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Singapope
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- Sep 3, 2020
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I see a lot of parents in this forum and it honestly makes me uncomfortable.
I think it's justified to CTB even if it hurts your other loved ones, because you are not responsible for them or their feelings. You don't owe to your parents, your friends or even your spouse, they all have made conscious decisions to become a part of your life with all that it entails.
But if you have kids and want to kill yourself, I think that's simply not ethical. As if it wasn't enough to have brought them into a world where suffering is so commonplace, now you want to scar them forever by committing suicide. They had no say in this matter, you brought them here out of your own volition and you're 100% responsible for what happens to them.
And I don't care about the counterargument that having a depressed parent is worse than no parent at all. People should think about this before deciding to have children. The only correct course of action in this case is to learn to fake it and endure the rest of your life while trying to minimize the damage.
What are your thoughts?
EDIT: after some discussion I have partially changed my mind about what I said. I think there might be different courses of action other than "faking it", like the one suggested by Lost in a Dream here. It is possible that for some of you CTB might be the least harmful solution, given that you provide some means for your kids to cope.
However the crux of the issue is that people should think about having children in the first place. Is it so unreasonable to ask that everyone make a serious commitment to life before having a child? I know issues can arise later, but all the reasonably foreseeable risks should be tallied up when making such a grave decision.
I think it's justified to CTB even if it hurts your other loved ones, because you are not responsible for them or their feelings. You don't owe to your parents, your friends or even your spouse, they all have made conscious decisions to become a part of your life with all that it entails.
But if you have kids and want to kill yourself, I think that's simply not ethical. As if it wasn't enough to have brought them into a world where suffering is so commonplace, now you want to scar them forever by committing suicide. They had no say in this matter, you brought them here out of your own volition and you're 100% responsible for what happens to them.
And I don't care about the counterargument that having a depressed parent is worse than no parent at all. People should think about this before deciding to have children. The only correct course of action in this case is to learn to fake it and endure the rest of your life while trying to minimize the damage.
What are your thoughts?
EDIT: after some discussion I have partially changed my mind about what I said. I think there might be different courses of action other than "faking it", like the one suggested by Lost in a Dream here. It is possible that for some of you CTB might be the least harmful solution, given that you provide some means for your kids to cope.
However the crux of the issue is that people should think about having children in the first place. Is it so unreasonable to ask that everyone make a serious commitment to life before having a child? I know issues can arise later, but all the reasonably foreseeable risks should be tallied up when making such a grave decision.
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