"I'd like to feel a bit better/ I'd like to recover" Support Group Megathread

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

Middle Eastern friend has brutally forced me to use my voice

You should have brutally forced him to stop doing that (By muting his ass off if necessary).

Anyway, hope you're doing better, friend.

 

[SailorBlue]

I would like to regain control of my life and no longer be tortured by my depression and social phobia.
I should go back to school to finally get a job and be independent, but it terrifies me.

It's a failure this year, but I'd like to try again next year. I don't know how to do it; I probably need friends and a good therapist.

 

[HighFlight]

HI @SailorBlue, I'm sorry you're in this situation; depression and social phobia are a difficult combination. Know that you are not alone. There are several on this site, myself included, who share your pain.

You are correct about finding a good therapist. I would highly recommend making this a priority.

Ironically, lots of people talk about being lonely and wanting friends. But IMHO, this is making the situation worse. Instead of focusing on finding a friend, focus on finding a hobby that you are interested in. That could be our job, or certain classes in school, or just something you do in your free time. Spend your energy there. But do it in real life, not over the internet. While you are doing it, you will naturally meet others with little social awkwardness, as everyone will be focused on the task. Jut my 2-cents.

However, I have dealt with this problem by helping my children navigate their way through it. I'm happy to report that both are making tremendous steps forward. If you need talk, feel free to dm me.

Hoping you can find some peace before the next school year begins.

 

[derekWest]

I don't really know why but I thought heavily about prepare ctb this week-end.
I thought about my tendency to always be anxious (never smile, ...). My difficulties to find my love partner.
I have also the thoughts to be angry to everyone around me. I don't know why.
So I had a urge to prepare a fake medical prescription to get some meds and be ready to an hypothetical 2nd ctb attempt....

But, curiously, I manage to get a hookup this morning with a guy. It was a deception (I don't manage to get an orgasme) but it allow me to thing about something else, I think...
Then, I go swimming to the sea.

Big mood changing....

 

[Adûnâi]

You should have brutally forced him to stop doing that (By muting his ass off if necessary).

Anyway, hope you're doing better, friend.

Oh, why would I reject actual help? I'm not an attention fisher with phantom issues, my issues are actually real, so I'm in no position to afford to scoff at any help, hahah. I can definitely imagine people who would.

Alright, to clarify what I mean - I'm not a girl who's complaining about being lonely and then closes off her DMs because of "creeps". I'm actually trying to overcome myself (once in a blue moon) to improve. And on this topic - I managed to make voice messages just fine to my fake gf just fine throughout 2024, it's the real-time aspect that throws me off (and of course the general lack of any similarities between me and the potential conversation partners - that's an issue I encounters on Slowly, too).

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

Oh, why would I reject actual help? I'm not an attention fisher with phantom issues, my issues are actually real, so I'm in no position to afford to scoff at any help, hahah. I can definitely imagine people who would.

Alright, to clarify what I mean - I'm not a girl who's complaining about being lonely and then closes off her DMs because of "creeps". I'm actually trying to overcome myself (once in a blue moon) to improve. And on this topic - I managed to make voice messages just fine to my fake gf just fine throughout 2024, it's the real-time aspect that throws me off (and of course the general lack of any similarities between me and the potential conversation partners - that's an issue I encounters on Slowly, too).

I was not talking about rejecting help. I was talking about him forcing you to do live voice chat even though you probably told them you didn't want to.

 

[Adûnâi]

I was not talking about rejecting help. I was talking about him forcing you to do live voice chat even though you probably told them you didn't want to.

Well, the thing is that I've never faced any danger or hardship in my life. My poor mom still hasn't forced me to wash the dishes, and I'm almost 30. So "being forced" is somewhat of an unattainable fantasy for me. Apologies if I misunderstood you, after all, most people seem to be forced, and my situation has always been the opposite in my bizarre pseudo-life.

I'm actually trying to make a bigger deal out of it than it was. It happened 3 or 4 days ago, and since then I've discovered a channel Evildea who makes reviews on YouTube polyglots determining if they're fake or not. So while my life is admittedly dull, I constantly seem to find find something new. I have screenshotted like 500 comments under the videos of a Russian YouTuber Strateg, too - and I still have 2 hours to finish listening to! And I have been consuming dried bananas my mom bought me - which are ridiculously good AND not chocolate, so I've actually verifiably lost some kg over these weeks which I had never done before in my life (not in a controlled fashion anyway - 2020 had some cozy starvation, too).

AND I've been making 5000 rotations on the stationary bike machine per day, so that's some exercise (I used to read 2k and even 3k footsteps, both both of the stepping machines broke lmao).

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

Well, the thing is that I've never faced any danger or hardship in my life. My poor mom still hasn't forced me to wash the dishes, and I'm almost 30. So "being forced" is somewhat of an unattainable fantasy for me. Apologies if I misunderstood you, after all, most people seem to be forced, and my situation has always been the opposite in my bizarre pseudo-life.

I'm actually trying to make a bigger deal out of it than it was. It happened 3 or 4 days ago, and since then I've discovered a channel Evildea who makes reviews on YouTube polyglots determining if they're fake or not. So while my life is admittedly dull, I constantly seem to find find something new. I have screenshotted like 500 comments under the videos of a Russian YouTuber Strateg, too - and I still have 2 hours to finish listening to! And I have been consuming dried bananas my mom bought me - which are ridiculously good AND not chocolate, so I've actually verifiably lost some kg over these weeks which I had never done before in my life (not in a controlled fashion anyway - 2020 had some cozy starvation, too).

AND I've been making 5000 rotations on the stationary bike machine per day, so that's some exercise (I used to read 2k and even 3k footsteps, both both of the stepping machines broke lmao).

Wow good job on that, you're really putting yourself into it! What I mean by forced is that he coerced you into doing what he wanted (Voice chat), as in, if you didn't do it, he wouldn't ever stop bothering you.

 

[istherehope]

I hope I'll be able to reconcile with my ex or to love again as much as I did.

 

[lita-lassi]

recently asked my therapist "what is wrong with me that im okay with this" (knowing im definitely not okay with it) after spending a solid 30 mins describing horrible behavior and actions done upon me by someone meant to love and help me... and this has been ongoing and escalated to dangerous several times. not thrilled with life atm

hope everyone has a good weekend

 

[Adûnâi]

Today: 1) I've realised I lost 4 kg over the past months;
2) Also I argued with my mom (who's gonna bring me food tomorrow) about my future and lack of sex;
3) Also I've chatted in SaSu NSFW chat about not having sex (went there by missclick, but stayed because there's Doemu there);
4) Also ZeroSpace is having its playtest the next 10 days, HUGE!

 

[temporarystayhere]

I'm vowing to change my everyday systems which perpetuate my depression and make me spiral. I started to deep clean my apartment today which was in dire need of TLC. I'll continue tomorrow after work. I want to wake up early and get to work early so I don't feel like I need to stay very late(which pushes off getting any personal goals and chores done after work). I think if I can change my habits and stick to my treatment and meds, I will be in a much better place mentally

 

[SadGirl]

Even though I have some mental health issues like severe depression, bipolar disorder, ADHD, and generalized anxiety disorder, I won't let myself fall into depression again. I'm going to find a job and make my own life, occupy my mind. My relationship is a mess, and I'm going to prepare to get out of it. I have a lot to think about, a lot. And today marks 11 months since my father died.

 

[lita-lassi]

fell into a bad pattern of trying to shut my head down completely in response to some bad shit happening. it feels a bit like im losing my mind.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

fell into a bad pattern of trying to shut my head down completely in response to some bad shit happening. it feels a bit like im losing my mind.

OMG nobody replied to this since last Thursday. How r u doing? I'm hope you are alright! What happened?

 

[nothirdact]

My period started today which always exacerbates my anxiety and depression. But I finally scheduled a doctor's appointment to see if I may have PMDD which I'd been avoiding. I also got groceries which will stop me from ordering UberEats every day.

 

[kopebaldy]

Is there a place where I can ask for career guidances or life advices regarding jobs/changing jobs?

 

[Praestat_Mori]

Is there a place where I can ask for career guidances or life advices regarding jobs/changing jobs?

You may start a thread in Recovery or Offtopic. Maybe others are going to share their experience and advice with you in your thread.

 

[Mauri]

Hello friends, I posted a few weeks.. months back... I've not been doing too well, both mentally and physically, been quite unwell recently, nothing mega serious just quite frankly knocked down at the moment and has put a lot of things on pause

Hopefully things get better soon, im always hopeful they will no matter how dark it gets, and often thought of others ive connected with on this site via messages and threads, or to those that reacted to my last post.

Just wanted to provide that brief update and that I think of you all, been taking all the small successes as big wins recently, been helping my day to day feel more manageable

 

[Dying Opportunity]

This is my first time posting in the recovery section, but i want to share this because I'm both proud of myself and I think this could help give some of y'all some inspiration.

I just scheduled my first therapy appointment since 2014, but now I'm doing it via telehealth. I don't really know what to expect and I'm anxious about it but I this therapist has credentials that are more in line with the kind of treatment I need. The first session is after the weekend. I am so ready to put the bullshit that's keeping me down to the side.