Life_and_Death
Do what's best for you 🕯️ Right now, I'm stressed
- Jul 1, 2020
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im gonna start this off with i love my little brother. i was basically the one that raised him despite only being in middle school (junior high).
ive been trying to talk to him for a couple years now. check on him, try to be there for him to talk to if need be. things like that.
but seeing as hes the "wanted one" and gets treated like hes 18 despite only being 13....i just cant do it... its taking heavy mental wear on me and i...just dont think i can do it for 2 more years (why 2 yrs in case youre wondering, because then he'll be 16 (but you said hes 13, his bday is at the end of the month) meaning he can legally move out which means my mother is less likely to be a bitch and push things at the risk of losing him over me)
ive really tried. i keep my anger to myself (at my parents, not him. i dont do sibling rivalry and im not gonna blame him for his parents shitty parenting). well away from him, i vent to my exhus and bf because HOLY FUCK!!! (example, they murdered my chickens, blamed me at the age of 10. oh, and now he has his own that lay pretty blue eggs. YEAH IM FUCKING PISSED. and thats just one example) but i dont say anything to him. i either say "cool" and lie or just keep my mouth shut.
and it feels like hes constantly asking "are you mad at me??" (no im dealing with shit!!!!) so a week or so ago i went out of my way to explain to him "i cant see me ever being mad at you. i have no reason to be mad at you. but i promise that if im mad at you ill talk to you about it like an adult". well i decided to take the past week off from him related stress to deal with the stress of the 1st anniversary of the death of my cat (that meant the world to me). can you guess?? i have "are you mad at me?" messages waiting for me, that i left on unread, so hes not even aware ive read them.
am i wrong to "ghost" him until hes 16? idk what else to do...
ive been trying to talk to him for a couple years now. check on him, try to be there for him to talk to if need be. things like that.
but seeing as hes the "wanted one" and gets treated like hes 18 despite only being 13....i just cant do it... its taking heavy mental wear on me and i...just dont think i can do it for 2 more years (why 2 yrs in case youre wondering, because then he'll be 16 (but you said hes 13, his bday is at the end of the month) meaning he can legally move out which means my mother is less likely to be a bitch and push things at the risk of losing him over me)
ive really tried. i keep my anger to myself (at my parents, not him. i dont do sibling rivalry and im not gonna blame him for his parents shitty parenting). well away from him, i vent to my exhus and bf because HOLY FUCK!!! (example, they murdered my chickens, blamed me at the age of 10. oh, and now he has his own that lay pretty blue eggs. YEAH IM FUCKING PISSED. and thats just one example) but i dont say anything to him. i either say "cool" and lie or just keep my mouth shut.
and it feels like hes constantly asking "are you mad at me??" (no im dealing with shit!!!!) so a week or so ago i went out of my way to explain to him "i cant see me ever being mad at you. i have no reason to be mad at you. but i promise that if im mad at you ill talk to you about it like an adult". well i decided to take the past week off from him related stress to deal with the stress of the 1st anniversary of the death of my cat (that meant the world to me). can you guess?? i have "are you mad at me?" messages waiting for me, that i left on unread, so hes not even aware ive read them.
am i wrong to "ghost" him until hes 16? idk what else to do...