FieldsofLavender

FieldsofLavender

how real is joy, anyway?...
Feb 7, 2023
123
I've been told my self esteem couldn't be worse. I don't really disagree, my friend keeps pointing out things I do and showing more and more, but... I don't feel like it's wrong, it doesn't feel like something to fight against, despite life being nigh unbearable as it is. Even when things get better they get worse.
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This post is going to be a stream of thought mostly, me talking about things I do and feel relating to self esteem and how painful and scary living is, to talk about some of the things that make it so hard to keep going. I'm not really going to discuss why I feel the way I do about myself, partially because it's a lot to explain, and partially because I don't want to make everyone who reads this hate me, even though I know I deserve it. If you relate, feel free to talk about it here. If you want to talk about your own self esteem issues, I'd love to listen. If you have anything to say about anything I've written or anything you'd like to add, please do.
I'm going to start now.
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Historically I'm very easily pressured and exploited, I can't say no because what if they stop liking me, what if they stop talking to me, what if I'm left alone again? It's always my fault, I'm just not being good enough, I have to make sure I'm what they want from me. Anything to make others happy, because I can't be... (I'm working really hard to better stand up for myself, because it's just left me further traumatized...)


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I often dismiss or disqualify compliments, because they've only seen what I've chosen to show them, they can't know how horrible I am, how ugly I am, how stupid I am. Sometimes if they compliment me a lot all at once or give the same compliment often I tell them to stop, I try to tell them they're wrong in the nicest and least offensive way possible because it hurts, it hurts that they think so highly of me when I'm less than nothing.




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I hate when people look at me, especially my face. I wear face masks and baggy clothing and always a sweater or hoodie or jacket. I hide in the bathroom during social events until it's time to leave. I put up a curtain in front of my bedroom door so even if someone opens it they can't see me or my room. I don't even like if they have to hear my voice. What if they notice how terrible I am? I'd rather they forget I exist.



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One of the main symptoms of my schizophrenia these days is hearing things cry when I touch them, seeing them shake with fear when I get close, hearing things in pain because of my actions, seeing them scared and desperate when I get close. I can't lie on my bed, I'm hurting it. I can't sit at my desk, I'm scaring it. I can't touch my phone screen, I'm violating it. I hurt everything I touch. Everyone and everything would be happier if I just went away.



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I'm not fully sure what I thought this would accomplish. I'm glad it's out there. I'm glad I was able to talk about this. But it doesn't make it any better. It doesn't make it not my reality. It doesn't stop me wishing I could just stop living. I guess... If you got anything out of this, I'm glad. Otherwise, I'm sorry for wasting your time or for making you feel worse.
 
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endless_pain

Student
Apr 16, 2023
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I don't even like if they have to hear my voice. What if they notice how terrible I am? I'd rather they forget I exist.
I can relate so much to this.
I feel your pain, it's very hard to confront with reality when you struggle with yourself.
I hope you the best by the way
 
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FieldsofLavender

FieldsofLavender

how real is joy, anyway?...
Feb 7, 2023
123
I can relate so much to this.
I feel your pain, it's very hard to confront with reality when you struggle with yourself.
I hope you the best by the way
I'm sorry you can... I hope the best for you as well...
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NightshadeDreamer

NightshadeDreamer

Student
Apr 28, 2023
101
Just the thought of feeling as though everything you do is impacting something or someone negatively makes me sad. It must be so difficult for you. I'm sorry you're going through that. I wish you the best
 
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FieldsofLavender

FieldsofLavender

how real is joy, anyway?...
Feb 7, 2023
123
Just the thought of feeling as though everything you do is impacting something or someone negatively makes me sad. It must be so difficult for you. I'm sorry you're going through that. I wish you the best
I-I'm sorry I-I made you sad... A-and... Thank you... I-I wish you the best as well...
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NightshadeDreamer

NightshadeDreamer

Student
Apr 28, 2023
101
I-I'm sorry I-I made you sad... A-and... Thank you... I-I wish you the best as well...
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You didn't make me sad on purpose! It's a hard situation for you. Don't ever apologize for suffering or being in a shite position. I certainly don't think you deserve any of this suffering either
 
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FuneralCry

FuneralCry

Just wanting some peace
Sep 24, 2020
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It sounds really awful and tiring what you have to endure, it's true that existing really can be so unbearable, there certainly is too much suffering in existing here. But anyway I wish you the best.
 
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FieldsofLavender

FieldsofLavender

how real is joy, anyway?...
Feb 7, 2023
123
It sounds really awful and tiring what you have to endure, it's true that existing really can be so unbearable, there certainly is too much suffering in existing here. But anyway I wish you the best.
I wish you the best as well, ehehe... Everyone, I wish everyone the best!...
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ikadasui

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May 29, 2018
466
I just feel imprisoned in my body. Imagine if ever person has a magnet in them. one positive or a negative to connect with their fellow man, but then I'm stuck with 2 magnets both a positive and a negative. I can never fully connect with anyone as both sides be it a negative or positive will always push me apart. I cannot handle being the race that I am and maybe even gender too. all of my beauty standards I want are out of my reach aside from being thin and each time I leave my house or go online I'm reminded of what I want but won't have
 
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enough of this

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Jun 4, 2023
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I just feel imprisoned in my body. Imagine if ever person has a magnet in them. one positive or a negative to connect with their fellow man, but then I'm stuck with 2 magnets both a positive and a negative. I can never fully connect with anyone as both sides be it a negative or positive will always push me apart. I cannot handle being the race that I am and maybe even gender too. all of my beauty standards I want are out of my reach aside from being thin and each time I leave my house or go online I'm reminded of what I want but won't have
I'm constantly reminded of the same thing, whether I leave the house or not.
 
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