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purplehearted
SN re ordered! 🥲
- Nov 21, 2022
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I'm so sorry. That's so painful and really does make someone feel like a burden. I'm here for youIve had multiple instances where family says they love me and they will always be a support for me when needed. When issues arise or I need support and I call for help, nobody is there, and Im left dead in the water as I drift further and further away. Being told "I love you" hurts 100x more knowing they are just words having no type of action to support it.
She kicked me out, and i'm doing a lot better now. The way she did it was so cruel and cold, she sent a text saying she didn't want me, her friend is moving into my room and she wants all my things gone. It really is painful hearing all of that. Thank you for this reply, it really helped me get some clarity on her behaviour. I've decided to CTB as soon as I can, as there's only so much trauma and pain a person can take.Those outbursts are a part of a cycle. The same thing happens with domestic violence. There's a cycle of attack, then apology, then waiting for the next attack. Leaving tends to be the only option.
I know it is confusing. This is because narcissistic parenting is all about the parent, whereas proper parenting is about caring for the young person. It's a profound sickness. You have to learn to make your life about you, not about her - a radical shift. If you can leave, I feel that you should.
In relationships, you will need guidance to avoid creating more narcissistic patterns, because right now it's all you know. There are good people out there, though. You are worthy of real love and proper, consistent care. You have a right to be here. This is a message that you need to have drummed into you.
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