I will choose to not be in a relationship/date seriously till I get to a better stage with my trauma

[Water-Lily]

My trauma has impacted me, and still continues to impact me greatly

I don't think I am able to be emotionally present or mature to someone who wants to seriously be with someone

I am still struggling to take care of myself and my needs need to be addressed

I have to take care of myself better before I can be present to someone

That's the nature of trauma

 

[deedeme]

That's a mature approach. Props to you, wish you the best.

 

[pole]

I think that is wise to do.

some of us will pursue relationships to fill a void. but, chasing intimacy and having someone will not address the underlying reasons for why we have these gaping emotional wounds.

from what I gather, you've gone through that and have gotten to a pivotal point where you felt stuck, but understand that pursuing relationships/dating seriously will never significantly help you when struggling with personal trauma.

it's nice to see you putting yourself first and focusing on you. over time, I hope you grow comfortable with yourself and get to a point where you realize you don't need anybody, you are your own saviour. screw people and having to rely on others.

through bettering yourself, I hope along the way you end up forming an excellent support system and meet good-hearted people.

all the best.

 

[ResilientAF]

Good decision.