My best friend has written to me now

[Special Week]

I just got a message from my best friend in Switzerland, asking if I was okay, since I hadn't replied to her in days and we literally talk every day. I don't know whether to reply. I do sometimes feel like I'm just another friend to her, and that she has her real-life friends and I'm just another internet friend. But I still feel something for her. I don't know if it's because I'm lonely or if I genuinely have feelings for her. Besides, I really don't know if she feels the same way about me. When i used to message her, she always replied quickly. I don't know, I still think she doesn't care about me. On top of that, I sometimes do things that are a little rude to her via text (like leaving her on read and replying a day later). What advice do you have? Should I reply to her message or not?

 

[Passenger4224]

Even if you decide don't want to talk to her anymore, at least leaving any response is the right thing to do imo

 

[SASU-KE]

Best friends don't play these games.You need to talk to each other without these mind games.

 

[.idiot]

I just got a message from my best friend in Switzerland, asking if I was okay, since I hadn't replied to her in days and we literally talk every day. I don't know whether to reply. I do sometimes feel like I'm just another friend to her, and that she has her real-life friends and I'm just another internet friend. But I still feel something for her. I don't know if it's because I'm lonely or if I genuinely have feelings for her. Besides, I really don't know if she feels the same way about me. When i used to message her, she always replied quickly. I don't know, I still think she doesn't care about me. On top of that, I sometimes do things that are a little rude to her via text (like leaving her on read and replying a day later). What advice do you have? Should I reply to her message or not?

She would not ask you "are you okay" randomly after not talking to her for days if she didn't care about you. She would not talk to you every single day if she didn't care for what you have to say. She would not take time out of her day to interact with you, an "Internet friend", over spending that extra time interacting with her real-life friends if she did not care about spending that time with you. She cares about you. Whether that "care" is something more, I don't know. But she definitely does care for you.

On advice: YES, OF FUCKING COURSE YOU SHOULD REPLY. You're worrying her. dude. I can tell you care about her deeply as well, because you wouldn't have even made a thread like this if you didn't.

Once you're confident enough to open up about your feelings to her- not necessarily about your love for her, but more so just your feelings of inadequacy and that you're "just another friend"- be COMPLETELY honest with her about these feelings, no filter. If she accepts those feelings and reassures you, acting on them? You'll be closer than ever. If she doesn't? I hope you're specced into speechcraft to handle the situation.