Is it the only way

[SD2007]

I've posted here a few times already about her but I genuinely just can't get over my ex. She was the most perfect person I ever met and she was my first for everything. I thought and hoped I would spend the rest of my life with her and she would say the same stuff to me. She broke up with me almost 3 months ago. I'm sure she's moved on already but I just can't and I dont think I ever will and I just see no point in living if this is the rest of my life. I've distracted myself as much as possible over the past few months but It just isn't enough to forget her. From the therapist I spoke to and my friends I spoke to about her they said she was 'manipulated' by her friends to break up with me. She messaged me a month later and we said we would try again but when her friend (who seemingly hated me from the start) found out she basically said that if she got back with me she wouldn't be friends with her anymore (or something like that I wasn't told exactly what was said.) I didn't have any negative interactions with her friend but I was told multiple things that she said about me (assuming and accusing me of things just based off a 'feeling') which hurts and confuses me more. I don't know what i'm even writing anymore I'm sorry i'm just yapping atp. I've been trying to get SN for the past 2 months but I just haven't been able to. So I guess I'll have to figure something else out. I hope my ex is happy and has a great life. I just wish I could have been in it. Everynight I dream about getting back together with her and I'm happy for about 5 seconds when I wake up until I realise it was just a dream. <3

 

[ctb_warrior]

Your story pretty much resembles my story.
In my story, it was one of the friend from my circle who brainwashed her so that he could have a chance on her. As soon as she broke up with me, he started flirting with her.
I thwarted his attempts.
He soon had to go underground because I damaged his reputation through my strong influence besides I was righteous so I didn't misuse my influence, I had gathered enough evidence against him to prove that he's a jerk who had lured her.
Thankfully, she understood it soon enough that he's a jerk.
Though the damage had been done to the relationship.
Once a vase breaks, you can't put it back again no matter what adhesive you use, it'll have those marks.
So it never healed and worsened with time as she cheated on me with someone else instead of saying to me upfront that she wants to part ways. But she feared that my influence will defame her and she'll be called a cheater so she played mind games with me, the tug of war lasted for years that kept spoiling my mental health over and over again.


Girls are easily manipulated my friend. So, neither can we blame them nor can we expect them to be back. It was a beautiful part of our life that's over now. I don't know why some jealous freaks don't like to see others in love.

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

It's not the only way. I remember your last post, and she sounds pretty far from perfect to me. I know it hurts, I've been there, believe me… but what you're going through is virtually a universal experience. Almost all of us go through it, it's a normal part of our development. Very few people spend the rest of their lives with the first person they ever date. That means almost all of us experience heartbreak. But this too shall pass. You will meet someone else, but only if you're patient enough to let that happen. Give yourself the time to heal & get over her. Three months is not enough time, it's nothing in the grand scheme of things. Learn what it's like to be ok with not being in a relationship. Then you'll be in a position to date someone else. Don't let this temporary problem break you, let it make you stronger.