what's more important to you: love or money?

[Ashu]

I do not believe that such a thing as love exists, it is a delusion.

Of course love exists, it's just that people rarely know exactly what they mean by it.

 

[Ashu]

Money. Love wont solve my problems, money might not either but it'd make things a hell of a lot easier.

So does love. For many, at least. To each his own.

 

[StevieNixs]

Neither.

 

[ClownMe]

Love

 

[BlazingBob]

Money, especially in a vapid, soulless consumerist culture. Most divorces are because of money. Money matters, a lot. Not many people want to be around much less love a sick, dirt poor homeless person. I should know.

 

[maakies]

Money at this point. I have a partner. It's near impossible for me to feel anything close to what I thought was love in my early 20s again. It's tough, man. I truly just want to leave the world with something worthwhile - which will probably require money. So, money.

 

[Suicidebydeath]

Love for sure for me, it's far harder to acquire than money.

I will always have enough money for basic monetary needs but I can't say the same for love. I'm in the position though of where I always have enough money but I didn't get love growing up from family, so maybe the most important thing is what we lack? I can't imagine how I'd feel if I had got love from family, it's a totally alien concept to me and I have no clue how I'd feel then. If I had a partner (that won't ctb), then I'd still say love because it would be what I had with them and still the most important thing to me, but having love also means making money is more important since its no longer something I'd view as just what I needed for basic living, I need money for partner too then. I love people that I'd consider my kids but it's not the same.

Certainly having zero money would be depressing and I'd feel 100x worse then. If that happened to me where I didn't have enough money to live on I might feel different but it's not plausible right now.

 

[deflationary]

Interesting (and kinda sad imo) that so many people say money. I could have all the money in the world and life still wouldn't be worth living for me. I guess to stay alive in the first place you're always gonna need money, but to make life actually worth living I'd say love is much more important. It's the only thing that's ever done the trick for me at least.

Love is not real as you said.

What definition of love are people using when they say stuff like this? It sounds utterly absurd to me. Some sorta idealized, fairytale book love is not real, sure. What they call unconditional love, yeah, that's nonsense. It doesn't seem either real or desirable to me. But are you saying it's impossible to deeply care about another person? To care for their well-being and have your own well-being depend on theirs? Which is what my definition of love would be. Why in the world would that be not real?

 

[DetachedDreamer97]

I wish I had love or connectedness, but… at this point, I'm about ready to give up on that idea and just get money.

I just hope I can keep myself motivated enough to actually work for it… or… just take.

 

[8AEM]

Love, to me, is worth so much more than money. It's priceless.

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

People are just going to choose what they lack the most at the moment.

 

[UseItOrLoseIt]

Cheap whores.

 

[Marktheghost]

I NEED LOVE!!!!! I don't care about money.

 

[summers]

People are just going to choose what they lack the most at the moment.

I have a decent amount of money, and still picked money. Just from a practical perspective - I can help people more with money than love. If I had enough money, I could help someone I care for a lot get out of sex work. I could take a friend on a trip that we both would really enjoy. I care for both of these people a lot (idk - maybe love in a friend kind of way), but that's not helping anything.

 

[DunnoWhyButYeah]

Love.

 

[JinZhin]

Money all the way
What even love is?
Maybe it's just me, but I never really desired romantic love in my life.
If I had the money I could have a peace of mind, have more opportunities, do stuff, go places, meet people and someone would eventually give me hugs
Or I could just buy N as I could not afford to currently

 

[Chaestergram]

I have one of it so definitely money and well I always feel good and fulfill when I make money

 

[rex_deceptorum]

Both, but I would not trade those few people I genuinely love for all the money in the world, so I'd say my loved ones. I refuse to say "love" because that could imply that some kind of "abstract" love divorced from those specific individuals who bring that feeling out in you exists . It does not! For example, I could not care less about romantic love as late as my early twenties, because I hadnever experinced it before....then it hit me! Oh, boy did it hit me!

 

[Maaizr]

dont even have to think about this one... way too easy haha next

love doesn't exist and it sure as fuck wont feed you money = "love"

 

[mentalhealthfighter]

Love. Love is the only thing that will give my brain the chemicals it needs.

 

[RetroChaos]

I will trade all the money in the world for my darling back. No amount of money can buy vices to drown my sorrows.

So to answer you question love. I guess I have money and I'm lucky - but isn't the human condition to have what we don't?

 

[AnneRee]

I think love is more important when all is well but it can be followed by huge suffering money is very useful and needed in this life and for those who have had enough of this life it can perhaps in some cases help secure a way out

 

[ForeverLonely82]

Unpopular opinion.....
Money doesn't hurt me like love does. So I'm choosing money.

 

[lostautist]

I can live without love. I cannot live without money.

There is no longer the traditional 'village' that humanity used for millennia to survive. I could survive Homesteading. You can't survive without paying your phone bill, vehicle insurance, gas and rent.

That might sound cold, but I'm one of the most caring individuals I know. I go out of my way to help people but I'm invisible and don't make a fuss. Everyone will need a hand to get up at some point. Some people will never get that hand to help pull them up when needed. Not everyone has support and if you do take every advantage of it. There is no longer room for someone like me to survive. That might even sound bitter. It is not. Life is brutal. Not being prepared is one's own fault and I'm likely not going to get past what I'm dealing with.

 

[Messgram]

I've had this thought that love is just a farce motivated by interests and although I'm sure this is the vast majority of cases, Im starting to believe there are exceptions. There are people who love each other even when they have nothing left anymore. Maybe that's real love.
I think that as much as money can bring you physical (and mental) well being, people need someone to love and be loved or life gets too cold.

 

[stevieu]

"For small creatures such as we, the vastness is bearable only through love." - Carl Sagan

 

[S like suicide]

Love above all
love usually can bring to richness and happiness...the same thing you can't say about the money(you can have a lot of money and still feeling shitty,depressed,lonley,not loved)When you feel loved instead you feel you can do anything,love can save really

 

[motel rooms]

Cheap whores.

I swear to God I almost wrote this. You should be very worried about the state of your soul, sir.

 

[avoid_slow_death]

Definitely love. Have experienced what some call "true love" and let me tell you, there is NOTHING like it.

 

[little helpers]

if we're talking 'bout romantic love, I'm taking the wildest U turn to pick money instead. papers are not illusionary, the way relationships often are.

honestly I'm wanting a "all the heroin you can buy" situation here. but y'all can tell me how illusionary *that* is. well, I admit to it.

although nothing beats having someone who genuinely cares about you on the sole basis of human connection. a comrade. I want that. I know first hand how fucking nice that is. none of it now. sigh.