Is anyone else here NEET/hikikomori?

[come to dust]

If any hikis would like to join a discord community i am part of for hikis, feel free to message me.

 

[LivideLamb]

Been a hikikomori for 7 years now. I have zero friends, no social interaction except for some discord servers. The only people IRL I talk to are friends of my parents. I can't interact with people my age, It's always so awkward. They're going to uni, having a 9 to 5 job, even a significant other. And what do I do? I spent my days painting in my room. I stopped going to school a long time ago. I'm trying to build my life back but it's freaking hard.

 

[corvoscuro]

That's me.

 

[MatthewV3]

I've been on neet since I've graduated my highschool, so that's 3 years already. I was home schooled for 4 years, so I didn't have contact with society. 7 years of being hikikomori.

 

[TakeMeBack07]

for 2 years after finishing a-levels. i feel alienated

 

[Messgram]

Been a hikikomori for 7 years now. I have zero friends, no social interaction except for some discord servers. The only people IRL I talk to are friends of my parents. I can't interact with people my age, It's always so awkward. They're going to uni, having a 9 to 5 job, even a significant other. And what do I do? I spent my days painting in my room. I stopped going to school a long time ago. I'm trying to build my life back but it's freaking hard.

why do people brag about working so hard? Do you really think Its good to have 9 jobs and no time to do anything else in your life because you'r some greedy boss slave?

 

[Judy Garland]

I'm an invalid, yes. Society has made me this way, cheered my abusive parents on throughout my childhood and now what you see here is the result. I'm tired and ready to go home.

 

[its-about-time]

Not always and I don't think I'd meet the definitions, but I do go through phases where I isolate for months at a time and generally don't leave my house except to smoke a cig, certainly disappear from any social world. Trips into the real world every few weeks to restock cigs and whatever else. Living alone, grocery delivery, and being on disability makes this possible. I crawl out at some point and rejoin the world until the next bout.

 

[FogFilledLife]

I can't hold a job. I almost graduated college, but I have no money to finish it and have forgotten all the knowledge.

 

[RN12]

I'm a forced hikikomori by pharma when they disabled me with their shit med

 

[LivideLamb]

why do people brag about working so hard? Do you really think Its good to have 9 jobs and no time to do anything else in your life because you'r some greedy boss slave?

Exact-freaking-ly. I have to wholeheartedly agree. Wage slaving and discovering that your life has no meaning at 45 really seems like the dream huh.

 

[veryhappyhuman]

Exact-freaking-ly. I have to wholeheartedly agree. Wage slaving and discovering that your life has no meaning at 45 really seems like the dream huh.

With or without "wageslaving", most of our lives never had meaning anyway (mine didn't at least). I'm a proper NEET now but heavy work did keep me mentally occupied and leave slightly less "space" for ctb thoughts until recently, as pathetic as that sounds. So it was worth in that sense IMO. Plus I get to spend whatever little money I earned, before I do the deed we're all here for -- it gives you about as much pleasure as a wank. Ain't that something. Lol.

 

[Messgram]

With or without "wageslaving", most of our lives never had meaning anyway (mine didn't at least). I'm a proper NEET now but heavy work did keep me mentally occupied and leave slightly less "space" for ctb thoughts until recently, as pathetic as that sounds. So it was worth in that sense IMO. Plus I get to spend whatever little money I earned, before I do the deed we're all here for -- it gives you about as much pleasure as a wank. Ain't that something. Lol.

If life has no meaning then why so much work? better spend your time on yourself, waking up when you want and doing what you want for the day. Having to wake up before the sun comes up and work 9 hours a day like a fking slave for an arrogant asshole who treats me like trash has made my mental state even worse.
Occupying my mind never removed my negative thoughts. The only advantage amidst all this is the money you mentioned, but it doesn't justify all the sacrifice i do on that shit of job.

 

[veryhappyhuman]

If life has no meaning then why so much work? better spend your time on yourself, waking up when you want and doing what you want for the day. Having to wake up before the sun comes up and work 9 hours a dayb like a fking slave for an arrogant asshole who treats me like trash has made my mental state even worse.
Occupying my mind didn't remove my negative thoughts either. The only advantage amidst all this is the money you mentioned, but it doesn't justify all the sacrifice i do on that shit of job.

I totally understand where you're coming from. But for me, there was nothing else in my life that I could spend time on anyway. I never had friends or a social circle of any sort that I could spend time with. There was nothing else I'd rather be doing.

Plus, I didn't have the shitty boss problem you had. In fact, I was the bosses' pet because I slaved away so hard for them like a loser. On Friday nights when everyone else was out partying I'd be at my office literally alone, slaving away, even doing others' work. They loved me even more because I didn't even ask for salary hikes or promotions -- wtf was I gonna do with more money than I need, go on a vacation with friends? Buy my non-existent girlfriend jewelry? Lol. My coworkers actually nicknamed me "robot" because I had no life.

Heavy work was basically my crutch, an unhealthy substitute for a normal life. Just like my hand substitutes a girlfriend lol. Of course, now I'm too mentally broken and exhausted to continue, which is why I'm a NEET.

 

[Messgram]

I totally understand where you're coming from. But for me, there was nothing else in my life that I could spend time on anyway. I never had friends or a social circle of any sort that I could spend time with. There was nothing else I'd rather be doing.

Plus, I didn't have the shitty boss problem you had. In fact, I was the bosses' pet because I slaved away so hard for them like a loser. On Friday nights when everyone else was out partying I'd be at my office literally alone, slaving away, even doing others' work. They loved me even more because I didn't even ask for salary hikes or promotions -- wtf was I gonna do with more money than I need, go on a vacation with friends? Buy my non-existent girlfriend jewelry? Lol. My coworkers actually nicknamed me "robot" because I had no life.

Heavy work was basically my crutch, an unhealthy substitute for a normal life. Just like my hand substitutes a girlfriend lol. Of course, now I'm too mentally broken and exhausted to continue, which is why I'm a NEET.

I will never understand your way of thinking. I also don't have friends and social circle, i Will never have GF either. But when I'm alone I always find something to distract me like music, game, getting drunk or just sleep, which in my opinion is definitely better than being a slave.

Enslaving yourself so you don't feel the pain of boredom is like when you breaking an arm you decide to rip it off so you don't have to feel the pain of a broken arm.... what's the logic on It, like wtf???
Trading one exhausting pain for another... I see it as the peak of insignificance/suffering, I can't imagine a more meaningless life. No offense, just being Very honest.

 

[ThePaleWhiteLight]

Life probably has some grand meaning in the abstract, but probably not on the individual level - you are simply the tiniest possible slice of this meaning. A hundred trillion years from now post-humanity is probably one of a hundred billion sentient races that restart the universe and avoid heat death (or maybe the next sentient species that arises on Earth after we're long gone is, with shells incorporating our microplastics into them). Or something. But on the individual level, all this is irrelevant. The individual being is here for almost no time at all.

 

[veryhappyhuman]

I will never understand your way of thinking. I also don't have friends and social circle, i Will never have GF either. But when I'm alone I always find something to distract me like music, games or just sleep, which in my opinion is definitely better than being a slave.

Enslaving yourself so you don't feel the pain of boredom is like when you breaking an arm you decide to rip it off so you don't have to feel the pain of a broken arm.... what's the logic on It, like wtf???
Trading one exhausting pain for another... I see it as the peak of insignificance/suffering, I can't imagine a more meaningless life. No offense, just being Very honest.

None taken. As I said, I definitely appreciate where you're coming from even if you can't mine. Your arm analogy is bad though because we do get something back out of the pain with work, unlike with ripping off the arm. I'd rather compare wageslaving with drugs or alcohol addiction -- you get something back even if it's insignificant and ends up destructive in the long term, and there's definitely a masochistic / self-destructive aspect to it. No wonder they call it "workaholism" :)

As for distracting myself with music etc, I lose interest in shit very quickly. Barely anything manages to hold my attention for more than 5 minutes. As a long-term insomniac (admittedly, at least partly due to aforementioned workaholism) sleep as a distraction isn't a viable option either. Aside from work, my only real, long-term distraction used to be various genres of porn, but my prolonged depression has ended my interest in that too.

TLDR: I can see how wageslaving is pointless, but I don't regret what I did. If I hadn't wageslaved for 15+ years I'd have definitely gone insane years ago. Work wasn't the cure or solution but it definitely took the edge off.

 

[Messgram]

None taken. As I said, I definitely appreciate where you're coming from even if you can't mine. Your arm analogy is bad though because we do get something back out of the pain with work, unlike with ripping off the arm.

That's the point of my analogy. What do you get from work?
Money is irrelevant when you have nothing to spend or your parents give you enough.
Absence of boredom is also not a gain, for distraction is dull and only makes you more miserable.

 

[Talvikki]

I do not leave my house anymore. I could be described as a Hikikomori.

 

[zombie_resident]

Was a NEET/hiki for 4 years until I decided to take some hybrid classes. I still wish I was a NEET. I'm trying to save up enough money for N but at this rate I might have to settle for SN.

 

[MaybeThisTime]

I am an Hikikomori for sure.
Videogames and anime all day, eat, sleep. Repeat.
0 Social Interactions, no friends, dropped studies, never worked a day in my life, hardly leave my house (unless i want to buy soda and junk food ehehe).
I've been in this situation for about 15 years.
I Just hope to ctb as soon as possibile.

P.S : Welcome the NHK, best anime ever.