Venting i was supposed to forget about him months ago

[emptymiku]

he was my best friend i was supposed to forget that he existed but every time i think about him i just want to die i cant take it anymore i wish he would come back to me he just left without telling me why hes already forgotten about me but i havent forgotten about him

 

[druggedonsurvival]

Unfortunately it's not so easy to stop thinking about the people who mean (or meant) so much to us. Don't be so hard on yourself for not being able to, that's natural, especially if you feel alone and abandoned. It's like your brain wants to hold on to the one thing that made you feel good.

 

[_Gollum_]

I agree with @druggedonsurvival, it's one of the many ugly parts about being human. In my case I haven't had a regular correspondence with my one and only best friend (who I fell deeply in love with) for over three years now and yet I still think about him every day and can't even talk about him in front of others without crying. Meanwhile time has healed the wound for him and he has almost no attachment to me left.

 

[Heidi48]

unfortunately you cant switch off those feelings off, but if a best friend can do this they aren't that nice- but try turn your thinking around into something positive. Remind yourself that "nostalgia is a lying ass bit*ch- she will convince a time in your life was better when it wasnt. live in the present. create better times with what you have now." YOU ARE BETTER THAN THEM!!
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[Worndown]

Some people you remender forever.
Depending on the circumstances, it can be both a blessing and a curse.

 

[_Gollum_]

unfortunately you cant switch off those feelings off, but if a best friend can do this they aren't that nice- but try turn your thinking around into something positive. Remind yourself that "nostalgia is a lying ass bit*ch- she will convince a time in your life was better when it wasnt. live in the present. create better times with what you have now." YOU ARE BETTER THAN THEM!!
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I know you're trying to help in good faith, but having been in OP's shoes before, I must say I haven't ever found this kind of advice helpful. It has the same vibe as telling a suicidal person that "life is beautiful/it gets better/you have your whole future ahead of you/just think positively/etc." The fact of the matter is that the person in front of you is suffering right now and they need someone to empathize with their situation, not relativize it.

(I can't speak for OP though, this has just been my personal experience.)

 

[Heidi48]

I know you're trying to help in good faith, but having been in OP's shoes before, I must say I haven't ever found this kind of advice helpful. It has the same vibe as telling a suicidal person that "life is beautiful/it gets better/you have your whole future ahead of you/just think positively/etc." The fact of the matter is that the person in front of you is suffering right now and they need someone to empathize with their situation, not relativize it.

(I can't speak for OP though, this has just been my personal experience.)

thank you for your reply- your probably right, i remember being in similar situations and no "be positive" advice ever helped. i just wanted to offload to my friends and have them listen and empathise.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Had a gf once and it took me over 3 years to get over her when we broke up. You just need to wait on the dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin to dissipate. Takes time. Everybody is different.

 

[terra.nuvo]

Just want to let you know you aren't alone. My best friend left without a word as well and I still think about him everyday. I'm sorry for the pain that you are going through.