Discussion Older members on this forum, have any advice for us younger things?

[azucaramargo]

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Enjoy your youth while you still have it. Don't waste it on being a good productive citizen. When you are young, try to have as much fun as possible. Meet interesting people, enjoy your time with girlfriends or boyfriends, party, see the world, go on adventures and enjoy your hobbies etc. Once you get old, there is no going back. There is no time machine waiting for you or any anti aging shit. And time will destroy your body. Entropy is a bitch. You'll have plenty of time later on, to become a good wage slave... Kids, teens and young adults should focus on enjoying life as much as possible. If anyone tells you otherwise, he or she probably just wants to use you as a money making machine or drag you down like a crab in a bucket because they never got to enjoy life when they were young... There's nothing shameful about trying to build up a foundation for your future in your late 20s or early 30s even though society will call you a "loser" for not doing so right after you got out of Highschool. Fuck society. When has society ever actually given a shit about your happiness? There are people in college or university in their late 20s or 30s... It's no big fucking deal. It's the same thing with trade school or anything else. And of course, everyone else in your generation will be a decade ahead of you when it comes to making money... But who gives a shit... They wasted their youth for mostly useless shit while you got to enjoy your youth. Oh they get to drive a nice car while you are driving an old car. Who gives a shit. Life is not a fucking race. It's not like, the first people to get to the finish line, get rewarded by going to heaven or get a cash bonus of a million dollars or some shit. And the way the economy is nowadays, a lot of these fuckers will end up homeless or working at Starbucks anyway. And no, things do not get better as you get older. That is a bullshit myth unless you have some really good genetics and manage to get an awesome job or become a celebrity etc... <- Not going to happen for most people. Just like all those young dumb naive fools who see themselves as future billionaires are going to be in for a rude awakening. Most of these people are going to be working some mediocre ass job with all these fucking physical health problems tormenting them on a daily basis, living paycheck to paycheck... Balding. Wrinkles everywhere. Fat. Sagging flesh underneath their chins. Sagging tits. Constantly in a bitchy mood. Haven't had sex in years. Married to a spouse they fucking hate. And their children will hate them as well. And then when they finally get to retire, they will be just a bunch of senile wrinkly zombie looking bags of bones who only have the energy to sit on their ass, watch TV or something similar and reminisce about their time in Highschool and in college or university. And if someone ever sees them naked, he or she will get PTSD. But the people who are in their 50s and 60s and didn't waste their youth will have a lot less regrets... And feel more satisfied with life. They wont feel like they missed out and then can simply move on and accept old age with inner peace and acceptance.

You're an old soul, Dear Severen.

 

[Hennessy]

Get a driver's license while you are young. Get it as soon as you can!

As you get older it will be more difficult. I am talking from experience.

A life without a driver's license can be very difficult, especially finding jobs. That's my experience too.

 

[HoolioCoolio]

i don't mean to be a necromancer of this thread, but I I've had a really close friend for a couple of years and now I feel like she's changed a lot and I don't know if I can keep it up. I don't have many friends and it's hard to make any who I really connect with (is complicated) but I'm not sure what to do. I mean like I want to be isolated and forget everything but I know it's not healthy. It's hard being social and can't really find a way to fix it. I'm always anxious and it's silent so I don't really tell it's engraved In me, I slur and mix up my words a lot and people don't really like it (some do) I just need a wise touch my friend :(

 

[terry_a_davis]

If there is anyone reading this lucky enough to still have a decent life (you may not even know it?), look around you at what you have.

Do you have a decent partner? An ok job? Friends and/or social life? A home? Family you get on with? Hobbies? Mental and physical health?
Please appreciate that these things aren't an automatic right. If you take them for granted and don't actively work at maintaining them they might be lost. The good things in life, sadly I didn't realise what I had till they were gone and at my age it's very hard to get them back.

If you aren't lucky enough to have the above then age is still on your side if you decide to try change your situation, assuming you are in good physical and mental health.

 

[Pryras]

Yeah, I'd be careful though. Because otherwise, you could end up with a kid or two... All it takes is the woman deciding she wants to keep the baby and you will have to pay child support for 18 years plus cover the child's college or university expenses. And then if you CTB, your offspring is going to be seriously screwed in life... And then there will be so much pain and suffering on your hands...

Yeah you could seriously screw up a child if you decide the CTB early. Can't speak on behalf of everyone, but intimacy messes with your emotions big time. When I was sexually active for two years It seriously messed with my head and I was pushed even further into suicide. Not to sound bitter but I agree that love is all hormones, because ofc "the one" just so happens to be the girl you find the most sexually appealing.

I'm not considered "old" but my advice I suppose is to not waste time dwelling in the past. Time will help people get over loss and heartbreak but spending years beating yourself up isn't going to change things (I say as I'm doing just that)

 

[kkatt]

There's always another day.

 

[LonelyGhostDreamer]

My advice would be to appreciate the beauty in simple things, eat and enjoy delicious food, and don't be afraid to be alone, want to go see a film but no-one to go with? Go by yourself... plus side you don't have to share snacks and no annoying person asking what the films about!

 

[Myforevercharlie]

Finish your education! Don't become a parent before you're ready. See the world, meet different people, learn from others.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

Never do what you are told.

 

[Epsilon0]

"I always pass on good advice. It is the only thing to do with it. It is never of any use to oneself."

The one and only Oscar Wilde

Never do what you are told.

 

[Aonewayticketplease]

Don't be afraid to get rid of the assholes in your life, just tell them to fuck off.

Do a job you like.

If you like her let her know!

 

[Mr2005]

Don't throw your toys out the pram when we're only trying to help