Discussion If someone you loved committed suicide, would you want them to tell you goodbye?

[Tkmiz_Tsukumizu]

Yes I do, if anything else you should owe it to your loved ones so they don't worry about you thinking you were murdered, raped or just vanished. Giving closure is important for those left behind. I am glad my mother did so before she passed.

 

[aneurysm]

No. Because if they told me that, I'd call the cops immediately. I know it doesn't make any sense but I'm just human.

I would want them to leave me a note or a video but not tell me anything.

 

[autisticalex]

no

 

[May]

I would want them to right it down on a piece of paper. That way I would have something left to hold onto. You can't hold onto words but you can hold onto to something they touched.

 

[LONE WOLF.]

I'd go and ctb with them!

 

[avoid_slow_death]

Yes. Although it would hurt immeasurably, it is better, long term, to have that sort of closure.

 

[JustAMatterOfTime]

Sure and I would join them

 

[nobodyspecial]

Yeah, I would want to know.

 

[Lady black]

I would like it if I was informed and maybe would support them by holding their hands or something

 

[Anonymous 4]

Yes

 

[PDAnnie2610]

Yes. I would. My best mate didn't and she made sure to toss me out before leaving. I found out 2 years, too late. It had hurt.

I know I can't tell those I love a proper goodbye but I'll leave behind presents to remember me by, I hope.

 

[motel rooms]

He said goodbye, I told him he'd pay for fucking with my dangerously delicate mind for years, & he paid in his own blood. Not quite what I was expecting. Well played, asshole. Not all people who ctb are tormented angels.

 

[idealniymir]

Yes, then I'd ask them to wait for me so we can do it together. No note needed, I want to dream forever with someone, not alone, miserable and in the dark.

What the title says. If someone you cared about was committed to suicide, would you want them to be able to say goodbye? Or would you rather not know until after it happened? Curious to know everyone's opinions.

I myself am not sure. One the one hand I would love for them to be able to tell me goodbye. I think it shows a great level of love and trust and respect. On the other hand I guess it would greatly depend on why they were committing suicide. But I was raised in a very pro-life environment, so saving people who dont want to be saved is engrained in me. I would probably feel guilty for not saving someone if I knew they were dying in that moment.

 

[sadpinky]

Speaking from experience it hurts.. a lot to not get a goodbye.

 

[hamvil]

I have no friends, let alone a person that would consider me close enough to share such an information. On a purely theoretical basis I would like that.

 

[tired868686]

I think you can say goodbye in your own way without saying you are going to kill yourself.
Saying that outright leads to too many complications.

 

[FuneralCry]

I think that for me a note would be enough of a goodbye, but after all it would be up to the person whether they would want to leave any kind of farewell message. It's understandable why someone would want to ctb in a world like this. Life itself is enough of a reason for me to ctb so if someone decided to ctb that I knew then they would not have to justify why they did this. I understand and respect anyones decision to leave.

 

[y'ffre]

No, I hate goodbyes.