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TooLate2582
Experienced
- May 6, 2018
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Tried it, didn't work. Trad on the surface.
i get it. Lots of those types. All dudes want to do is boogaloo and be trad. No one is willing to do the work or commit.
Tried it, didn't work. Trad on the surface.
One of the cats is obese I am guessing :)1/2 a cat?
Yes, I feed a stray. It is not mine. As in, if I moved, I could not take him with me. So I call him my half-cat.1/2 a cat?
What I meant was that since life is so miserable for you, why do you want to create a new person that then may has be so miserable to consider killing themselves?This probably isn't what you want to hear but don't you think you being on a suicide forum is a good reason not to procreate? You seem to have been burdened with a fair share of misery so why hand it on to another, innocent person?
Well, I've not said I'm going to actively go out,make a family and then ctb. No, never said that. Its that I cant do that that makes me want to go. I'm so fed up being the only single one for years,being told to think positively. I'm allowed to ctb.
My Mum had me at 38 and my Granny used to call her a spinster.I'm a single and childless 35 year old woman who wanted to have a family. I've given up hoping and have been struggling to deal with a breakup a year ago. I'm not optimistic about the future but I can see a way out. I get so much shit for having wanted a family because its against feminism and bla bla bla. I'm afraid the time is over for me to have that now.
Anyone else given up?
I feel you. I am 28 and all I ever wanted is my own family. My safe space... but this will never happen. Even the only person who ever promised me that, left me...I'm a single and childless 35 year old woman who wanted to have a family. I've given up hoping and have been struggling to deal with a breakup a year ago. I'm not optimistic about the future but I can see a way out. I get so much shit for having wanted a family because its against feminism and bla bla bla. I'm afraid the time is over for me to have that now.
Anyone else given up?
This is an old post but yea I became a spinster because abortion was available. Otherwise I would have had kids. I didn't want to abort but I had serious issues and was afraid to bring kids into a low quality life. I had complex ptsd or borderline personality disorder undiagnosed and didn't realize it until it was late in my life. I was ruining relationships and chaotic. I was afraid to have children and potentially be a substandard parent like how I was raised.I'm a single and childless 35 year old woman who wanted to have a family. I've given up hoping and have been struggling to deal with a breakup a year ago. I'm not optimistic about the future but I can see a way out. I get so much shit for having wanted a family because its against feminism and bla bla bla. I'm afraid the time is over for me to have that now.
Anyone else given up?
Boy do I relate with this we have had the same experience it seems. It really hurts a lot. I feel like I missed out on life in many ways. A fullfilling life.I'm so fed up of hearing that its not ok to want that. I was single for a long time, went travelling alone, had an active social life, worked hard, then after many years finally meet someone who was too good to be true so now I dont trust my instincts. Now I work a lot less, stay in bed, dont do anything, dont like going out. I see so many couples together where one partner is cheating or one needed to get married to someone for the money or whatever and it's just not fair that I'm alone. Yes logically I know those relationships are shit but they wont die alone. They come home and someone is there. I'm so fed up of being alone. I wake up every day and wonder if this is it and I dont want the future to come. I'm so fed up of hearing that it's wrong to want a partner. Then my brain is wrong! I have borderline personality disorder which doesnt help and taking anti depressants. Cant afford therapy anymore because I dont work full time anymore. Was looking for a new job but failed interviews. U know when you just dont understand why you cant have a happily ever after? I feel like I'm a spectator to everyone else's happiness. I'm so fed up and want out. I dont get the point of it all. It's all been for nothing.
As a 37 year old who did the marriage and kid young thing. Regret it so much. 35 is young. Go live your life, travel and find happiness. If you are thinking about ctb then a kid and partner are not going to make you happyI'm a single and childless 35 year old woman who wanted to have a family. I've given up hoping and have been struggling to deal with a breakup a year ago. I'm not optimistic about the future but I can see a way out. I get so much shit for having wanted a family because its against feminism and bla bla bla. I'm afraid the time is over for me to have that now.
Anyone else given up?