Help should i leave my online friends?

[Death is my goal]

I've known them for about 2 years, we have a group chat and lately it hasn't been active. it really makes me sad and i don't feel we're as close as we used to be. should i just leave? I've always been contemplating doing so, i don't know why. I'm suicidal so maybe leaving early wouldn't be a bad idea?

 

[Asphyxiater]

I've known them for about 2 years, we have a group chat and lately it hasn't been active. it really makes me sad and i don't feel we're as close as we used to be. should i just leave? I've always been contemplating doing so, i don't know why. I'm suicidal so maybe lea

If it isn't a big deal to you, then I don't see why not. I had that experience before but I knew them irl because we were classmates, I was the founder lol. But I distanced myself I away from them... and 5 years later here I am on a suicide forum.

 

[MizzShadows]

I worry about making people worse, like a sickness bleeding off me.

 

[ChubbyBunny]

No, you shouldn't leave. You should communicate how you feel with your online friends and try to repair the bond y'all had. Of course if that doesn't work, it's ok to let go of friends, but don't do it without a goodbye (and a reason).

 

[etherealgoddess]

No, you shouldn't leave. You should communicate how you feel with your online friends and try to repair the bond y'all had. Of course if that doesn't work, it's ok to let go of friends, but don't do it without a goodbye (and a reason).

I agree with this.

 

[Viranamari]

You should try to bond with them again but if that still does not work, you should at least say goodbye and then leave. Since you have been friends for two years, it's not nice to leave without saying anything.

 

[CantWait2D1E]

Friends come and go from our lives all the time. Most relationships are fleeting. As time goes on people’s interests will change and their ability to commit time to you will dwindle.

It sounds like you had some good times in the past that are no longer happening. It’s hard not to cling onto those moments. The past is often a difficult thing to let go of.

I’d recommend at least trying to rekindle what you had before cutting ties. My suicidal tendencies have caused me to fracture many good relationships, some of which really helped me, so yes I do think leaving early might be a bad idea. But only you can decide what’s worth it to you or not.

 

[Death is my goal]

No, you shouldn't leave. You should communicate how you feel with your online friends and try to repair the bond y'all had. Of course if that doesn't work, it's ok to let go of friends, but don't do it without a goodbye (and a reason).

sorry for the late reply... there's nothing to repair, we just don't talk as much that's all. and the more I'm getting depressed the more I feel I had to leave them

 

[Grav]

If you feel there's no relationship there a goodbye post and "hit me up if you want to" would be my choice. I can't really relate to online friends since the ones I talk to online are people I know and see in real life.

 

[Seven Threads Twine]

I agree with the people who are saying you should try to rekindle things if you can, or at least extend a goodbye of some sort if you can't.

Moreover, I'd like to go a little further than that. Even if things don't work out with your friend group there, try to make sure you still have at least someone in your life you can talk to and be open with. We're social creatures, we need people. And this holds true even if you're suicidal. Being isolated just leads to more suffering.

Honestly, I'd try to build some online relationships with the people here, in this community, especially if you'd want friends you could be open about your feelings and struggles to.

 

[Mimi_]

At least explain to them why you are leaving and how you feel about it

 

[HerculePoirot]

Without knowing your particular situation, I'd say yes, leave them silently as from the time you  know you will die soon. Except, of course, your online friends on this forum, who are fully aware of your suicidality.

 

[pharma]

I had a similar situation with my online friend of 6 years. I don't talk to them anymore, i tried talking to them again but it just hurt. If you can't slavage it, then leave. When my friendship was ending I tried saving it, but it just made it hurt more. Tell them how you're feeling, first. Don't just ghost them.

 

[coolintheshade]

At least explain to them why you are leaving and how you feel about it

I concur with this suggestion OP. You might be surprised to even find out there are some people who feel the same with you, and now feel relived that they're not the only ones.

 

[Death is my goal]

I agree with the people who are saying you should try to rekindle things if you can, or at least extend a goodbye of some sort if you can't.

Moreover, I'd like to go a little further than that. Even if things don't work out with your friend group there, try to make sure you still have at least someone in your life you can talk to and be open with. We're social creatures, we need people. And this holds true even if you're suicidal. Being isolated just leads to more suffering.

Honestly, I'd try to build some online relationships with the people here, in this community, especially if you'd want friends you could be open about your feelings and struggles to.

i don't really have anyone i can open with, i used to open up with one of my online friends but not anymore. don't feel comfortable about it

At least explain to them why you are leaving and how you feel about it

I'm not entirely sure the reason why i want to leave, whenever i get depressed i feel the need to leave them. idk if i should talk them about this

 

[cogmachine]

i don't really have anyone i can open with, i used to open up with one of my online friends but not anymore. don't feel comfortable about it

I'm not entirely sure the reason why i want to leave, whenever i get depressed i feel the need to leave them. idk if i should talk them about this

it's not uncommon to want to isolate from your group when you feel like this. but i would highly advise to not be reckless. at least try salvaging it, or if nothing else for some closure.

 

[hata_no_ruru]

I usually leave, but also leave them a way to contact me.

If they care, they'd message me first and check on me. saves me the effort of having to start the conversation and makes opening up a lot easier.

if they don't care, as was most of the time for me, you won't receive a message at all and i would remove them from any contact them within a couple days.

 

[Death is my goal]

i left, hope i didn't make the wrong decision. it was really difficult

 

[Ki_Nam]

Try not to leave them. If mine would have me back, I would want to go back but I can't stand the sight of myself with them anymore. You still have a choice. It's my fault, I messed it up for myself haha

Don't expect them to contact you first though. That's not how the world works.