Gustav Hartmann
Enlightened
- Aug 28, 2021
- 1,151
Everybody wants a sustainable solution for his problems.
Tell them that you are not the cause of ciswomens problems. That you are not really in any good postion to understand their problems. Nor are you given that chance, often by the same people that demand that understanding from you in the first place.
But it would be wrong for feminists to assume that transwomen have never thought about how a life as a woman must be like...
But in the end, nobody dont really know how its like to be other people, but themselves.
Temporary problem? I've been feeling like this for more than 4 years and still. I don't see the temporary thing.
I've had depression and anxiety since I was a kid. I'm about to end my "temporary" problem.
bitcrushing
Member
- Sep 24, 2021
- 50
my sympathy goes out to you as someone who also struggles with gender dysphoria, being forced to repress and even worse knowing that you'd never pass if you were to transition is utterly soul crushing. it feels like people don't understand that in some cases even HRT and surgeries wouldn't alleviate the incongruence between mind and body, not to mention the socialization aspect of being visibly trans and what it entails. it really is a permanent problem 
Euthanza
Self Righteous Suicide
- Jun 9, 2022
- 1,446
Whenever I hear that saying it makes me want to die more because:
1. It's super invalidating. Implying that the suffering someone is experiencing means less because you perceive it to be temporary is so messed up. Can you imagine someone saying that about a broken bone or something?
2. Permanent solutions are also great. If the permanent solution was drinking x amount of water then they'd be all for it. The fact that dying not only stops all this, but does so forever is a huge motivator.
3. Implying they understand the length and severity of what you're experiencing better than you do is insulting.
1. It's super invalidating. Implying that the suffering someone is experiencing means less because you perceive it to be temporary is so messed up. Can you imagine someone saying that about a broken bone or something?
2. Permanent solutions are also great. If the permanent solution was drinking x amount of water then they'd be all for it. The fact that dying not only stops all this, but does so forever is a huge motivator.
3. Implying they understand the length and severity of what you're experiencing better than you do is insulting.
theboy
Illuminated
- Jul 15, 2022
- 3,294
Perhaps my opinion does not agree with the comments of this forum. Some problems that lead to depression have a solution. Others do not have a cure but there are treatments that try to help the patient to deal with that problem. For ex, a terminal illness or sexually transmitted disease. Now, the problems are not bigger or smaller than the others. They are different. That phrase has a certain truth and a certain lie.
Jrmull1993
Warlock
- Jul 13, 2022
- 753
I agree with you completely. The way I see depression, there are two major classifications; Situational Depression and Clinical Depression.
It's laughable (and offensive) that people think anyone encounters a problem and thinks "I know, I'll kill myself"...you have to be really in a bad place to consider suicide, where is the empathy? I mean if you're still a teenager and you hate your school and you have no friends, then yeh that is likely temporary. Or if you lost all your money on the stock market or gambled your life savings, and you don't wanna die but you don't see any other way out then I'd say that situation is temporary, money and things can be replaced. But that useless platitude "permanent solution to a temporary problem" doesn't apply to all or even most situations as to why people wanna CTB but it's become a thing the pro-lifers always trot out, as well as "suicide is selfish" or "it's a mental illness". All those things contradict each other as well which shows how clueless the pro-lifers are.
