Discussion Seeing others

[hoppybunny]

I just watched a youtube video of an artist who literally went through the same problems as me and managed to come out decently successful and instead of feeling inspired i just feel like shit.

Like i just feel, why can this person get better but not me?

I know comparison is the thief of joy and we probably have ideology issues and we were raised in different environments so that may be why they were able to get better but i haven't yet.

I just want to know if anyone else is dealing with that. Like seeing similar ppl is usually supposed to encourage yiu but i just didn't feel that way.

 

[human909]

i think you do have the chances of becoming better but it does take time, of course i'm not a expert but hopefully that will help.

 

[hoppybunny]

i think you do have the chances of becoming better but it does take time, of course i'm not a expert but hopefully that will help.

Thank you. I really appreciate it.

 

[NeoN0va]

Getting better is a matter of time. It takes time to get better at certain things, and if you feel like you're not getting better, then it most likely means you aren't getting better at something you want to, but instead you are getting better at something you dont even know about (at least that was the case for me). Either way, I dont think there is a single human being that doesnt get better at something, as we are literally built the way to get better, adapt and learn.

 

[permanently tired]

I just posted on my profile talking abt this lol. Oftentimes, seeing other ppl who are doing better than I am just makes me bitter. I'm not going to sugarcoat the fact I have trouble coping with jealousy and trying to be happy for someone else's happiness. This change recently when someone genuinely made me think I could do as they had and I don't have to be stuck in this pit for the rest of my life.

Hope is a tentative, fragile feeling. I'm feeling alright atm, but I'm all too aware how quickly my mood can change. I think I've finally reached a place I can accept where my life is and how much control I can exert over it. I know I'm not satisfied with it, likewise I'm aware of what I can potentially do to improve it. Now, should I lose my sense of hope and my efforts fail then I should accept that too. Then, I'll die knowing I tried and gave it a good attempt.

The self depreciation and envy just made me fester in misery. I think the distance (for me, idk abt u) between who I was and who I wanted to be caused me a great deal of resentment. I like to think I'm slightly closer now. I'm the jealous type so I tell myself that I don't need to be superior to anyone in intelligence, beauty, wealth, etc... I rlly don't bc what is caring abt that comparison going to do for me? If I find myself lesser than I'll hate myself. If I'm "better" by those metrics than I get a momentary power trip. It fades quick as hell and you're left with the hunger for the next person you can stomp on.

Id like to include this is written from my experience and things are always easier said than done. Anyway, that's my 2 cents lol.

 

[hoppybunny]

Getting better is a matter of time. It takes time to get better at certain things, and if you feel like you're not getting better, then it most likely means you aren't getting better at something you want to, but instead you are getting better at something you dont even know about (at least that was the case for me). Either way, I dont think there is a single human being that doesnt get better at something, as we are literally built the way to get better, adapt and learn.

Ill remember to keep that in mind. Thanks for you sharing your knowledge with me.

I just posted on my profile talking abt this lol. Oftentimes, seeing other ppl who are doing better than I am just makes me bitter. I'm not going to sugarcoat the fact I have trouble coping with jealousy and trying to be happy for someone else's happiness. This change recently when someone genuinely made me think I could do as they had and I don't have to be stuck in this pit for the rest of my life.

Hope is a tentative, fragile feeling. I'm feeling alright atm, but I'm all too aware how quickly my mood can change. I think I've finally reached a place I can accept where my life is and how much control I can exert over it. I know I'm not satisfied with it, likewise I'm aware of what I can potentially do to improve it. Now, should I lose my sense of hope and my efforts fail then I should accept that too. Then, I'll die knowing I tried and gave it a good attempt.

The self depreciation and envy just made me fester in misery. I think the distance (for me, idk abt u) between who I was and who I wanted to be caused me a great deal of resentment. I like to think I'm slightly closer now. I'm the jealous type so I tell myself that I don't need to be superior to anyone in intelligence, beauty, wealth, etc... I rlly don't bc what is caring abt that comparison going to do for me? If I find myself lesser than I'll hate myself. If I'm "better" by those metrics than I get a momentary power trip. It fades quick as hell and you're left with the hunger for the next person you can stomp on.

Id like to include this is written from my experience and things are always easier said than done. Anyway, that's my 2 cents lol.

I completely agree with you. I gst envious super easily and it's only recently ive been able to stop being envious of ppl i care about in my life. And like you said the cause was that the distance between who i was and who i wanted to be was too large. And so i resorted in getting momentary satisfaction from "beating" others.
What helped me change was that one reno 911 clip where the firefighter was like how can i expect others to be excited for me when i can't be excited for myself

So i realised that i need to learn to be satisfied with myself before getting that satisfaction from others. So now i stopped being envious cause i really do need to at least make an effort to improve myself then I'll get the right to be envious for a little bit.