Help My mother doesnt approve of my chosen uni

[obei]

So I took a year off due to my mental health after high school. Now I will start to prepare for uni.
So, for context, I wanna study character design. Here we have harder unis to get to and their diploma will be real worth, and there is one which isnt really uni but something like college I think, idk the word. It is 3 years long and is easier to get into, and will maybe be a bit easier.
So my mother thinks I should try to get into harder uni cause she "believes I can do it", but I really dont agree. My mental health is kinda getting worse, and the thought of going to that big, hard uni is making me have panic attacks, and I feel I will ctb if I chose this hard path.
But if I choose the easier one, ill still have the diploma, just not a prestige one, and my mental health will be somewhat better.
My mother thinks I can get into the hard one and ill be fine, just need "organisation and support".
How to get over this? I always try to please everyone, and this situation is gonna make my mental health worse.
I just wanna ctb so I dont go to either and not gonna have to please another person ever again lol.

 

[Old Friend]

Well, the first and most obvious point: it's your life and your decision. Your mum's well entitled to say what she thinks and you should take it into consideration but the decision is ultimately yours.

I do think you should also consider whether it's the right time to go to university. If you're not at your best it may be better to hold off and go when you're in better form. You can go to university at any age. What you don't want to happen is mess it up halfway through and then you can't go back in the future because you can't get any more loans/grants.

If you do go, be as open as you can about your mental health. This will help you get the support you need if you do find yourself struggling at any point during the course.