Discussion In what state will you leave your family and friends?

[ChildrensITV]

This turned into a rant, so I boldened the on-topic stuff:

So I am an only child. My dad died when I was young. It has just been me and my mum for all these decades. It only just dawned on me this morning how brutal it is going to be for her. Her whole immediate family will have died on her before time, either through illness or suicide. She is going to be broken. But the only alternative is me to be broken AND a burden.

My friend of decades is going to be left in a bad way too. I am his closest friend who sees him the most. We get along well cuz we are around the same level of loserhood, except he is doing better than me.

I dunno what else to do. I have no motivation for anything. I have a job interview this week but I don't even have the motivation to do a job. My mental health is in the ABSOLUTE SHITTER. I can barely bring myself to do basic tasks. Getting dressed is "progress". I go to sleep crying. I wake up crying. I dream about the worries that plague me in the daytime. It's to the point where I am convinced that I am being trolled in a cosmic joke. I feel like, everytime I eat food, I am participating in my own ongoing mental suffering.

I had planned to get everything ready for early 2024 and then deciding, but even waiting til then seems untenable. So I guess I just have to hurt others. Well, this is a no-win situation.

Is it better to be in a situation where you leave two parents to grieve and have eachother to support eachother? Is it better to have siblings so that your parents don't feel so abandoned? Or is it worse because there are more people to hurt?


How do you see them coping? Will your parents likely divorce? Are they the type to take up hobbies to fill the void? Will they get a pet? Will they be broken for the rest of their life?

 

[Das Nichts]

Single child, my parents are already divorced. I assume my mother will cope better, my father not so much.
He has a new partner, though.

Not sure about my grandparents, but their time is running out already. Especially for my grandfather.

I try not to worry about this too much because it's not predictable what happens.

 

[WorthlessCoward]

I wish I could leave them all burning alive for eternity but the cruelty of time will do

 

[depressedlover]

My mum will definitely be broken,but at least she still had my young bro by her side.
My grandma will probably be devastated or die (i don't know for sure how she'll cope,she loves me but she really has lots of other grandchildren)
My brother might get into depression or might toughen up now that who they consider the strongest will be gone
I really don't want to think about it because it's my main worry at the moment.But i can't live for them while i'm unhappy with my life.
I really don't know how they'll cope with another death exactly a year after dad.
Sincerely,I'm really tired of always thinking about others instead of me.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

Unsure. It might kill my mother tbh.

However, I cannot factor this into my decision. Staying around for other people won't compensate for a mediocre life.

 

[Grav]

Wife: inconvenienced and her siblings would be sad for a while. She'd get money and be better off financially with me gone.
Daughter: probably be most fucked up of anyone. **Only one I really care about being hurt.
My siblings: would be "shocked and amazed" for a little while, cry at funeral, but in the end not be surprised at all.
Parents: both dead on both sides.

 

[leavingsoon99]

My friends will be sad. My brothers won't care. I'm in a unique situation. I don't have many social connections. I have a few friends and feel blessed to have them. They'll be okay. We hear it all the time. Life goes on. And it does. It's not that I'm dismissing their feelings, or I don't care. But I'm tired of the burden of life. I don't value it like they do. My wish is that they see that and come to terms with it.

 

[FuneralCry]

The reality is that once someone has left this world nothing will be able to matter to them as they simply won't exist at that point.
And anyway grief and loss are just an inevitable part of existing here, we all have to die and lose everything someday, eventually most of us won't even likely exist in the memories of those who continue to stay here. None of us are obligated to suffer for the sake of other people, if people don't wish to deal with loss then they shouldn't procreate as creating life could only ever lead to death.

 

[Archness]

My family would grieve and be sad for a month... to half a year tops (the time of the funeral would effect the timings somewhat). Then they'd "move on". Mother could rationalize as always that something other then her caused it, and/or another instance of me being a defective slime. Everyone else in the family doesn't really have the emotional investment to really care if I die one way or another. The wild card would be farther, but he already experienced having a dead-end child, maybe he'd think it's just a logical end for a person as myself, or blame himself; However we're not really connected, and I'm certain he can move on from another dead-end-child.

Everyone else outside of my family? They wouldn't knew I killed myself, ever. There's no contact, and they wouldn't care at all.