Discussion Is a local SS meet up useful?

[not-2-b-the-answer]

Who's making the Kool-Aid?

If it's "Jim Jones" …. I'm TOTALLY in.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

Yes it is. Too dark?

Not for me

 

[CJM]

It's probably so geographically varied that it would be difficult. I'll gladly meet some of you but I live in literally the bottom of the world that's even frequently left off world maps. Look up maps without New Zealand, it's a thing !

 

[Grey-zone]

I think a more appropriate, safer approach would be to create a thread asking if anybody is around your area, as some have already done. That way at least you can communicate with locals and, once sufficient trust has been established, maybe meet up as friends, without any legal excuse for outside interference. A specific gathering would send off alarm bells to ignorant people, although I admit that the idea is enticing. There are all kinds of Meetups and other groups, so why not one for suicide? Only lazy taboos prevent this.

 

[JustAboutDone]

It's probably so geographically varied that it would be difficult. I'll gladly meet some of you but I live in literally the bottom of the world that's even frequently left off world maps. Look up maps without New Zealand, it's a thing !

Oh that's fine I've always fancied a little holiday there ;-)

 

[Cookiedough8956]

We could all meet up and have a party with Nembutal-spiked cocktails.

That sounds like fun

 

[Cookiedough8956]

I don't think it will a good idea for some reason; and if I see a kid, I'm most def NOT going to be okay.

 

[21Neberg]

I'd love to be there except I'm technically and adult however I still look about eleven years old so people would probably try to 'save' me which I understand. Besides, I'd be too afraid to actually walk over to my suicidal friends.

 

[Amber1974]

I'd be down, but not to discuss CTB, just for the lulz. Judging by this thread however, I'd be sat there by myself. Surely at least one person wants to have a drink with me?

Let's go, you buying? Hahaa

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

Let's go, you buying? Hahaa

Yes, but you're capped at $3.78 because my checking account resembles a six year old's.

 

[Amber1974]

Yes, but you're capped at $3.78 because my checking account resembles a six year old's.

Aw man that does me no good Hahaa

 

[mpti]

Oh that's fine I've always fancied a little holiday there ;-)

I have to admit, it's really pretty sad how international this place is. Whether you're white, black, Hispanic, Asian, male, female, straight, gay, poor, rich, tall or short, we can all agree on one thing: life sucks and suicide is the only solution.

 

[FTL.Wanderer]

Last summer I had a gig in Cal from the East Coast. I drove across country over 3 week, staying in different cities to take in some sights. In every city, I joined a Meet-Up group for people like us. I wouldn't do that again. I enjoy killing time reading comments on this site, but being suicidal (most of us together) doesn't seem to be enough to make it likely we'd get along in person. Maybe it's just me, but every group seems to have a social hierarchy going on. If you're on the alienated end of the ... alienated group, that can be tough to deal with. But if you guys make it happen, I'd like to read about how it goes.

 

[Grey-zone]

I've also been doing the Meetup thing. I go to a depression game group where nobody talks about their depression. It's a bit odd, but at least it provides a brief respite from the mind-numbing isolation in my daily life. I would love to have other people to talk with in person about suicide, but somehow a group would spoil it. Too many people. Maybe 3 would work.

 

[FTL.Wanderer]

I've also been doing the Meetup thing. I go to a depression game group where nobody talks about their depression. It's a bit odd, but at least it provides a brief respite from the mind-numbing isolation in my daily life. I would love to have other people to talk with in person about suicide, but somehow a group would spoil it. Too many people. Maybe 3 would work.

I think you're right--a small group (at least would work for me) with more intimacy, less competitiveness and alpha-toggling.

 

[Jacquelyn]

No one talks about it (for obvious reasons) but some people want to hurt others before they CTB. Unloading an AK-47 into a group of people who want to die is an easy way for them to achieve their goals without a guilty conscience.

So, it sounds cool, but no.

 

[JustAboutDone]

I think you're right--a small group (at least would work for me) with more intimacy, less competitiveness and alpha-toggling.

Liking the phrase "alpha-toggling"

 

[cornflowerblue]

I'd prefer a group that's "friendly" to certain topics but isn't designed around being suicidal. The way that groups are LGBT friendly and you can talk about your same sex partner with no consequences, but the group itself is about kickball or knitting and it about being LGBT.

 

[DreamsofDeath]

Meet up at this pub maybe?

 

[JustAboutDone]

Meet up at this pub maybe?

Yep! Mine is a JD and Coke no ice! Hold hands all the way down? :-)

 

[DreamsofDeath]

Yep! Mine is a JD and Coke no ice! Hold hands all the way down? :-)

Excellent plan. I'll have a few of whatever local ale they have on then a double rum and coke, stay until closing then head over!

 

[JustAboutDone]

Excellent plan. I'll have a few of whatever local ale they have on then a double rum and coke, stay until closing then head over!

Perfect :-) we can just stumble over the edge singing

 

[DreamsofDeath]

Perfect :-) we can just stumble over the edge singing

It'll be no different to stumbling over and drifting off after any debauched evening out, only no hangover to worry about

 

[JustAboutDone]

It'll be no different to stumbling over and drifting off after any debauched evening out, only no hangover to worry about

Exactly - no having to deal with paracetamol, pints of water and people talking LOUDLY

 

[DreamsofDeath]

Exactly - no having to deal with paracetamol, pints of water and people talking LOUDLY

The perfect end to the perfect pub trip.

 

[Othermind]

Sounds like a really bad idea.
Not pointing fingers, but I'm fairly certain there's predators lurking around here who are just waiting for a chance like this.
Having a partners thread is already crossing the line for me when it comes to safety, this is not something that should be endorsed by the forum in any way.

 

[JustAboutDone]

Sounds like a really bad idea.
Not pointing fingers, but I'm fairly certain there's predators lurking around here who are just waiting for a chance like this.
Having a partners thread is already crossing the line for me when it comes to safety, this is not something that should be endorsed by the forum in any way.

Yes, the partner thread creeps me out a bit

 

[Chinaski]

Sounds like a really bad idea.
Not pointing fingers, but I'm fairly certain there's predators lurking around here who are just waiting for a chance like this.
Having a partners thread is already crossing the line for me when it comes to safety, this is not something that should be endorsed by the forum in any way.

I'd add to this by pointing out I've seen a number of friendships from this forum, even on a loose level and based entirely on text communication, from both close up and out of the corner of my eye and they pretty much always lead to some dramatic falling out which spills over into exctutiating unpleasant weirdness, this is definitely not the place to start if one is wishing to broaden their social circle imo.

 

[JustAboutDone]

I'd add to this by pointing out I've seen a number of friendships from this forum, even on a loose level and based entirely on text communication, from both close up and out of the corner of my eye and they pretty much always lead to some dramatic falling out which spills over into exctutiating unpleasant weirdness, this is definitely not the place to start if one is wishing to broaden their social circle imo.

It was your fault for refusing to meet me at The Red Lion in Dunstable

 

[Chinaski]

It was your fault for refusing to meet me at The Red Lion in Dunstable

In fairness, l include myself in that. Stay out of my pms folks, I'm a right horrible cunt.