Venting Is this obsession or love?

[Lamentice]

To make a long story short; I had a very turbulent friendship with someone for 4 years or so. I had a crush on them for a majority chunk of that time & in January last year I told them... the conversation following wasn't reciprocal, but it wasn't anything negative or mean either. Nonetheless soon after that marked the end of our friendship, they disappointed me (for reasons related but not directly tied to that conversation), some things about everything just weren't gonna work out, I held hurt and resentment from the friendship (so did they), and all said and done I stopped contacting them. They didn't contact me either until months later, like 6-8 months later, with a closed ended something like "hope you're doing well" and some hug emoji's. I responded equally close ended at the time, I can't quite remember if they reached out again too, but I didn't have them as a contact in my phone anymore. They texted again in December, still closed ended, and I didn't respond and am not gonna.

Whatever whatever, drama drama, my question is: I have thought about them everyday since cutting contact, for probably hours most days, just thinking about if I could chat with them, how much I miss them, fantasizing about how I wish things could've turned out, blah blah, fluffy romantic unrealistic stuff. When we were friends I thought about them everyday as well and that went on for years. I don't plan on rebuilding any kind of relationship with them and doubt they will ever reach out with anything open ended (if they ever reach out again). Do I just fall intensely? Or is this obsession? I just want them out of my head so I can stop fixating and maybe even meet someone new.

 

[violetforever]

i have a similar situation and problem. i wish it remained as a friendship like yours did. id like to know whats wrong with me. i dont think im sane enough to answer for the both of us if its love or obsession. i think of them everyday and 99% of me knows any type of relationship for us is over and the 1% hopes they will come around again. im not open to meeting anyone new though. they ruined me. i dont know if it affects you this deeply but i want to die over it sometimes. i cant stand having them on my mind all the time.

 

[Lamentice]

i have a similar situation and problem. i wish it remained as a friendship like yours did. id like to know whats wrong with me. i dont think im sane enough to answer for the both of us if its love or obsession. i think of them everyday and 99% of me knows any type of relationship for us is over and the 1% hopes they will come around again. im not open to meeting anyone new though. they ruined me. i dont know if it affects you this deeply but i want to die over it sometimes. i cant stand having them on my mind all the time.

I'm not gonna actively look for anyone, but if the ideal person landed on my doorstep from the sky I'd be open. So idk, I kind of feel ya.

It's very annoying & sad for me, but its never been one of the contributor's to me being suicidal. I'm sorry friend