Hollowillow
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- Aug 7, 2022
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but how can there be a life without her? ive known her for 5 years & at one point, she was kinda nice to me. I'm afraid of moving out because i have no one , I'll just rot all alone & no one will be able to find me. that's so sad to imagine me dead all alone with no one anymore, but it might happenMy parents are abusive too & let my suster be homeless. Can you move in with another roomate? I don't have the courage to redo my life again but you sound young. But I see that you're a member since years... So I'd respect your decision... But if you want to live, LIVE! Ignore her, go out as much as possible to avoid her, do activities, meet people... You'll open opportunities? I suck at it though ...
This isn't the ending, just the plot. You can live 100 years. There is still time for her to ruin her new relationship and for you to do a beautiful path of healing & self discovery. Helping others. Finding a kind partner. It can be a temporary set back.
Even people who kill & end up in jail can end up having fun. *Whispers* I'm not pro life.
Idk tbh.I get it
What would make you feel better?
5 years is a huge amount of memories to mourn. It hurts. Especially since you sound young, did you start dating at 15? It feels like all your life... But it's not the end if life itself. You can finally get out if her shadow and live your own life. Living alone is sad but freeing. You sound social, you can rent a room with other people. Strangers can become friends.but how can there be a life without her? ive known her for 5 years & at one point, she was kinda nice to me. I'm afraid of moving out because i have no one , I'll just rot all alone & no one will be able to find me. that's so sad to imagine me dead all alone with no one anymore, but it might happen
we started dating when i was 18. I love being around other people, but she isolated me completely. im afraid if i lived with friends, they would see how sad & suicidal i am.5 years is a huge amount of memories to mourn. It hurts. Especially since you sound young, did you start dating at 15? It feels like all your life... But it's not the end if life itself. You can finally get out if her shadow and live your own life. Living alone is sad but freeing. You sound social, you can rent a room with other people. Strangers can become friends.
If your only hope for joy is increasing drugs..... I feel for you... I understand wanting out if you want nothing else... If you can't find more to enjoy .. I hope that you'll get your one desire.Idk tbh.
I don't know if recovery is even possible anymore. If it is than just partial. And it would take years. Don't think it's worth it tbh. But idk I want to live but not like this. I'm gonna try increase my meds cuz I know they will really help me. Idk I just go day by day I guess. My SN should arrive today. It's good to know I'll always have a way out. In the meantime I could even try to source some N. Although SN N idc tbh death is death. Maybe in 10 years I'll be happy I didn't kms. Or maybe I won't. Maybe I'll be dead. Who knows but I def think I'll ctb at some point of my life. I have more then enough problems don't wanna have more that come with age
Yes, the main result of any sort of narcissistic abuse is a loss of self. We buy into narratives that are convenient for abusers and become completely disoriented in the process.Find yourself?
Oh god typical manipulation techniques. Someone insecure who need a captive can't have a happy ending. She'll always be miserable inside, doubting that she can be loved, greedy because her heart is a black hole, selfish... You could give her the world and all she'll see is crap.we started dating when i was 18. I love being around other people, but she isolated me completely. im afraid if i lived with friends, they would see how sad & suicidal i am.
Having a devoted personality makes it easier for narcs. I confused devotion with love... Love is 2 accomplished people shating a path. Not one person being used as a donkey. It seems useful and kind, but it's slavery.Yes, the main result of any sort of narcissistic abuse is a loss of self. We buy into narratives that are convenient for abusers and become completely disoriented in the process.
5 years is pretty long, but you honestly deserve better than someone who physically and emotionally abuses you.but how can there be a life without her? ive known her for 5 years & at one point, she was kinda nice to me. I'm afraid of moving out because i have no one , I'll just rot all alone & no one will be able to find me. that's so sad to imagine me dead all alone with no one anymore, but it might happen
she pays for it. she even tried to say she was gonna go live with her new person (they've been together for 2 months) & i could "have" this apartment & she would still pay, but that makes me really uncomfortable because idk does it make sense?? like i don't want her to lowkey control me like that while she is with someone else the whole time. when im alone too much, i get really really bad. i don't even know how to get my own place or move out. i can't leave unless im dead & everyone will be happyOh god typical manipulation techniques. Someone insecure who need a captive can't have a happy ending. She'll always be miserable inside, doubting that she can be loved, greedy because her heart is a black hole, selfish... You could give her the world and all she'll see is crap.
I'm sorry that she brainwashed you, it's really hard to undo. Stay single and do srlf discovery & self love until you're strong enough not to fall for the worm on a hook. Broken people atteacks more narcs like trained dogs... Become free! Like a wolf! Find who you are.
For now you MUST move out. Being judged by friends and strangers will be a speck of dust compared to the mountain of shit of staying with someone who makes you wish you were dead.
You can even ask a friend for a sleepover saying that your ex makes you regret being alive & you need to have a break. You'll find if you have a real friend. Flee. Just flee her. Go no contact. Don't live with her, no need to die, just flee. Was she paying all the rent being dependent on her? If you can pay rent with strangers go for it. There is social services for abused women, they get help to sleep elsewhere. Can you find a shelter? They'll understand hopefully.
omg, she & her friends always tried to pressure me to drink years ago when we had ome of our first falling outs. her friends didn't like me because i have a lot of mental issues & i didn't like drinking or being around people that drink. my mom was an alcoholic so, i just don't drink unless i really wanna trigger myself5 years is pretty long, but you honestly deserve better than someone who physically and emotionally abuses you.
She's a really toxic person and that's not going to stop no matter who she's with. It'll backfire at some point. Plus, anyone who has to resort to doing that to other people is a really miserable person deep down.
I knew an ex on and off for almost 10 years. We met when I was really young; I was 16 and he was 22. He manipulated me a lot and took advantage of the fact that I was really young. I stopped talking to him when I was 19. He ended up getting a new girlfriend and would invite her to the same places as me, but he would lie about who she was. He threw me away for this other person and it really her
We ran into each other a few years ago and he admitted everything. It turns out that same woman was just as toxic as he was. He ended up meeting his match.
So I get how you feel. At times, he also made me feel really horrible about my personality and would always complain about how shy I was. He would try and force me to drink to open up more so that I could talk to his friends.
Even though we don't talk anymore, I'm still healing from it all. Despite how I feel about myself, I know I deserve better than to be treated like that, and so do you.
omg, she & her friends always tried to pressure me to drink years ago when we had ome of our first falling outs. her friends didn't like me because i have a lot of mental issues & i didn't like drinking or being around people that drink. my mom was an alcoholic so, i just don't drink unless i really wanna trigger myself5 years is pretty long, but you honestly deserve better than someone who physically and emotionally abuses you.
She's a really toxic person and that's not going to stop no matter who she's with. It'll backfire at some point. Plus, anyone who has to resort to doing that to other people is a really miserable person deep down.
I knew an ex on and off for almost 10 years. We met when I was really young; I was 16 and he was 22. He manipulated me a lot and took advantage of the fact that I was really young. I stopped talking to him when I was 19. He ended up getting a new girlfriend and would invite her to the same places as me, but he would lie about who she was. He threw me away for this other person and it really her
We ran into each other a few years ago and he admitted everything. It turns out that same woman was just as toxic as he was. He ended up meeting his match.
So I get how you feel. At times, he also made me feel really horrible about my personality and would always complain about how shy I was. He would try and force me to drink to open up more so that I could talk to his friends.
Even though we don't talk anymore, I'm still healing from it all. Despite how I feel about myself, I know I deserve better than to be treated like that, and so do you.
It might not be to control you, if your name isn't on the lease, she could have kicked you homeless & brought her new lover in. Going to sleep at her lover instead to torture you fucking loudly in the kitchen, starting while you eat, would be a more cruel thing to do.she pays for it. she even tried to say she was gonna go live with her new person (they've been together for 2 months) & i could "have" this apartment & she would still pay, but that makes me really uncomfortable because idk does it make sense?? like i don't want her to lowkey control me like that while she is with someone else the whole time. when im alone too much, i get really really bad. i don't even know how to get my own place or move out. i can't leave unless im dead & everyone will be happy
omg, she & her friends always tried to pressure me to drink years ago when we had ome of our first falling outs. her friends didn't like me because i have a lot of mental issues & i didn't like drinking or being around people that drink. my mom was an alcoholic so, i just don't drink unless i really wanna trigger myself
omg, she & her friends always tried to pressure me to drink years ago when we had ome of our first falling outs. her friends didn't like me because i have a lot of mental issues & i didn't like drinking or being around people that drink. my mom was an alcoholic so, i just don't drink unless i really wanna trigger myself
Hola, entiendo todo lo que estas pasando, es duro, lo sé. Pero eso no quiere decir que no le puedas hacer frente a esa situación, sos más fuerte de lo que crees o imaginas. También estoy pasando por algo similar y dudo entre la vida y la muerte, pero acá sigo aguantando cualquier adversidad. Tenes que tener fe en que todo va a cambiar, esto no va hacer asà para siempre, es una etapa que va a pasar tarde o temprano, espero que puedas sentirte mejor.No es justo.
todas estas cosas terribles me sucedieron de repente. Tengo miedo de que me juzguen si digo lo que pasó. Sé que estoy siendo estúpido.
mi problema es que realmente amo tantas cosas de la vida, pero ya no puedo más. Ojalá pudiera morir y ser como un espectador para poder ver crecer a los que amo.
Necesito morir antes de Halloween a pesar de que son mis vacaciones favoritas... mi ex abusivo me lo arruinó porque sé que estará con su nueva chica en mi lugar. eso suena tonto, pero de repente me dijo y ahora no quiero vivir en un mundo donde mi abusador sea feliz y tenga todo lo que quiero.
chicos, estoy asustado. Todo lo que siempre quise fue divertirme y ayudar a los demás.
quiero que todo esto pare por favor ayuda
^^^ This 100% for me.We all want to live. I want to die because i can't live like this, thats all.
I want to die to live.
thank you for your kindness. idk if i could be happy though if i was all alone every single day for the rest of my life. i mean, i like life, but i also would be ok with dying. sometimes i wish i had to be taken care of by someone so i always have somebody there.It's so traumatizing to go through a break up with someone abusive.
They destroy your self esteem. Your self worth then just abandon you.
How you're feeling is normal. Please try not to take what happened in as any defect in you. People choose to do that because they are entitled and selfish. They will end up abusing all of their partners and it is no reflection on you. How lovable or how awesome you are.
Please try to write down some ways to exit the situation if there is anything you can do.
Abusive people erode your personality so you have to work so hard for simple scraps of love or non abuse and you feel like a failure when you're being manipulated.
It may be hard to imagine now but you could find yourself in a much better relationship with a non abusive person later in your life. Someone you connect with. Talking with a counselor in this situation can help as well. They have programs if you can't afford it.
It sounds like you don't want to die you have just been hurt and crushed by this person and feel thrown away and you're feeling like you're the problem when nothing could be further from the truth.
It is hard to see out of this fog and the emotions you feel but if you want to live life doesn't have to end here.
I know people who were in abusive relationships and went onto find healthy partners they are happy with. You do not want to be with an abusive person and anyone who treats someone that way has no concept of real happiness and their partners are only victims or will become victims soon. Certainly a life not worth envying. They will bring misfortune on themselves eventually. No matter how they try to rub some pretend happiness in your face to hurt you.
Just take some time to think if you had another relationship, had no feelings about the abuser anymore would you be happy? Would you want to live? It's not easy to get there and it may take years but it is an option to at least try for if you do enjoy life and don't truly want to die.
Well I hope that you find someone to take care of you someday who is nice to you. It's what you deserve.thank you for your kindness. idk if i could be happy though if i was all alone every single day for the rest of my life. i mean, i like life, but i also would be ok with dying. sometimes i wish i had to be taken care of by someone so i always have somebody there.
That's not true. I want to live too but this isn't life. It's a nightmare.If you want to live, you still have hope in your life.
You're right, i should do this for myself. i really think i don't deserve to keep feeling this pain everyday. it's gotten to the point i can't even clean the apartment & she certainly doesn't help because she never wants to be here anymore. i should do this so i can finally be happy.So sorry about what you're going through.... :( It sounds like a very bad situation.
You sound like a very nice and sweet person, and you say that you want to live. Please try to hang on, even if you live day by day, second by second if necessary, you got this!
One thing really gets to me: your shitty stupid ex doesn't deserve to have so much power over you. She does some nasty thing, and it makes you suffer so much? Who does she think she is? Think of it this way, you shouldn't let someone so horrible take your one and only life away. If you CTB, at least do it for yourself, not some stupid idiot who doesn't care about you. They don't deserve it. They don't deserve to have so much control over your brain.
*Hugs*