NSFW Incomprehensible

[BodyOfDaffodil]

I've been in the hospital all day, getting fluids and DNA swabs and I'm exhausted. My father and his girlfriend showed up to the hospital, and they sat down with me. I thought my father was going to comfort me, yell at me or something.

Instead I get him and his girlfriend telling him that her son 'R' didn't see me as a step sister and told me that this was natural. That he was sexually frustrated with my supposed teasing and basically said that it was natural.

My mind is reeling and I've been hung over all day both off vodka and weed mixed with T3s and gabbies. I cannot comprehend this anymore. I feel broken. I feel disgusting, yet I'm wondering that if this was all my fault.

 

[wagner2029]

what happened?

 

[wait.what]

Don't listen to the creep's mother. She may not even believe her own BS. She wouldn't be the first to cynically try to con an assault survivor into taking on the blame for what happened to them. The only goal is to keep a predatory relative from having to accept responsibility for their actions.

You know what her bizarre "natural" excuse suggests to me? Her son has done this before. Probably often. You'd expect a typical mother to react with shock and horror at the idea that her son had been accused of being a sexual predator. If someone said that about my nephew, my sister would be like, "What?? He couldn't have! He isn't like that!" etc. Not your dad's gf, though. She just says, "Oh, that? Yeah, that's natural."

I can't tell from your posts on the subject how many options you have here, but at least reject this stupid woman's attempt to make you the fall guy for a crime someone else committed against you.

 

[The Schizoid]

what happened?

She was the victim of R

 

[MindFrog]

Wtf? Victim blaming much? Don't even think for second that you're at fault. It's not something that you wanted to happen and you can't let these people tell you otherwise.

This world is unfair and unjust so you should put your own wellbeing first rather than bow down to your step mother and tolerate her son's SexUAl fRusTRatIOn.

They're the ones whose disgusting. They're the ones whose reprehensible.
Don't think of yourself as one of them.

 

[Endisclose]

I've been in the hospital all day, getting fluids and DNA swabs and I'm exhausted. My father and his girlfriend showed up to the hospital, and they sat down with me. I thought my father was going to comfort me, yell at me or something.

Instead I get him and his girlfriend telling him that her son 'R' didn't see me as a step sister and told me that this was natural. That he was sexually frustrated with my supposed teasing and basically said that it was natural.

My mind is reeling and I've been hung over all day both off vodka and weed mixed with T3s and gabbies. I cannot comprehend this anymore. I feel broken. I feel disgusting, yet I'm wondering that if this was all my fault.

I am so sorry for what has happened to you. What you describe here sounds like classic gaslighting. I know cause I've been a victim of it and it has ended up costing me my life. What you are being subjected to is straight up abuse. This son you are talking about may not look at you as a step sister, but that doesn't give him the right to commit assault.

This person's mother and your father are not looking out for you if they don't tell you as much. I hope you are aware of what gaslighting is and how harmful it can be to one's mental health and hope you get the help you need.

 

[wagner2029]

Ela foi vítima de R

R?

 

[LifeIsCrazyNemb]

R?

Estupr

 

[Linda]

I'm sorry you're in this situation. Can you explain more about what happened? How did you finish up in hospital? It's hard to offer useful advice when I don't fully understand what is going on.

 

[cryone]

im so sorry. none of this is your fault. HE sexually assaulted you and violated you. it is absolutely unnatural and unjustified for him to rape you. based on your other thread where u said u told him no several times it's obvious that he didn't respect you whatsoever n knew damn well he was hurting you.

 

[F@#$]

Who gives a fuck what a rapist thinks? Un fucking acceptable. He didn't see you a sister he saw you as a victim

 

[The Schizoid]

I've been in the hospital all day, getting fluids and DNA swabs and I'm exhausted. My father and his girlfriend showed up to the hospital, and they sat down with me. I thought my father was going to comfort me, yell at me or something.

Instead I get him and his girlfriend telling him that her son 'R' didn't see me as a step sister and told me that this was natural. That he was sexually frustrated with my supposed teasing and basically said that it was natural.

My mind is reeling and I've been hung over all day both off vodka and weed mixed with T3s and gabbies. I cannot comprehend this anymore. I feel broken. I feel disgusting, yet I'm wondering that if this was all my fault.

The longer you leave it the more chance he has of getting away.

Please stop debating this with yourself, and go to the cops asap. Please just do it.

 

[melons0da]

I feel broken. I feel disgusting, yet I'm wondering that if this was all my fault.

THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. WAS NEVER YOUR FAULT BUT THE FAULT OF R

you said yourself you never saw him in that way + that you said no the entire time, YOU FOUGHT BACK. it was his choice to keep ignoring and minimzing/overlooking your non-consent. you were also coerced into taking substances despite you already refusing to in the first place. so even in the case that there was any 'consent' given, it wouldn't be actually consent as you werent in the right frame of mind to properly give it.

Instead I get him and his girlfriend telling him that her son 'R' didn't see me as a step sister and told me that this was natural.

NOT NATURAL BTW, dont take their bs excuses and gaslighting. 'R' and your POS guardians obviously has been enabled/encouraged to think that this situation is 'normal' when its just him being a horrible human being.

I've been in the hospital all day, getting fluids and DNA swabs and I'm exhausted.

totally get you since this kits usually run through so many tests that feel intrusive and tiring (when you are already struggling to process what happened). but no matter what, please know that you are doing a good thing going through this process since its both good for increasing your chances at having a strong case if you ever decide in the future to go that path (the information will be there for you, even if you wait a while before reporting it as a crime), but also good so you know straight away if anything happens to your health


I know that this will be/ has been tough for you, but know that no matter how bad it seems, there will be people who will take you seriously and will help you. btw this does NOT include your guardians (if they can even be considered that)

I'm sorry you're in this situation. Can you explain more about what happened? How did you finish up in hospital? It's hard to offer useful advice when I don't fully understand what is going on.

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