Venting I'm convinced my online friends hate me

[grass]

Or at least dislike me or think I'm weird or something. But I wish they would just tell me instead of keeping me around for no reason. I impulsively texted one of them once at like 3 am that it's fine if they don't think I belong in the group anymore but then I deleted all the messages and went back to crying and feeling sorry for myself. Life is pain I hate

 

[Leonard_Bangley39]

i fell almost completely the same way. i contemplate just deleting discord and going offline forever almost everyday

 

[grass]

i fell almost completely the same way. i contemplate just deleting discord and going offline forever almost everyday

Me too, I want to just leave the group but I don't want to cause drama or seem like I'm attention seeking

 

[violetforever]

ugh you may just have to step away yourself. i feel like people never want to take initiative to cut contact in these situations so theyll feel better. they hope you finally walk away on your own so they can say the blame isnt on them because it was your move. thats what i did.

i didnt think my old online friends hated me but i could definitely sense that the friendships were drifting apart and i was always seen as the weird and disadvantaged one. some friends were closer than others and had their own small group inside of the entire friend group and/or had friends in person. i have no one so i depended on my online friends and only had them. i knew they were tired of dealing with me year after year without me getting better and being constantly depressed over my life. none of them have reached out to me so that makes it pretty obvious i wasnt wanted anymore. i dont have any negative feelings towards them at all, we just outgrew each other and i know im not anyones first choice as a friend for how difficult i am. nothing lasts forever.

 

[grass]

ugh you may just have to step away yourself. i feel like people never want to take initiative to cut contact in these situations so theyll feel better. they hope you finally walk away on your own so they can say the blame isnt on them because it was your move. thats what i did.

i didnt think my old online friends hated me but i could definitely sense that the friendships were drifting apart and i was always seen as the weird and disadvantaged one. some friends were closer than others and had their own small group inside of the entire friend group and/or had friends in person. i have no one so i depended on my online friends and only had them. i knew they were tired of dealing with me year after year without me getting better and being constantly depressed over my life. none of them have reached out to me so that makes it pretty obvious i wasnt wanted anymore. i dont have any negative feelings towards them at all, we just outgrew each other and i know im not anyones first choice as a friend for how difficult i am. nothing lasts forever.

Ok this actually gave me some encouragement to actually be honest and have some courage and talk to them about it because that would definitely be better than me just sulking about it quietly. Idk when I'll do it but I might, I don't talk to them as much as I used to anyway so I don't really care as much. But thank you for the response anyway, like I said I found it helpful<3

 

[violetforever]

Ok this actually gave me some encouragement to actually be honest and have some courage and talk to them about it because that would definitely be better than me just sulking about it quietly. Idk when I'll do it but I might, I don't talk to them as much as I used to anyway so I don't really care as much. But thank you for the response anyway, like I said I found it helpful<3

im seriously happy my reply helped u and i hope for the best outcome)

 

[LongJacks]

Or at least dislike me or think I'm weird or something. But I wish they would just tell me instead of keeping me around for no reason. I impulsively texted one of them once at like 3 am that it's fine if they don't think I belong in the group anymore but then I deleted all the messages and went back to crying and feeling sorry for myself. Life is pain I hate

I have much experience with this... I've had so many different online friends throughout 10 whole years and none of them stick... don't get attached believe me what I'm saying, I thought some of these people were my best of friends, even brothers and sisters... it will only hurt, speak to people online that's fine but don't get attached is my advice

 

[violetforever]

I have much experience with this... I've had so many different online friends throughout 10 whole years and none of them stick... don't get attached believe me what I'm saying, I thought some of these people were my best of friends, even brothers and sisters... it will only hurt, speak to people online that's fine but don't get attached is my advice

yeah i feel like it has to do with how vast and quick the internet is. its not like real life where youre limited to the people in your city since thats where you are most of the time unless you travel i guess. you have this access to different people all over the world at the click of a finger. so easy to be replaced and forgotten. i feel like the internet only seems like some sort of haven for lonely people but its really not…

 

[LongJacks]

yeah i feel like it has to do with how vast and quick the internet is. its not like real life where youre limited to the people in your city since thats where you are most of the time unless you travel i guess. you have this access to different people all over the world at the click of a finger. so easy to be replaced and forgotten. i feel like the internet only seems like some sort of haven for lonely people but its really not…

Exactly

 

[astr4]

it's really easy to fall into this thought pattern, i do it all the time.

for me i try and think rationally. i suck at video games and these guys still wanna queue with me. every time i want to get off to go to bed they complain and ask me to run one more. idk what your case looks like but look at their actions. they might not say explicitly (esp if they're guys cause in my experience they're less likely to verbalize stuff like "love u bro") but their actions will show.

are you always the one messaging first? are you the one reaching out? do they ever ask how life is going for you?

if you genuinely feel like they're not real friends to you there's no reason for you to keep them around.

forget if they like you. do you even like them? if you don't like them why do you want them to like you? if they're avoiding answering you and ghosting you and stuff i wouldn't even waste my time because frankly you deserve better.

but you need to look at it honestly without bias. bad friendships are worth torpedoing. but if you're maybe just feeling lonely and insecure that's the wrong time to make that call.