Venting So tired of trying to date and meet new people

[Heavenbound]

After such a long period of not receiving any interest on dating or 'hookup' sites, and the few people that did contact me rejected me after seeing my photo, I have deleted all these apps. For a few days, I felt a sense of newfound freedom, like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. Now, I'm still craving a relationship and the hopeless feelings are coming back again and suicidal thoughts are creeping up. Is this just self pity? I've joined several Meetup groups to at the least try to make friends, but the social events seem to be few and far between. Not to mention I have to drive an hour to get to the majority of the meetings. But I suppose it's worth it. I've been a hermit for so long, I guess I don't really know how to make friends. I'm already middle aged. I really want a relationship so badly, but realistically I realize that I have so many odds stacked against me, it's not a promising outlook. I guess some people are meant to be single. I try to learn how to be happy about it, but it just doesn't work for me. I think there are a lot of people that feel suicidal because they are single, maybe I'm wrong. I'm just so exhausted from trying, and I really have tried putting myself out there, putting on a smile and showing my best side. I don't know what to do. If I had the money, I'd hire a dating coach and an image consultant. I have shelves full of self help books, and I've tried to implement what I've learned from them, to no avail. I'm just unlucky. Some people just aren't meant for this world, and I'm one of them.

 

[Georg]

It seems like we are in the same situation. But I have given up on "trying". Most people with friends and a sexual relationship never really tried let alone bought a book about how to improve. And pls don't waste your money on a dating Coach! They want your money and that's it.

I recommend you to give up on finding love but you shouldn't give up on finding friends, even if it's only online. Basically I have one friend left and he is an Incel like me, that works decently enough.

Best!