SmollMushroom
send N pls
- Sep 27, 2023
- 405
Okay so I kinda expected that.
First of all some context: Post 1 - Post 2
We recently had a discussion during our appointment, where I confronted him about what I was complaining about in Post 1 and Post 2. It didn't go well.
He stood on his positions, still considering my messages trivial and still complaining about the couple of messages I sent him in night time (this happened only once in about 2 months).
At some point I just wanted to move on from the subject since there was no way to change their mind, I didn't see him for quite a bit and I wanted to talk about some stuff happened to me recently but I looked at the clock and we were already halfway through the session. So I said: "I would have liked to talk about X stuff, but we are already halfway through and you are the only one talking..."
Man he got pissed. He didn't even make me finish, he said: "Okay we are done".
But I didn't want to (reasons in previous posts), but from that point on he was very distant - just answering anything I said with a bland "okay".
So I called 'em out on that again, saying that it looked to me like he already took a decision. And I also told him that he was quite thin-skinned, if he got offended for such a little thing.
Then things kept going downhill...
I asked him if he ever even helped anyone and that I would have liked to have a chat with them...
He told me: Now I'll make you mad, but truth is that you stay all day sitting in your house doing nothing [...] (I have hikikomori syndrome and I'm a recluse).
I told him I am the patient and I should be able to vent if I want to. He disagreed on that too.
He said that if that was what I was looking for I should have searched somewhere else.
So now he wants me to change therapist.
He said that I cannot expect a therapist to change their ways to please me (I think that's a valid point), but still they could make a little effort to make things work, right?
Instead, it looks to me like he doesn't give a fuck about me and he has no empathy.
So I told him that too... He said I should stay away from therapists that show compassion/empathy because they only take your money without trying to solve any issue.
And I asked him: "Then what did YOU do to help me?" But his reply was vague and incoherent.
Also he speaks all fancy to sound important, and I called them out on that too... So I was often interrupting him saying: "Define: X, define: N", because I wasn't understanding half of what he was saying.
So in the end he said: "Well you speak English (I used some English terms to name some of my issues - English not my main language), so why is that a problem if I speak like this?"
Dude he is so passive-aggressive. Fucking stubborn passive-aggressive old fart. Jesus.
So in the end I wasted the whole session arguing with a stubborn old man. I hate that old men are all so fucking stubborn.
I sent them a long message afterwards, repeating myself on the fact that I feel he is completely detached from my case, also quoting some of his speech as proof.
He just answered me that if that is how I feel, then I should change therapist -.-"
It bothers me soo much that he is clearly not even trying but he doesn't admit it, and he is putting it in a way where he's trying to make me feel like I'm the one quitting. It pisses me off so fucking much.
If he has a problem with me (which is clear at this point), at least SAY IT. Have the balls to admit it. Say you weren't good enough. But he won't because of his huge EGO.
Also I can't really drop him, if I do, my family wants to put me in a mental health facility and that shit scares me.
Worst part, the therapist knows it.
What do I do? How do I reconciliate with this stubborn, passive-aggressive, egocentric old fart? Any ideas? Please. Open to other suggestions too. I really can't deal with people.
First of all some context: Post 1 - Post 2
We recently had a discussion during our appointment, where I confronted him about what I was complaining about in Post 1 and Post 2. It didn't go well.
He stood on his positions, still considering my messages trivial and still complaining about the couple of messages I sent him in night time (this happened only once in about 2 months).
At some point I just wanted to move on from the subject since there was no way to change their mind, I didn't see him for quite a bit and I wanted to talk about some stuff happened to me recently but I looked at the clock and we were already halfway through the session. So I said: "I would have liked to talk about X stuff, but we are already halfway through and you are the only one talking..."
Man he got pissed. He didn't even make me finish, he said: "Okay we are done".
But I didn't want to (reasons in previous posts), but from that point on he was very distant - just answering anything I said with a bland "okay".
So I called 'em out on that again, saying that it looked to me like he already took a decision. And I also told him that he was quite thin-skinned, if he got offended for such a little thing.
Then things kept going downhill...
I asked him if he ever even helped anyone and that I would have liked to have a chat with them...
He told me: Now I'll make you mad, but truth is that you stay all day sitting in your house doing nothing [...] (I have hikikomori syndrome and I'm a recluse).
I told him I am the patient and I should be able to vent if I want to. He disagreed on that too.
He said that if that was what I was looking for I should have searched somewhere else.
So now he wants me to change therapist.
He said that I cannot expect a therapist to change their ways to please me (I think that's a valid point), but still they could make a little effort to make things work, right?
Instead, it looks to me like he doesn't give a fuck about me and he has no empathy.
So I told him that too... He said I should stay away from therapists that show compassion/empathy because they only take your money without trying to solve any issue.
And I asked him: "Then what did YOU do to help me?" But his reply was vague and incoherent.
Also he speaks all fancy to sound important, and I called them out on that too... So I was often interrupting him saying: "Define: X, define: N", because I wasn't understanding half of what he was saying.
So in the end he said: "Well you speak English (I used some English terms to name some of my issues - English not my main language), so why is that a problem if I speak like this?"
Dude he is so passive-aggressive. Fucking stubborn passive-aggressive old fart. Jesus.
So in the end I wasted the whole session arguing with a stubborn old man. I hate that old men are all so fucking stubborn.
I sent them a long message afterwards, repeating myself on the fact that I feel he is completely detached from my case, also quoting some of his speech as proof.
He just answered me that if that is how I feel, then I should change therapist -.-"
It bothers me soo much that he is clearly not even trying but he doesn't admit it, and he is putting it in a way where he's trying to make me feel like I'm the one quitting. It pisses me off so fucking much.
If he has a problem with me (which is clear at this point), at least SAY IT. Have the balls to admit it. Say you weren't good enough. But he won't because of his huge EGO.
Also I can't really drop him, if I do, my family wants to put me in a mental health facility and that shit scares me.
Worst part, the therapist knows it.
What do I do? How do I reconciliate with this stubborn, passive-aggressive, egocentric old fart? Any ideas? Please. Open to other suggestions too. I really can't deal with people.
