My cousin's CTB and the aftermath changed my perspective

[Anikah]

Almost 5 years ago my cousin after a lot of pain, suffering, drug addiction, rejection from family and legal battles just to maintain the ability to have supervised visits with her daughter finally exited with a well thought out plan.

I am new here and I just wanted to share the story and how my whole perspective changed when my cousin who was also my best friend finally got the peace she wanted.


She struggled a lot in life with abuse, hateful family members and a whole lot of unfortunate events, she was transgender and had a lot of love from few but a lot of hate from most.


She eventually planned to actually take her own life inside a mental ward away from everyone so that loved ones would not be the ones to find her body (intentionally committing herself), she was found and revived into a vegetative state, pretty much brain dead and died a few days later.


Then her hateful family, including her own mother, father and ex partner who had an old will from 10 years ago lied to me and told everyone she would be respectfully burried as she would have wanted.


We found out nobody who dared refer to her as her chosen name was invited, basically had an echo chamber of hate funeral blaming absolutely everything on mental illness including her gender identity.


Burried her with her dead name and refused to tell us where she was burried until we found out from a 3rd party later on.


This was a huge eye opener for me, I now started understanding on a more real level why people who just don't want to live anymore would sometimes prefer loved ones were not clued in on any of their plans.


If it was upto them they would have just locked her away and just called everything mental illness and called it a day.


To this day I now support the right to choose, but still would prefer the younger ones at least talk it out with some trusted people if not a professional first, depending on if your country locks people away for just talking about it, or tells family about it, privacy is important even for the younger ones.


Also humans can be horrible, selfish and disgusting, if I switched places with my cousin I would have been gone much sooner than she was.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

To this day I now support the right to choose, but still would prefer the younger ones at least talk it out with some trusted people if not a professional first,

 

[Butterflycharm3636]

To this day I now support the right to choose, but still would prefer the younger ones at least talk it out with some trusted people if not a professional first, depending on if your country locks people away for just talking about it, or tells family about it, privacy is important even for the younger ones.

This is so well said, and I agree with it 100000%

 

[FuneralCry]

At least those who are gone cannot suffer anymore, rest in peace, it really is so horrible how humans create so much harm in this dreadful world where there is so much senseless cruelty.