Mental suffering and unfulfilled sexual desire

[ZardozOmega]

What's an incell?

Involuntary celibate. People who want to have sex but can't, either because they're too ugly, too maladjusted, deformed, etc.

 

[BipolarGuy]

Involuntary celibate. People who want to have sex but can't, either because they're too ugly, too maladjusted, deformed, etc.

So there's now a word for people going through a 'dry patch'?

FFS

 

[ZardozOmega]

So there's now a word for people going through a 'dry patch'?

FFS

It's not a dry patch. It's a life-long thing. We're celibates. Forever virgins.

 

[Infinite Conscious]

Sex does not solve problems. Sex makes problems.
Even with a LOT of sex, girls and guys, one still gets on this forum, ready to off himself.

Sex also brings various problems... broken relationships due to infidelity, in my case HIV and then depression, women are too emotional and almost impossible to understand, while men are only interested in the physical part (usually only once, rarely more often) without emotional attachments.

Without exaggeration, I would say 70-80 partners (50-50% roughly).
And I would CTB right this fucking moment if I had a gun, N, an inert gas or even SN.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

As I already said, the sex alone is definitely not enough. It has to be fulfilling and come from a meaningful place. Involuntary celibates will never reach this because for whatever reason they will never be fulfilled in this way, usually because they are aware that no one would agree to even meaningless sex with them, let alone the meaningful kind. Why shame or condemn them for it though? Just because they're such an easy target doesn't mean you have to shoot for them. We all have our reasons one way or another to want to die and I thought people here agree that no one's suffering should be any lesser just because you can't relate to it or whatever.

 

[noaccount]

So there's now a word for people going through a 'dry patch'?

FFS

You're right it doesn't make any sense, since celebacy is by definition voluntary. Unfortunately it's really a word for violent entitled misogynists.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I'm calling your 'arguments' absurd because you're not actually arguing FOR anything other than the use of a word used to describe people going through a 'dry patch', and in discussing this you seem to bring up the most peculiar of points.
But anyway, I'm on this website to discuss my own mental health, not a subculture of people who have formed a group based on not being able to get laid.
Good luck to you.

I meant this thread, not the website. You're right. I'm not really taking a side here so my arguments probably do come off as strange in that way. Good luck to you too.

 

[adios]

I'll never experience any sort of love of any kind, sexual or not. I've never once had any meaningful social connection and I doubt it'll change.

 

[Incorrigible77777]

My situation is somehow similar. I have major depression and sexual addiction at the same time as well.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I'm hearing 25 & in California

What does California have to do with it?

 

[Wayfaerer]

High divorce rates are a blessing. For real.

When women stayed in 90 percent of marriages, it wasn't because they were "bonded," it was because they were trapped.

Not when the children are involved but fuck them right it's all about having fun now

 

[ritsulover]

I dont trust people enough to let them in and when I do I get too attached, and they run away or take advantage of me. I'm still a virgin with no sexual activity at all but that part doesn't bother me. I feel like I'm too broken to have a healthy or legitimate relationship, and thats all I want. I wouldn't say its the absolute root cause of my issues, but it certainly does help having just one person there to make you push yourself. Im too dependent when i get attached and thats an issue with myself. I don't know how to fix it. I've just never had anyone around me when growing up so when someone shows interest in me and I have interest back its like I try my hardest to keep their interest, but I always end up messing up. I even quit my benzo addiction and was clean for a month just for this guy I was with and I guess thats just too much for someone to handle. I'm not cut for people

 

[noaccount]

DIVORCE IS AN AMERICAN MIRACLE

WOMEN AND CHILDREN RISE UP

LEAVE YOUR CRUSTY ASSES BEHIND

BYE LMAO

 

[BipolarGuy]

You're trying too hard to do some kind of proof here (and failing badly too). You can spin it whichever way you'd like, but the fact is that "dry spell/patch" bears the implication that one has had prior experience. A 43 year old virgin male claiming to be going through a dry period is getting laughed out of the room.

Riiiiiiight......and telling a room full of adults that you're celibate, but not through choice, is going to be viewed seriously.
Get your head out of the echo chamber, mate.

 

[BipolarGuy]

I'm virgin but my mental illness has nothing to do with it. I never also masterbated in my life. I sometimes have sexual desire but I see it as a bad thing for a reason I don't know for sure. When I first learned about sexual intercourse and that babies are born as a result of it I remember being shocked and depressed for some weeks. From what I observed my parents didn't showed sexual behaviors. I want to believe that they only had sex to produce me and my 2 old siblings. I never mentioned the word sex or girlfriend around my family or anyone I know in person except to few of my friends.

But I believe my mental illness can be cured by the love of a woman other than my mother, sister and relatives. Last year I was approached by this girl. I immediately fell in love with her but she only saw me as a friend. I never told her that I loved her but I think she knew I did.

Your attitude towards relationships is in its infancy. Perhaps something from childhood has effected your view on this?

 

[catalepsy]

Not sex; but having a partner in crime, someone to help keep me motivated and on the right path while I help keep her motivated and on the right path... now, that's something special.

 

[Mercury6737]

Riiiiiiight......and telling a room full of adults that you're celibate, but not through choice, is going to be viewed seriously.
Get your head out of the echo chamber, mate.

And telling a room full of adults that you're a virgin after 43 years, but by choice, is going to be viewed seriously? See how that works?

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Not sex; but having a partner in crime, someone to help keep me motivated and on the right path while I help keep her motivated and on the right path... now, that's something special.

I don't know man, that's pretty immature and cringey. Have you ever considered that maybe you are just a stupid little baby? I'm going to continue to lurk in this thread just to tell this to anyone on this thread who feels the same way and that they're weird because they're lonely hahaha.

(Sorry about that and I hope you could tell my sarcasm. I relate to your words too, even more than just wanting sex alone)

 

[catalepsy]

I don't know man, that's pretty immature and cringey. Have you ever considered that maybe you are just a stupid little baby? I'm going to continue to lurk in this thread just to tell this to anyone on this thread who feels the same way and that they're weird because they're lonely hahaha.

(Sorry about that and I hope you could tell my sarcasm. I relate to your words too, even more than just wanting sex alone)

No worries, I tell people all the time I have a rhino-skinned psyche. I haven't had sex in 10+ years, I've basically stopped caring about it (if I ever did - can't remember). But being alone so long made me realize how much easier life is when you have someone else you're living it with - it's not so much loneliness as a practical consideration. If I'm left to my own devices, why would I want to improve anything when I could instead get high and pet a cat while watching crappy movies or play video games in my free time? Even getting out of the house is a chore. It's stupidly mundane.

 

[Meditation guide]

But being alone so long made me realize how much easier life is when you have someone else you're living it with - it's not so much loneliness as a practical consideration.

This is how I feel. I see married couples with much better lives in every way, financially as well as more options for recreation and living well. As long as neither is abusive in some way and there is a reasonable amount of mutual respect and companionship that is.

 

[BipolarGuy]

You can act as condescending as you'd like, you still haven't said anything yet lol.

Ok, I'm sorry you don't understand what has been said to you. Have a nice day.

 

[Loser47]

Same men, most of the suffering is because of unfulfilled desires

 

[Natty]

I would get plenty of sex and therefore my life would be beautiful and meaningful.

That's not how it works, unfortunately.

 

[262653]

That's not how it works, unfortunately.

Possibly. Even if it won't bring the fulfillment one was looking for, the consolation prize is knowing that the princess isn't here.

 

[ZardozOmega]

I want to motorboat Shawn Mendes' buttcheeks.

 

[Ethereal Knight]

Is it only me that I think that all my mental suffering is just because of unfulfilled sexual desire?
I don't know what true teen love is. I had only one sexual relationship later in my life. I suffered badly on a university since I was completely isolated and rejected by the opposite sex. If I was handsome and if I was born into rich family, I would get plenty of sex and therefore my life would be beautiful and meaningful.
What's you experience or view on this?

no, it's not just you.
but I don't think it's the sex itself, but the whole almost-spiritual experience of touch, affection, intimacy, connection etc...

 

[Dear Agony]

I definitely have unfulfilled sexual desires and a lot of sexual frustration, though that is no nowhere near the front of my mind when I think about CTB, I do not know for sure if I would be this way or not if they were fulfilled.

 

[Journeytoletgo]

Very similar to my story. Anxiety and OCD caused me to miss out on sexual relationships. Then the medication used to try and treat these issues and get laid caused sexual dysfunction. Permanently now. Throw in the fact that I got IBD from Accutane, which I used to clear up acne so I could be more confident around girls, and I really got fucked (metaphorically). The terrible irony. Thanks pharma.

Accutane is a horrible medication