I don't mean to be rude, but I don't get a word of this.

Are you saying that not being able to find love is not as devastating as losing it? I apologize in advance if I've misunderstood you.
So what if men can have satisfying sex with someone they don't love? I've never had any trouble getting laid, but I was still miserable for over 20 years because I was starved for intimacy. Yes, it's fun to fuck a guy, but it doesn't compare to holding him the morning after & being appreciated as a person instead of just a sweaty body with a dick.