Venting Venting online - I hate it a lot of the time.

[maplefig]

I like it sometimes but most of the time, I vehemently dislike it. Occasionally you come across the kinds of people that simply offer their condolences. But one thing that I despise is when people - who have absolutely zero understanding of my life - actively dismiss everything. To be clear, I don't want nor expect people to mindlessly affirm my feelings. But this is beyond ridiculous. You're not depressed. You have people that love you! You have people that will miss you. You're not ugly. You're beautiful. You're very intelligent. You have a lot to offer. Should I take the unfounded platitudes of those that don't know me as total truth over the reality of my life? I'm being ridiculous taking the words of strangers so seriously and I hate myself for being so sensitive. I don't have the kind of outlet to vent in real life. The internet is really my only safe space.

Honestly, at this stage in my life, these kinds of comments make me feel even more suicidal. Can anybody else relate?

 

[Rynalia]

Preach.

That's why I also don't like venting online much either.

People don't have a clue but act like they do to tickle their ego.

Using stock phrases thinking it should be fine because it's safe and usually a one size fit all instead of actually listening, and maybe perhaps asking relevant questions to get a better understanding.

But again that's assuming too much of people anyways so I just turn off my brain and let all the shallow talk slide on by.

 

[bankai]

Should I take the unfounded platitudes of those that don't know me as total truth over the reality of my life? I'm being ridiculous taking the words of strangers so seriously and I hate myself for being so sensitive. I don't have the kind of outlet to vent in real life. The internet is really my only safe space.

But also this is all they can do.

Look at it in a different way. On this site at least, everyone is suffering. So they can empathize with you. At least. A lot of other people cannot. So at least there is honesty in that empathy and understanding, even if the words may not themselves make total sense to you or feel appropriate.

 

[maplefig]

But again that's assuming too much of people anyways so I just turn off my brain and let all the shallow talk slide on by.

I need to let go like this. Your comment on stock phrases is so true. It feels like some type of segue for invisible brownie points; thanks, I'm cured.

But also this is all they can do.

I know. I expect it now. I don't know why I didn't before.

On this site at least, everyone is suffering. So they can empathize with you.

That's my solace at least. That there's far less judgement and gaslighting here.