit 451
The Crucible
The Picture of Dorian Gray

I can never finish the The Trial by Kafka. The story is strange and frustrating.

 

[EndJstifiesTheMeans]

True love

 

[thebookofdisquiet]

I like the classics. I recommend
Les Miserables
Count of Monte Cristo (at least the first half. Second half is boring.)
lord of the rings
Stories of Old Greece and Rome
Death of Ivan Ilyich by Tolstoy
Frankenstein
Fahrenheit 451
The Crucible
The Picture of Dorian Gray

I can never finish the The Trial by Kafka. The story is strange and frustrating.

I'm planning to read Fahrenheit 451! I have Something Wicked This Way Comes but only read a few pages and forgot about it, gotta finish it.

And I agree, Kafka's stories aren't that easy to read, they're borderline uncomfortable, I'm not a big fan but I gave them a try.

 

[Ambivalent1]

I'm planning to read Fahrenheit 451! I have Something Wicked This Way Comes but only read a few pages and forgot about it, gotta finish it.

And I agree, Kafka's stories aren't that easy to read, they're borderline uncomfortable, I'm not a big fan but I gave them a try.

Read the Death of Ivan Ilyich. It's short and relevant to everyone here. The life lesson at the end isn't relevant though. It implies the main character couldve avoided death if he had just lived better.

 

[Apathy79]

Helping people feels good to me. Eating Haagen Dazs feels good. Walking on the beach or in a beautiful place feels good. Having a good chat with a loved one feels good. Certain deep meditations feel good. Sleeping sometimes feels good. Cuddles with the cat feel good. I've still got a few things. Funnily enough most of them involve extracting myself from the laptop I spend all day on.

 

[Ambivalent1]

Helping people feels good to me. Eating Haagen Dazs feels good. Walking on the beach or in a beautiful place feels good. Having a good chat with a loved one feels good. Certain deep meditations feel good. Sleeping sometimes feels good. Cuddles with the cat feel good. I've still got a few things. Funnily enough most of them involve extracting myself from the laptop I spend all day on.

Sounds like a life-haver. The privileged will never know what I nose.

 

[thebookofdisquiet]

Read the Death of Ivan Ilyich. It's short and relevant to everyone here. The life lesson at the end isn't relevant though. It implies the main character couldve avoided death if he had just lived better.

Just bought it (thank god for kindle), thank you for sharing!

 

[carac]

I've turned into a bit of a foodie as I've got older. When I was young I just saw food as something to sustain you and cooking as a chore, I did enjoy eating junk food and sweets but I wouldn't really call it a wholesome enjoyment. As I got older I started to experiment with food, there were things lying around that needed using up and when you are short on money you need to stretch everything out. Then I just sort of discovered you can cook really delicious healthy cheap meals for yourself with a little effort and a little research. Now I just really enjoy cooking for the most part. It's great just making up some sort of cake or pudding with left over eggs or sticking a load of different stuff in a stir fry and seeing what happens and it doesn't feel like a chore at all and most, but not always :) tastes great.

 

[Sprite_Geist]

Filing taxes, making small talk and upgrading your social status are supposed to be enjoyable - and expected - as an adult (sarcasm). But for me, personally, they are all boring... and depressing.

I do enjoy playing videos games and (occasionally) drawing; but unfortunately certain people consider them immature interests beyond a certain age.

 

[Ambivalent1]

Filing taxes, making small talk and upgrading your social status are supposed to be enjoyable - and expected - as an adult (sarcasm). But for me, personally, they are all boring... and depressing.

I do enjoy playing videos games and (occasionally) drawing; but unfortunately certain people consider them immature interests beyond a certain age.

Watch anime

 

[FuneralCry]

I don't see existence as being something enjoyable in the first place, to me existing is tedious, it's a burden, it's futile and just unappealing. I see no benefit to any of this, I'm just waiting until somehow everything is forgotten about in death, existence is just an meaningless and pointless process of waiting around to die, existing just leads to more suffering.

 

[Ambivalent1]

I don't see existence as being something enjoyable in the first place, to me existing is tedious, it's a burden, it's futile and just unappealing. I see no benefit to any of this, I'm just waiting until somehow everything is forgotten about in death, existence is just an meaningless and pointless process of waiting around to die, existing just leads to more suffering.

Not true. That's improbable.

 

[Sweet Tart]

Being asleep is nice

Sleep is my favorite thing.

 

[Thanksforeverything]

As an adult, the only thing that seems kind of a plus thing might be access to disposable income, if you were born to good fortune that is, or actually have the motivation and willpower to do the tedious work for it. If you do, well then you try and use that to try out new experiences or just try and drown out the noise through some form of escapism (Drugs, sex, addiction). If you're part of the unfortunate ones, well then you've barely got access to even the drowning-out bit. I don't know the amount of years and money I've spent on seeking unhealthy escapist means just to feel normal or just sometimes feel anything at all. Sometimes it works and you reach some semblance of normalcy for a few moments, but then they all become routine and you have the dilemma of trying more dangerous things or not. Before you know it, you just want something to stop you from having to bother trying altogether or you keep on hurting the ones that for some unintelligible fucked up reason still bother with you.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Have a loving partner through life, children, grand kids later on in life, enough money to pay the bills, save for retirement, go on vacations, a career that you actually like, good faithful friends who will stick by you in times of trouble, good physical and psychological health - all enjoyable and make life worth living. Missing any, or all, of those things - not so much.

 

[Extra Expression]

Adulthood is very miserable. Only very few things give me joy these days, playing silly little games/watching anime/reading.