Discussion Person(s) you cant forgive and why?

[Lostandfound7]

My father who was a drunken sadistic bully and his family who was just as bad, he used to punch us for dropping a pea on the table, used to burn my Mum with cigarettes always violent when he was drunk but had a very well paid job as a printer in Fleet Street so we always had the best clothes, so the outside World thought we had a great life, he died when I was 11 years old and the freedom was to much to handle as he was so strict and we got into all sorts of trouble, but later my mum told me his family accused her of having an affair and I was someone else's child which is bollocks, but explains why he targeted me more than the rest. I did feel guilty as an 11 year old my uncle took me to see him in the chapel of rest and I touched his cold body and laughed,

What really drove me mad was when I wanted to talk about what happened and all my mum kept saying was about her childhood growing up in Ireland I nearly throttled her and my brothers and sisters didn't want to talk about it, back then we never had Childline or the Samaritans so I had no one to talk to and I exploded, drugs, arrested prison, fighting, etc but I turned my life around studied and got an excellent job.

Long story short, time is a great healer, I hated them all, but I forgave them as they caused enough suffering and I'm not letting them win, I forgave them for my own benefit not there's.

Cheers Geo

That's so sad, but awesome babe, that u were able to forgive them..I agree that time heals some wounds..N forgiving is for YOU..

U DEF WON!!

Some girls I worked with over 10+ years ago was mad at me because I didnt speak to them, so one of them started a false rumor about my sexuality, I guess as some form of revenge. I tried to take the high road and didnt respond to it, and eventually quit my job. Ever since I've had sever depression and anxiety, and difficulty in having relationships with people. Which led to multiple suicide attempts, all failed of course. And the kicker is they continued to stalk me years after I quit, by telling people they wanted to be friends with me so people would help them find me, because I have no social media and they know I dont. So I've assumed they somehow put me on social media smearing me, continuing to humiliate me knowing that I'm at a disadvantage and cant tell my side of the story. I've had multiple cars vandalized and keyed, I've been close to being sucker punched by random people, and treated mean Mostly by girls, and to top it all off there vilifying me so they look innocent and justified in getting revenge, because I didnt make friends with some girls from work 10+ years ago...... long story short I've concluded that there probably sociopaths or narcissists, and I have no choice but to ctb.

Sorry for the long post.

Omg, that sounds horrible! Have u tried reporting them? that's def harassment! No way should u ctb cuz of their bullying! Report them, hun!

 

[LastRide]

Dyammmmmm!!!

Nah but u can't ctb cuz of her crazy ass!!! No way!!

I feel u..words hurt worse than any physical abuse..wounds heal..words linger..I'm sorry honey..

I'm sending u HEALING!

Thank you darling...it still hurts...nothing will ever make it go away...
But I will not ctb because of that, it would be giving too much satisfaction to my divorcee...there are other more poignant reasons....details too long to explain...but thank you so much for your interest !

Dyammmmmm!!!

Nah but u can't ctb cuz of her crazy ass!!! No way!!

I feel u..words hurt worse than any physical abuse..wounds heal..words linger..I'm sorry honey..

I'm sending u HEALING!

ACTUALLY CAN'T FORGIVE MYSELF - two ctb's failed because me too stupid ! Now 's the time to set it right !

 

[Lostandfound7]

Thank you darling...it still hurts...nothing will ever make it go away...
But I will not ctb because of that, it would be giving too much satisfaction to my divorcee...there are other more poignant reasons....details too long to explain...but thank you so much for your interest !

ACTUALLY CAN'T FORGIVE MYSELF - two ctb's failed because me too stupid ! Now 's the time to set it right !

Hey love..Ur def not stupid cuz u "failed" a ctb attempt..Will to live too strong maybe? Maybe ur just not ready?..

 

[Arisa]

My parents for forcing me into my profession just because of "pay" and "job stability". Maybe my bf from stopping me from taking the SN.

 

[Lostandfound7]

My parents for forcing me into my profession just because of "pay" and "job stability". Maybe my bf from stopping me from taking the SN.

I'm sorry my honey ..

I would b very surprised if ur bf didn't stop u tho..

Sending u hugs n love

 

[Arisa]

I'm sorry my honey ..

I would b very surprised if ur bf didn't stop u tho..

Sending u hugs n love

Thank you <3 So far, I am still stable enough not to set a real ctb date... but we will see.

 

[Lostandfound7]

Thank you <3 So far, I am still stable enough not to set a real ctb date... but we will see.

Don't rush it love..Stick around n talk to us..

We care about u..Here for u

 

[Sans]

This is going to sound stupid and trollish but... the entire country of France.

In 2018, the FIFA World Cup happened, an international football (soccer) tournament held once every four years contested by teams that represent 32 different nations.

Croatia, a very small nation in turmoil, Shocked the world by making it to the final match. They almost won the championship, but they lost to France. Wanting Croatia to win so badly, watching that match made me go into shock. I'm not exaggerating.

Ever since then I have resented the French. Just thinking about that tragedy makes me want to CTB. Just being reminded of the existence of France makes me want to CTB.

I'm not joking. I just have horrible coping skills. That meant so much to me, and they just had to ruin it.

 

[Lostandfound7]

This is going to sound stupid and trollish but... the entire country of France.

In 2018, the FIFA World Cup happened, an international football (soccer) tournament held once every four years contested by teams that represent 32 different nations.

Croatia, a very small nation in turmoil, Shocked the world by making it to the final match. They almost won the championship, but they lost to France. Wanting Croatia to win so badly, watching that match made me go into shock. I'm not exaggerating.

Ever since then I have resented the French. Just thinking about that tragedy makes me want to CTB. Just being reminded of the existence of France makes me want to CTB.

I'm not joking. I just have horrible coping skills. That meant so much to me, and they just had to ruin it.

Damm luv, I see u def took that way too personal!..

OK, plz don't ctb for that reason!..not to downplay ur feelings, obvi ur really hurt by the loss. But it's really just a game n NOT worth ur life honey..Sorry

 

[Sans]

Damm luv, I see u def took that way too personal!..

OK, plz don't ctb for that reason!..not to downplay ur feelings, obvi ur really hurt by the loss. But it's really just a game n NOT worth ur life honey..Sorry

Obviously, it's not the only reason I want to CTB... it's far from it. But to think, if that day went differently, I would be so much happier right now.

 

[Lostandfound7]

Obviously, it's not the only reason I want to CTB... it's far from it. But to think, if that day went differently, I would be so much happier right now.

OK makes sense now..u scared me!lol

OK makes sense now..u scared me!lol

Amazing how much a sport can affect some people's lives..interesting...sending

 

[Broken Chimera]

How much time do you have? Because a lot of people are on that list. Mostly narcs and sociopaths. I've had to endure so much because of things I couldn't control in life.

I just got around to reading this thread and I'm shocked by most of the things I read here. I'm sorry for what you guys went through.

 

[Lostandfound7]

How much time do you have? Because a lot of people are on that list. Mostly narcs and sociopaths. I've had to endure so much because of things I couldn't control in life.

I just got around to reading this thread and I'm shocked by most of the things I read here. I'm sorry for what you guys went through.

Well I'm in quarantine so I have time!

Yeah it is really sad to hear what ppl have endured in life n who has inflicted the most pain..

 

[chrijo]

My ex. I wish her a malignant cancer in her dishonest brain.

Yeah, I said it..

 

[Broken Chimera]

Well I'm in quarantine so I have time!

That's rough. I hope you don't get sick. But that list is literally too long. Just a long story of getting back stabbed by fakes during one of the hardest times in my life.

Yeah it is really sad to hear what ppl have endured in life n who has inflicted the most pain..

Very sad.

 

[Lostandfound7]

That's rough. I hope you don't get sick. But that list is literally too long. Just a long story of getting back stabbed by fakes during one of the hardest times in my life.

That's gotta b the worst feeling! It's painful to b backstabbed, yes, but when it happens when ur already down...unbearable...

Unfortunately, I know the feeling all too well my friend..it sux..

 

[Remember to forget]

i can't forgive myself

Do you want to talk about what you can't forgive yourself for? X

 

[MsMaudlin]

I can't forgive my ex husband, I did start to and tried to make things amicable but he didn't want to know.
Bastard.
❤

 

[Nottoohotlatte]

My mother;

I have made several attempts over the years to accept her back into my life with love, compassion, open arms and forgiveness. Every time though, she lets me down horribly.

It always resurfaces my buried baggage that I do so well hiding. Then wouldn't ya know, I'm a wreck for several weeks again.

She is a severe Hypochondriac alcoholic narcissist. She always finds a way to excuse her malicious wicked behavior. No matter who its directed towards.
The most frustrating part is that I have seen her be such an amazing person.
It's hard trying to remind myself that it is just a facade that will only hurt me once I let my guard down.

Thank you for reading, I'm sending love to everyone as we speak. XOXO

 

[anthrax101]

There is a detective in the local sheriff's office who pinned a crime on me that will never be able to face, fabricated evidence, and presented false statements toa federal court through a friend of his so that he can get his 15 minutes of fame. In about two months I will be CTB-ing peacefully and leaving behind recordings of conversations and phone cal recordings between the two of us where he certainly alludes to all of the above. There's enough information that I know that he will at least have to face the scrutiny of what he did to my life and it will then become a very public matter that will stay with him for the rest of his career/life. What he did to me is unforgivable and he should have to endure this offense until the day it's his turn.

 

[Nottoohotlatte]

There is a detective in the local sheriff's office who pinned a crime on me that will never be able to face, fabricated evidence, and presented false statements toa federal court through a friend of his so that he can get his 15 minutes of fame. In about two months I will be CTB-ing peacefully and leaving behind recordings of conversations and phone cal recordings between the two of us where he certainly alludes to all of the above. There's enough information that I know that he will at least have to face the scrutiny of what he did to my life and it will then become a very public matter that will stay with him for the rest of his career/life. What he did to me is unforgivable and he should have to endure this offense until the day it's his turn.

No one should have to go through the oppression that the 'justice system' hides. I'm sorry someone has taken advantage of their power over you. You do not deserve it.
Sending love your way, XO

 

[Smashingairwaves]

My parents. My mother chose alcohol and drugs over her kids. I went without so much because she just didn't give enough of a shit. My father, who never cared enough to be a proper father, and instead was emotionally abusive. My sister, for being so fucked up.

I'm just so fucking angry

 

[Brick In The Wall]

I forgive everyone for any transgressions made towards me. Not necessarily for their sake but for my own. It can be a burden to carry around that type of hate. I just cut ties, distance myself, forgive, and forget.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

I forgive everyone for any transgressions made towards me. Not necessarily for their sake but for my own. It can be a burden to carry around that type of hate. I just cut ties, distance myself, forgive, and forget.

I try. I want to. You can choose to forgive and still not really forgive at the same time. That's something I'm struggling with.

 

[Nottoohotlatte]

I forgive everyone for any transgressions made towards me. Not necessarily for their sake but for my own. It can be a burden to carry around that type of hate. I just cut ties, distance myself, forgive, and forget.

I completely agree with this. Just wish I had the strength to put it in action.

 

[Jean Améry]

My father. He's not the reason or a reason why I want(ed) to die (I at least will not give him credit for that) but what he did to my mother and his children (me included) is unforgiveable.

Forgiving him would cost me my self-respect as he is everything I abhor and ethically and empathically condemn. He's about the only person on earth whom I harbor ill will towards. The sooner he dies the better. People like him should die asap as they are a disgrace to humanity and a burden to the good people that have the misfortune to make their acquaintance. To be sired by that scum was a grave misfortune indeed.

Which is why people like him should be quarantined to prevent their maliciousness from spreading to others and causing harm. Of course one could wonder if it wouldn't be better to just dispose of them outright but containment would of course be the civil alternative. Plus it would have the added benefit of putting all the scum together so they can make each-other miserable. Perhaps it could even be made in a TV-show as it would make for great, guilt-free entertainment (George Carlin's idea).

 

[RM5998]

I forgive everyone except for 2 people - my mom and myself. And even my mom I can forgive on an intellectual level, as @a.n.kirillov put it - I've essentially lived up to every shitty thing she ever said about me.

 

[ZardozOmega]

my mom for producing me

 

[Myforevercharlie]

My "father" for using and abusing me, and molesting my mother in such a way, a part of her brain mail functioned, and still does to this day.

 

[Cjaf]

Jesus, what's up with all these people staying with cheaters? I understand lots of people have low self esteem but at least have some self respect and leave the bastard.

I don't understand why people want to be with someone who doesn't respect them, humiliates and betrays. Imo it's better to be single than to be with someone who doesn't respect you and the relationship.