I made a statement on public chat here and got attacked

[requiemforadream]

I wrote in a public chat that I would like to live on a desert island with an Asian girl and I was attacked and ostracized. If people on a suicide forum attack others for wanting to love and be loved, I don't want to be in such a place. Goodbye

This really pissed me off and made me feel more suicidal

 

[diviosd]

Maybe the wording was poor. Nothing is wrong with love but there is something wrong with racial fetishization which was how your messages were interpreted...

 

[WhiteRabbit]

I'm surprised you were attacked for saying Asian girl, considering how weeby this place is.

I feel like anytime a dude mentions race in this type of fantasy, it really ups the creep factor.

 

[TheHolySword]

Wording is everything. If you're looking for love, great. If you're looking to fetishize a race, expect some backlash. I'm not active in the public chat so idk how you phrased it or how people replied but honestly it seems like some details are missing.

 

[Anonymousa]

there is definitely a line between simply liking someone's traits and fetishizing them. I don't know whether to say what you said is either one of those but wonder where others would place that line?

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

The solution to this isn't to post an attention-seeking thread on the forum. It's to report the people who did this and let the site staff review whether any rules were broken.

 

[Kalista]

people can have all kinds of preferences in both sides. if he wants to be with an asian girl, then he can be with an asian girl.

 

[A Dream of a Dream]

people can have all kinds of preferences in both sides. if he wants to be with an asian girl, then he can be with an asian girl.

if we don't understand how demeaning racial fetishization is, that asian fetishization is dehumanizing, and racist then we shouldn't speak on it. preference and fetishization are not the same thing. and if we weren't in the discussion, that's another reason not to speak on it.

 

[Kalista]

i understand just fine. yet if both persons are in agreement/on the same page, then that's their business. there are real people who enjoy being treated in that way, and it's important to recognize that personal preferences differ widely regardless of gender, race, or background.
you've already said the word, 'fetish' -- and fetishes exists in many forms, often disregarding what others think simply because it feels 'wrong' for them.

 

[diviosd]

i understand just fine. yet if both persons are in agreement/on the same page, then that's their business. there are real people who enjoy being treated in that way, and it's important to recognize that personal preferences differ widely regardless of gender, race, or background.
you've already said the word, 'fetish' -- and fetishes exists in many forms, often disregarding what others think simply because it feels 'wrong' for them.

There are not 2 people involved in this. This was a fantasy shared in a public chat that was worded very demeaningly. Racial fetishization goes beyond just being a preference and has caused harm to many people and communities and has even cost people their lives on multiple occasions. It's not something to be encouraged and people are in the right to not take it lightly.