What if I’m a narcissist?

[goodoldnoname923]

I was just watching a video about NPD
And now I'm worried i might be a narcissist

"That didn't happen.
And if it did, it wasn't that bad.
And if it was, that's not a big deal.
And if it is, that's not my fault.
And if it was, I didn't mean it.
And if I did,You deserved it!"

I feel like whenever i do anything shitty there is always an explanation or a reason for why it's justified in someway or shit

"I suspect that I'm a high functioning narcissist, I'm able to put on a very friendly face, and do things for others that I know are helpful, listen well, ask leading questions, and generally get along, but I suspect it comes from a pathological need to be liked, because 1 find it difficult to like myself, and usually second guess my actions. I end up thinking I've exposed my own insecurity to others, so I overcompensate by presenting as calm and affable, which only repeats the cycle.
1 know that self love and forgiveness is the way out, but mental patterns are very hard to shake. Hopefully being at least aware of this is the first step to recovery"

And i feel i can relare with this comment too…i just dk what to believe anymore

 

[Pluto]

Everyone has some amount of narcissistic traits. I have the same pathological desire to be liked, and I'm pretty vain regarding my appearance too. But I'm certainly not a danger to anyone.

A bona fide Nperson is far, far darker. Like tormenting and punishing others just for being 'inferior,' potentially in horrific ways. Then they feel very smug because they have demonstrated their superiority and entitlement.

I had 2 of them in my family growing up, and it's pure horror movie material. Decades later, I've made 0% progress in recovering from it.

 

[goodoldnoname923]

Just some more comments i've been reading and they concern me


"If there is no therapist for the BPD, these same symptoms (emotions) are exhibited towards a bullied sibling, for example."


"my mom has BPD and NPD. it's so confusing. she has lost every single relationship she ever had through her abuse (that is the result of these mental conditions). i'm her youngest child. i'm the only one who has any hope left."


"It's hard hearing this when you have an NPD.
For most of the time you live in this narcistic shell go to psychotherapy try to be sympathized all the time, lie all the time, hope that everybody would take care of me, not taking any responsibility of myself, drop fault on everybody else. And then when you are self-concious enough and did a lot of emotional-harm to others you realize how awful person you are and then you sit with yourself with disgust."


"My personal theory has been that BPD and
ND are exactly the same thing, with one notable difference: the person with BPD still has a sense of self, as unstable as it may be, and somehow hasn't managed to hide or destroy it. Take away the sense of self of a person with BPD and you get a person with NPD. The only difference between the two is that the person with ND has perfect defense mechanisms, which the person with BPD hasn't been able to achieve (unfortunately for them, fortunately for the rest of us). This is also what distinguishes the two when it comes to being likely to seek treatment and to adhere to treatment. People with ND tend to be a lost cause when it comes to treatment, but there is always hope for a person with"

 

[Buh-bye!]

i think it's good to be a narcissist ( atl east for me, since i ain't one )

 

[Pluto]

I can certainly suggest including a mental health professional in this conversation. There is massive overlap between different conditions and we are not always well equipped to accurately assess ourselves.

 

[4everDone]

Describing the whole PD here

 

[sserafim]

I took this test and got this as my most recent result. All I can say is "oh no." I feel like I'd be a covert narc rather than an overt one though

 

[EvisceratedJester]

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Oh no. I feel like I'd be a covert narc rather than an overt one though

This random online personality tests aren't going to tell you much about whether you have NDP or not. That's something that requires a professional to diagnosis you with.

 

[cosmic-freedom]

Most narcissists won't recognize their own narcissism.Why?Because they are perfect.They are the victims.They are the saints who do everything for others(abuse,lovebomb,control,break) and yet no one appreciates them.

 

[divinemistress36]

Most narcissists won't recognize their own narcissism.Why?Because they are perfect.They are the victims.They are the saints who do everything for others(abuse,lovebomb,control,break) and yet no one appreciates them.

Perfect description of a narcissist

 

[Abyssal]

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I took this test and got this as my most recent result. All I can say is "oh no." I feel like I'd be a covert narc rather than an overt one though

Ah shit, took the same one and I guess I'm borderline and avoidant. The "well fuck." Feeling is surreal.

Wish I could make someone who knows me take it for me and see how mentally ill I look on the outside tbh.

Anyways, one thing about narcissists is that typically there are few cures for them, not because it's hard to overcome narcissism but because narcissists don't see an issue with themselves and don't seek treatment unless they are forced into it by another. I'm not bullshiting this, I learned this from my courses in psychology and I know a narcissistic in reality. He is horrible and thrives on hurting others. It's more than an excuse and he will never change. The fact that you recognize your narcissistic traits makes it pretty clear you aren't a narcissist.

 

[eian]

I'm diagnosed but got curious

 

[Neowise]

True narcissists can't become aware that they are narcissists Source: my mother. Rather would she kill her entire family than admit she overreacted during an argument.

 

[eian]

True narcissists can't become aware that they are narcissists Source: my mother. Rather would she kill her entire family than admit she overreacted during an argument.

I always thought it was just my personality until some months I got told I had narcissism so right

 

[LaughingGoat]

True narcissists can't become aware that they are narcissists Source: my mother. Rather would she kill her entire family than admit she overreacted during an argument.

In reality this is not the case of all people diagnosed with NPD. Having worked with plenty, denial and projection is common like in your mother's case. However, plenty do recognize they are narcissists and justify their traits, saying things like "you need to act like that to be successful" or claiming to be superior to others in abilities or intellect.

 

[Saturn_]

No matter what you are, remember that you are a human being who always has room for improvement, as long as you have an open mind and can recognize your flaws (and I think you very much do from your post history). Don't let these scary labels and diagnostics determine the outcome of your life, especially if you don't have a formal diagnosis and are just reading diagnostic criteria on the Internet. These vague criteria can form a cocktail with your innermost anxieties to create this belief that you are an irredeemable person -- I've hitched a ride on that hellish train of thought myself. Wishing you the best regardless of what you have the potential to be.

 

[Throwawayacc3]

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I took this test and got this as my most recent result. All I can say is "oh no." I feel like I'd be a covert narc rather than an overt one though

Be a bit careful with this stuff. Autism and narcissism isn't the same and these studies are for the masses AKA neurotypicals. Sections of it won't work for myself and you.

https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/narcissism-vs-aspergers-how-can-i-tell-the-difference-1114174/amp/

Some of the other stuff makes sense. I might give it a go and see what score I get. As long as you don't have to register or any of that nonsense.


I did a more detailed on a while ago and got INFJ-t. This is just 60 questions. The careers section has so many fields that involve animals lol. Not surprised there. I don't know how antisocial is 49%. I really don't like being around people.