Discussion Thoughts on suicide notes/letters?

[nepeta]

What are people here's thoughts on writing/sending out suicide notes or letters? Any reason they'd actually be worth writing? Any reason they'd be harmful to yourself or others? Who would you send them to? Generally just looking for others opinions on notes and letters.

 

[listless]

obviously, the person who is leaving has the final choice, i dont think anyones obligated to leave a letter or explain anything if they dont want to. on a personal level, i would want to leave one at the very least to let whoever found me know i wasnt murdered to not waste police resources. its also very important to me that when i do it, i want to be as sure as i can that anyone remaining in my life that i love needs to know it wasnt their fault and nothing they wouldve done couldve prevented me from doing it. i feel like depending on the headspace im in i might also leave a section for people who i DO want to feel guilty, like my abusers and such. i guess to sum it up for me its about having some semblance of control over my death, i can let out everything i held in for so long and try my best to bring some kind of peace or logic to the people i love concerning my final choice.

 

[missingpeace]

It's good to at least write that it was 100% your decision to go and noone could've said or done anything to change your mind. It will be abit of relief for your family.

 

[Lavander 230]

Don't take suicide notes seriously. You'll only be remembered at most for 100 years, but you'll stay dead not for millions, trillions, but for infinite amount of time. If I was to write a suicide note, I'd make a knock-knock joke tbh. At least it'll be original and no one will expect it during this time.

 

[HopelessAngel]

I didn't write one on my first attempt. I haven't decided whether I want to write one when I try again.

There are only a few people in my life who I'd even consider writing to, and... those relationships are so deep, I'm not sure words could ever suffice.

 

[FuneralCry]

I would personally see it as being beneficial to write a note if one has people that they are leaving behind as it could mean that the people are less likely to be left with unanswered questions and it could act as a form of closure. I see it as being better than leaving nothing at all. But it's a personal decision whether to write one or not.

 

[Babumax]

I will write one to the first responders very short. And one to my friend who will take care and find homes for my cats. I am alone peoples lives will go on.

 

[cogmachine]

no matter how long or short, i don't think they'll manage to describe the feelings accurately, nor convince people they couldn't have done anything differently to prevent this. depends on what you're writing it for, of course, but i'm not certain of the reception, and anymore words or explanations might hurt too much to people.

 

[stoopid]

I'll do definitely one, because there are 2 people that dispose me, but my unstable ass still likes them and just want to know that I liked them a lot, nothing more.

 

[jodes2]

I'd just talk to people in person and skip writing notes

 

[TheTranstarEngineer]

I'll need a few of them, just reassuring people that I made the choice I felt was best, and that it wasn't their faults.

 

[MediaPoisened]

I'll probably write something about how I hated everybody and every moment. When I didn't want eyeballs to see me so I hid in my paid apartment's stairwell for weeks. Just the important stuff so nobody misrepresents my life or motives.

 

[bunnii]

I have a double sided letter written for my mother explaining that what I do/did is ultimately my choice and that there was nothing more she could have done to stop me. I'm not leaving letters for anyone else though, nor a general note that I'll leave in my pocket or whatever. I don't think I owe anyone else but her an explanation tbh.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Experience says something, even if it can't possibly be adequate, is better than nothing.

 

[anxious_depressive]

Well, I wrote a little instruction on what to do with my stuff, etc.

And as for the note, perhaps I will write a couple of lines to the closest people.

 

[suicidoll]

I think they're a good idea. I don't know if I'll actually end up writing one, but I think I'd like to. It'd give me some sort of closure.

 

[m1v]

Personally, writing a suicide letter would make me feel complete, like my life's being concluded and I'm well aware of it (conscious). It'll also be the only time I'll write with honesty about how I'm feeling, feels great.

 

[JuliaOnTheNet]

I am gonna start writing the note soon. I'll make an online one for everyone I interacted with and leave some love behind and also quickly explaining that I was set on ctb'ing and that no one should feel guilty as it was my decision and such.

And one for my family to apologise, explain they should please accept the money I left them in cash and some explanations about my situation, where I have still debt to repay, what they can take that's worth money if they want to, and leave my mom my crypto seedphrase with the instruction to give to my bf in 6-12 months so he doesn't immediately waste it all on drugs when mourning.

I will also include a section for everyone I forgot

 

[Mr. Incapable]

I've written and trashed so many after my failed attempts. Some long, pages worth, others short. I don't have the patience to write something long and meaningful next time. I'll simply just say sorry and I'm ready to pass on

 

[endofsirens]

i think they could be kinda harmful, someone i know successfully CTB about 2 years ago and they left notes for a few people family close friends. But in some of their letters they kind of implied like. Blame. That it was X's fault partially because of a thing they did etc. I get being angry at the world and things people do but the reasons they listed in particular in peoples notes were pretty minor things and i think its kinda wrong to finally get what you want, ctb, and leave a ton of other people feeling partially responsible for it. rather than it being your own decision entirely.

ill probably leave one. for the opposite reasons though, to let people know that its not their fault. and it was just the inevitable for me. and that i loved or cared about them very much

 

[JJMaynard97]

What are people here's thoughts on writing/sending out suicide notes or letters? Any reason they'd actually be worth writing? Any reason they'd be harmful to yourself or others? Who would you send them to? Generally just looking for others opinions on notes and letters.

If that's what the final outcome comes to, then I guess it will give some clarity to the ones you care for or love. Could be seen as a way of saying final Goodbyes.

 

[Ocean_01]

What are people here's thoughts on writing/sending out suicide notes or letters? Any reason they'd actually be worth writing? Any reason they'd be harmful to yourself or others? Who would you send them to? Generally just looking for others opinions on notes and letters.

One time i was fully ready to attempt but when i read my letter i thought it was so bad I canceled out on it completely. Don't really wanna be reminded by a single piece of paper, especially because i hate my own writing.

 

[animetal]

there's a part of me that wants to but another part of me that just wants to spend time with people I care for one last time before Leaving