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estella~

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Mar 11, 2025
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I've come to realize that the one thing that's super integrated into living is love. It causes a lot of satisfaction and fulfillment, but it can also lead to very deep valleys of despair. I know that caring comes from love (or hate, it depends), but once you care for someone and are involved in their life, the boundaries between you and them get mixed, and it's constantly crossed as a result. Whether the crossing of boundaries become hurtful or healing, becoming worthy of ending the relationship or resulting in strengthening it, love is so inherently subjective and complex that I guess I've been suffering in my life because I never understood it the way everyone else understands it as a collective in the society I perceive I live in.
 
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FoxSauce

FoxSauce

Emotionally unstable like an IKEA table
Aug 23, 2024
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Well I guess people having your back and just caring about you. It doesnt have to be a romantic relationship can be applied as parental or even platonic.

A person that actually gives a damn not trying to use you for something and adios

For me ig
 
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pthnrdnojvsc

Extreme Pain is much worse than people know
Aug 12, 2019
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Love means nothing to me
 
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soul2realm

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Oct 12, 2025
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I've come to realize that the one thing that's super integrated into living is love. It causes a lot of satisfaction and fulfillment, but it can also lead to very deep valleys of despair. I know that caring comes from love (or hate, it depends), but once you care for someone and are involved in their life, the boundaries between you and them get mixed, and it's constantly crossed as a result. Whether the crossing of boundaries become hurtful or healing, becoming worthy of ending the relationship or resulting in strengthening it, love is so inherently subjective and complex that I guess I've been suffering in my life because I never understood it the way everyone else understands it as a collective in the society I perceive I live in.
It's not you. Love is complicated!
But there is a difference between relationship and love. Relationship does not guarantee you love but love does entails you the prior.
Love is nurturing, caring and somewhat divine. In other words, it comes with a tagline, "Got your back, Jack!"
Life on the other hand does not care about promising us love. It's more as a continuous struggle. If we are lucky, we get to experience glimpses of love, maybe from our parents, friend, siblings or if you are really luck then even from your special someone.
Yes, relationship does require a lot of effort. But everything including relationships are part of the curriculum, life throws at us.
So don't worry, take it with a pinch of salt. We will graduate one day.
Take care and loads of love to you.
 
Pale_Rider

Pale_Rider

Enlightened
Apr 21, 2025
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It's bullshit like everything else.
Sorry. My heart is super hard for that crap now. The romantic type anyways.
 
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Persona3

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Nov 17, 2025
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Let me tell you a secret.. it's oftentimes one of the world's sweetest and bitterest illusions. I've seen many relationships fail because one person's ,,needs,, could no longer be met. But it can also be real, and when it is, it's like fog.
People who are naive will only come to realize this wisdom as they grow older, or when the people within a relationship change. And no, I'm not old. I just observe a lot.

People cling to this illusion because it's a fundamental part of human nature
 
torturedmind

torturedmind

What the hell am I doing here?
Nov 5, 2023
37
I think from my experience..love is when someone puts up with your shit because they can't imagine their life without you in it. Even if you make them sad or angry sometimes, they don't abandon you because no matter what, you mean so much to them that they will be there for you unconditionally.
 
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fromange

feel free to reach out
Oct 29, 2025
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I think from my experience..love is when someone puts up with your shit because they can't imagine their life without you in it. Even if you make them sad or angry sometimes, they don't abandon you because no matter what, you mean so much to them that they will be there for you unconditionally.
I agree with this. And there are words like unconditional love, but I think it's a redundant phrase. You can call the conditional ones care or attention or affection, etc. Also, unconditional doesn't mean forever; everything always ends, eventually. Parents are supposed to have true unconditional love with no limits. They're the only ones that owe anything to you in this world. But that's not possible. How shitty and unlovable the unborn child may be, you don't know yet. So you better be confident in your holiness when you're rolling a dice.
 
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