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[Lostandfound7]

Hello everyone.
I am new here. I found this site yest n so much has resonated in me.
My story: 1) I just recently found out that my husband of 14 yrs cheated on me last yr. I was and am beyond devastated. 2) I just graduated with my MBA last yr,currently doing my DBA (doctorate of biz) n after leaving my job of 20 yrs, still can't find a job, 3) I had an ectopic pregnancy so unable,unless by miracle, to have children, 4)mounting bills n debt, 5)No one knows the struggles that I face mentally EVERYDAY, 6) I feel extremely alone and my husband just doesn't understand me. 7) I'm mentally,emotionally,physically, and psychologically spent.
Never entertained going this route so much as I have been lately. I'm tired...

 

[Defenestrator]

Welcome to the forum, sounds like you've been through the ringer - you've achieved more than many do academically, so it's not a complete loss. I get you with regards to getting a job though, even people who are highly qualified are struggling at the moment and it feels like the world's going to pot.

You're not alone here though, if you want to talk/vent or research methods even if it's just for comfort (a way out.)

 

[Quarky00]

even people who are highly qualified are struggling at the moment and it feels like the world's going to pot.

Yeah what's up with that . I don't get it . Many talented people -- like you @Lostandfound7 -- without job ..

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

Welcome to the forum

 

[Lostandfound7]

Welcome to the forum, sounds like you've been through the ringer - you've achieved more than many do academically, so it's not a complete loss. I get you with regards to getting a job though, even people who are highly qualified are struggling at the moment and it feels like the world's going to pot.

You're not alone here though, if you want to talk/vent or research methods even if it's just for comfort (a way out.)

Ty so much..This seems like such an amazing support group, whatever I decide..

Welcome to the forum

Ty♡

Welcome to the forum

Ty. I feel the ♡

Welcome to the forum

Ty. I feel the ♡

Yeah what's up with that . I don't get it . Many talented people -- like you @Lostandfound7 -- without job ..

Exactly. U do ur best to get an education n then when ur done, they want someone with experience..But how the hell am I gonna have experience in a new field if I just graduated?? *sighs*

 

[Xebsora29]

Hello everyone.
I am new here. I found this site yest n so much has resonated in me.
My story: 1) I just recently found out that my husband of 14 yrs cheated on me last yr. I was and am beyond devastated. 2) I just graduated with my MBA last yr,currently doing my DBA (doctorate of biz) n after leaving my job of 20 yrs, still can't find a job, 3) I had an ectopic pregnancy so unable,unless by miracle, to have children, 4)mounting bills n debt, 5)No one knows the struggles that I face mentally EVERYDAY, 6) I feel extremely alone and my husband just doesn't understand me. 7) I'm mentally,emotionally,physically, and psychologically spent.
Never entertained going this route so much as I have been lately. I'm tired...

We are glad to have you here. If you are ever stressed and need someone to talk to, I'm here.

 

[Lostandfound7]

We are glad to have you here. If you are ever stressed and need someone to talk to, I'm here.

Ty so much Love! I am always the listening ear for everyone so it's so nice to finally find a forum where I can just b myself n vent, without being judged about my decision.♡

 

[Quarky00]

Well, you checked all the boxes for ctb (betrayal, loss, debt, unemployment, despair, and many more) -- but physical disability.

Break a leg and I'll sign your ctb form.

;)

 

[Lostandfound7]

U actually made me LOL!! Ty!!

 

[FaceOfSilence]

Yeah what's up with that . I don't get it . Many talented people -- like you @Lostandfound7 -- without job ..

That's the point of capitalism. The world doesn't need qualified people, they need people they, or someone they know, know to fill in the spots, especially if we're talking about job that provide enough pay to cover necessities.

 

[C_F]

Stay strong! Circumstances like these come and go - good and bad. I have a feeling that you can definitely pull through this dark time. A lot of us here just don't have the tools to do it, but I think you can. You'll look back sooner than you think and smile not only because you got through it but because you're stronger than ever

And congrats on your MBA!

 

[Lostandfound7]

Stay strong! Circumstances like these come and go - good and bad. I have a feeling that you can definitely pull through this dark time. A lot of us here just don't have the tools to do it, but I think you can. You'll look back sooner than you think and smile not only because you got through it but because you're stronger than ever

And congrats on your MBA!

Awwww ty so much beautiful! Your encouragement brought tears to my eyes..It's so hard to see any glimmer of light at the end of such a dark tunnel..

 

[HorribleFeelings1]

Welcome! People like me are also going through problems similar to yours so don't hesitate to talk to us, you can always message me.

 

[Lostandfound7]

Welcome! People like me are also going through problems similar to yours so don't hesitate to talk to us, you can always message me.

Ty so much! I really appreciate the love n support..I need it

That's the point of capitalism. The world doesn't need qualified people, they need people they, or someone they know, know to fill in the spots, especially if we're talking about job that provide enough pay to cover necessities.

Well said!

 

[Quarky00]

I don't understand the situation with your husband. You're devastated, and he doesn't understand you... I don't get it.

Like, he cheated, and won't show support. On the hand not sure that's where support should come from. Dunno, I'm not saying anything in particular, just sounds so confusing and even more torturous.

 

[Lostandfound7]

I don't understand the situation with your husband. You're devastated, and he doesn't understand you... I don't get it.

Like, he cheated, and won't show support. On the hand not sure that's where support should come from. Dunno, I'm not saying anything in particular, just sounds so confusing and even more torturous.

Basically he, as many unfaithful do, doesn't understand the mental torture that goes on in the mind of the betrayed so they think a sorry,gifts,sex,etc., will heal u.unfortunately, only time heals wounds n it's still recent n like a wound,everytime he pisses me off with something else, the band aid gets ripped off n I suffer more..it's very painful, among the other things going on on my life..torturous is correct.

 

[Quarky00]

And the wound deepens ..

 

[HadEnough1974]

Hello everyone.
I am new here. I found this site yest n so much has resonated in me.
My story: 1) I just recently found out that my husband of 14 yrs cheated on me last yr. I was and am beyond devastated. 2) I just graduated with my MBA last yr,currently doing my DBA (doctorate of biz) n after leaving my job of 20 yrs, still can't find a job, 3) I had an ectopic pregnancy so unable,unless by miracle, to have children, 4)mounting bills n debt, 5)No one knows the struggles that I face mentally EVERYDAY, 6) I feel extremely alone and my husband just doesn't understand me. 7) I'm mentally,emotionally,physically, and psychologically spent.
Never entertained going this route so much as I have been lately. I'm tired...

It's allot to deal with, I know. I feel like a deflated balloon myself. I get the mental exhaustion. However, looking back at your life, you've achieved a great deal. Suicide should always be a final option only once you've exhausted all other options. Sometimes you need to keep asking for help multiple times to multiple people until you get the help and support that you need.

 

[Lostandfound7]

Quite an idiot you got there.

And the wound deepens ..

Yup! He says he's trying,but it's not enough..

 

[mattwitt]

Welcome to SS @Lostandfound7 Glad you found this place before you did anything impulsive. Hope you stay around until you at least figure things out : )

 

[Lostandfound7]

It's allot to deal with, I know. I feel like a deflated balloon myself. I get the mental exhaustion. However, looking back at your life, you've achieved a great deal. Suicide should always be a final option only once you've exhausted all other options. Sometimes you need to keep asking for help multiple times to multiple people until you get the help and support that you need.

I hear u but I'm just tired..I have been giving n giving n am spent now..I just feel so hopeless.the degrees mean nothing when u have no peace.

Welcome to SS @Lostandfound7 Glad you found this place before you did anything impulsive. Hope you stay around until you at least figure things out : )

Yeah. I hit a breaking point last night but had nothing to take.cabinets full of vitamins ..smh

 

[Ruinedmylif]

Definitely understand what you're going through....been dealing with my wife sleeping with another man for months...been hospitalized twice threw it in my face when shes angry.... I gave up on myself my.job, bills.....debt. I feel like I'm running g out of time

 

[Lostandfound7]

Quite an idiot you got there.

And the wound deepens ..

Well I wouldn't call him an "idiot" just very unwise..

Definitely understand what you're going through....been dealing with my wife sleeping with another man for months...been hospitalized twice threw it in my face when shes angry.... I gave up on myself my.job, bills.....debt. I feel like I'm running g out of time

My heart goes out to my friend..u know what it feels like to b so greatly betrayed..it consumes ur every thought.. this is where I am,in addition to the other issues..I told him my thoughts last night n he said he's too wicked for me to give up my life for..but he's just the final straw..

 

[HadEnough1974]

I hear u but I'm just tired..I have been giving n giving n am spent now..I just feel so hopeless.the degrees mean nothing when u have no peace.

Yeah. I hit a breaking point last night but had nothing to take.cabinets full of vitamins ..smh

I totally understand that feeling of being spent. I'm feeling that way myself. I barely have energy to do anything. It's both physical and psychological. A deflated balloon.

 

[LegaliseIt!]

Well, you checked all the boxes for ctb (betrayal, loss, debt, unemployment, despair, and many more) -- but physical disability.

Break a leg and I'll sign your ctb form.

;)

Dark humour is a "thing" here. It helps us cope.

 

[Lostandfound7]

Quite an idiot you got there.

And the wound deepens ..

Plus i have learned in life that we all "mess up" cuz no one is perfect, it's just up to me if I wanna stay with that horrible "mess up". N I'm just hear to vent n decide what I will do, n not for anyone to "judge" him n his lack of wisdom n selfishness..so while I appreciate all the advice, plz don't make me feel any worse than I already do about him.ty

 

[Quarky00]

@Lostandfound7 , comment removed

 

[LegaliseIt!]

Welcome!
No matter what direction you take, this site offers support as you struggle with mental anguish.
Since we are pro choice, you may find a strong sense of safety here. That is what I have experienced.
Please know that we are here 24/7, and if you decide to end your life, there are resources that will help make this decision safe and less traumatic.
Sending hugs, compassion and kindness,
L.
PS. Once you have been a member for 24 hours, and have posted 5 forum posts, you will gain access to private message service. This is helpful if you relate to certain members or need advice. If you want pm access quickly, visit the off topic forum, and post on the game threads.
You are not alone.

 

[Lostandfound7]

I totally understand that feeling of being spent. I'm feeling that way myself. I barely have energy to do anything. It's both physical and psychological. A deflated balloon.

Exactly! Zero energy or motivation! It's a vicious cycle cuz the lack of motivation causes more lack,then more depression, then lack of energy...blah blah blah..

Welcome!
No matter what direction you take, this site offers support as you struggle with mental anguish.
Since we are pro choice, you may find a strong sense of safety here. That is what I have experienced.
Please know that we are here 24/7, and if you decide to end your life, there are resources that will help make this decision safe and less traumatic.
Sending hugs, compassion and kindness,
L.
PS. Once you have been a member for 24 hours, and have posted 5 forum posts, you will gain access to private message service. This is helpful if you relate to certain members or need advice. If you want pm access quickly, visit the off topic forum, and post on the game threads.
You are not alone.

Ty so much for ur kind words..they mean so much to me

 

[Ruinedmylif]

Well I wouldn't call him an "idiot" just very unwise..

My heart goes out to my friend..u know what it feels like to b so greatly betrayed..it consumes ur every thought.. this is where I am,in addition to the other issues..I told him my thoughts last night n he said he's too wicked for me to give up my life for..but he's just the final straw..

Very consuming... I've lost so much thank you for the kind words