Discussion [Poll] Do you hate your parents?

[Meditation guide]

I love my parents, in spite of their bizarre behavior towards me.
I see them as a couple who are devoted to each other. I'm just a stranger to them.

 

[Quinlor]

The question is the parents fucked up with us certainly but I bet they have a lot mental social problems so in this perspective I don't guilty them. It's just life and society fucking a family generation to another.

 

[Largeletters]

I love my parents, but I hate the fact that they brought me into this world, and not only that, but having had far from an ideal life. I know they didn't plan things to be this way, but I often wonder what expectations they did have.

 

[grungeCat]

No, my both parents were (my mother is dead, my father still lives) always good and helpful for me. I'm sorry that I disappointed them so much.

 

[Makko]

Parents? Whatever.

 

[Callie Arcale]

I love them infinitely. My heart breaks because of the suffering they feel at having a sick daughter. I wish I could be healthy as a gift to them. They deserve it! They are my angels

 

[kappa]

Hate is a strong work but yeah I'd say I hate my mother. I don't have a high opinion of mothers in general.. also kind of have a problem with woman I guess. Stopped seeing female healthcare workers if I can help it.

 

[ClownMe]

yes, they're useless.

 

[OceanBlue]

Absolutely. Firstly, they brought me into existence. Then, damaged my self-esteem so much the rest of my life turned into a tragedy.

 

[Busticket]

No, I don't.
Even though they brought me into this hard and unpleasant life and failed me as parents in many regards (namely understanding my shyness and sensitivity) I know they had good intentions.

 

[Squiddy]

I don't hate them, but I hate how they treat me sometimes. Example being with how they invalidate me calling me lazy for sleeping a lot when it's my meds making me sleep so long, saying others have it worse than me, saying I make excuses, treating my siblings better than me in some ways, downplaying my bad days etc. They're a small reason why I want to ctb, but not my main reason

 

[logan]

I am a bit older and did not have an easy childhood - especially with my mother - she was mentally ill.

Many parents are overwhelmed and then do things they wouldn't otherwise do.

I think you have to make peace with them inside to be able to live a happy life yourself.
Hate only leads to more suffering.
And you should try to do better with your own children - which I hope I have succeeded in doing.

 

[NotGonnaLast]

I hate them both but I also love them and I hate that I love them. Both were abusive in different ways and to different degrees when I was younger and about half an hour ago I realised that when I was living with my dad from 16-24y.o (his death) I was undergoing Domestic Abuse. But the thing I hate the most about them? That they made me who I am, and I hate me more than anything.

 

[logan]

I hate them both but I also love them and I hate that I love them. Both were abusive in different ways and to different degrees when I was younger and about half an hour ago I realised that when I was living with my dad from 16-24y.o (his death) I was undergoing Domestic Abuse. But the thing I hate the most about them? That they made me who I am, and I hate me more than anything.

But now you are older and can take responsibility for your own life.

 

[NotGonnaLast]

But now you are older and can take responsibility for your own life.

Dude I've only just turned 26. I've never imagined a future because I never thought I'd have one and it took me a year and a bit after my dad died to realise it was DA. I don't even know what to do rn.

 

[logan]

Dude I've only just turned 26. I've never imagined a future because I never thought I'd have one and it took me a year and a bit after my dad died to realise it was DA. I don't even know what to do rn.

You must have dreams and wishes. Find your own life.

 

[NotGonnaLast]

You must have dreams and wishes. Find your own life.

I really don't. I've always been so full of anxiety and depression that now I can't function as a normal human being and I don't have the grades necessary for what I want to do because I was always told how shit I am and add in that I just didn't expect to reach adulthood and I just gave up. I barely know who I am anymore let alone any dreams and wishes. Honestly it feels like you're kind of trivialising me. We're all on this website for a reason dude. And you're here too.

 

[logan]

I don't know your story and I didn't want to belittle anything.

I just wanted to say that now - as an adult - you can live your own life, self-determined.

Yes, we all have our own problems here. And your last sentences make me very concerned.

The only thing that helps is to set yourself small goals and to implement them bit by bit. And not to give up.

 

[NotGonnaLast]

You'd be the only one concerned

 

[lofticries]

yes and no.

 

[demuic]

I hate what they put me through.

 

[motel rooms]

I really don't. I've always been so full of anxiety and depression that now I can't function as a normal human being and I don't have the grades necessary for what I want to do because I was always told how shit I am and add in that I just didn't expect to reach adulthood and I just gave up. I barely know who I am anymore let alone any dreams and wishes. Honestly it feels like you're kind of trivialising me. We're all on this website for a reason dude. And you're here too.

But now you are older and can take responsibility for your own life.

You must have dreams and wishes. Find your own life.

@logan Damn, you're cold & dismissive

 

[logan]

I really don't. I've always been so full of anxiety and depression that now I can't function as a normal human being and I don't have the grades necessary for what I want to do because I was always told how shit I am and add in that I just didn't expect to reach adulthood and I just gave up. I barely know who I am anymore let alone any dreams and wishes. Honestly it feels like you're kind of trivialising me. We're all on this website for a reason dude. And you're here too.

@logan Damn, you're cold & dismissive

I only tried to help and to find a way out.

 

[Homecoming]

F*cking hate my parents! They are literally the worst kind of parents one could ever have! And number 1 reason why I have to CTB (shitty genes and chaotic, violent environment)!

 

[Rhaiyne]

I don't think I could hate or strongly dislike anyone. I see my parents as two people who were just as broken and abused as myself and didn't really know any better. They were conditioned by their parents. As an adult I have come to realise that my horrendous childhood impacted me terribly. However, I also know as an adult I have to stop blaming and start taking responsibility for myself and my choices. Certainly, I cannot help my feelings but I can choose how to react or respond to those feelings.
I'm sorry for all who do have dislike for their parents and for the pain and damage they have caused you. Xxx

 

[logan]

Most of our parents tried to raise us as best they could.
They may not have had a perfect childhood either and have adopted patterns from their parents. Or they were also overwhelmed with the situation - certainly also had their problems.

Hate does not help. It only makes it worse. We should forgive them so that we do not burden our own lives.

 

[Rhaiyne]

I hate them both but I also love them and I hate that I love them. Both were abusive in different ways and to different degrees when I was younger and about half an hour ago I realised that when I was living with my dad from 16-24y.o (his death) I was undergoing Domestic Abuse. But the thing I hate the most about them? That they made me who I am, and I hate me more than anything.

I'm so sorry and sad that you hate yourself. Thats a really shitty and isolating place to be. I'm really sorry you are hurting so much to loathe yourself. Is there anything I can do to try and help?

 

[Octavina]

I have resented them my whole life for making me black.
mum slowly getting over it but not enough to see the point in living. My race is least desirable in dating, my hair is disgusting and I've gone through racism as a kid. I'll never forgive them

 

[Largeletters]

[Removed]

I can't begin to express how sorry I am for the events you went through in your life and that I wish things had been different.

 

[heretogethelp]

I hate one of my parents, my father, but not my mother.

My relationship with my father is complicated to put it lightly. I love my mum, though.