"I know it was her own selfish decision but I can't help but feel guilt sometimes" comments fishing for reassurance kind of disgust me

[Exhausted546]

Saw a thread about on reddit about someone who had a fallout with her ex friend a few years back and the ex friend committed suicide recently

She made a post saying she knew it wasn't her fault but still felt guilt for the suicide (while throwing snarky remarks her ex friend's way) , the comments were reassuring her that it wasn't her fault,she did everything she could have done. Which might be true

but to me I just imagined someone i had a fallout with in the past learning about my suicide and starting a thread making my suicide about them and people reassuring and Patting them on the back that I made my own selfish decision that caused them hurt and that they're such a good person for even feeling an unwarranted guilt and such, it'd disgust me.

Sadly when you die by suicide you forfeit all rights. People will use you for sympathy points, make it about them and use your corpse to step on to elevate themselves and get pats on the back and there's nothing you'll be able to do about it.

On the other hand, there's the people that definitely had everything to do with the person's decision to off themselves (for non manipulative cases) that are being told "You had nothing to do with it, they would have killed themselves regardless" no they wouldn't have lmao

But I understand the living need to discard guilt in order to keep on moving forward but nonetheless,it's all a farce

 

[Crumblin'Castles]

I feel you, it's always raging for me as well. On the other hand it's so funny that those calling us and our decision selfish are the most self-obsessed people.

 

[Exhausted546]

I feel you, it's always raging for me as well. On the other hand it's so funny that those calling us and our decision selfish are the most self-obsessed people.

There's people that will make your life so unbearable that your only way out is to kill yourself and they will still fish for reassurance and tons of people will tell them how there's absolutely nothing they could have done to prevent your death and they don't have the slightest bit of fault in your death

Years back I remember some girl that admitted bullying her highschool classmate so much the the bullied girl killed herself and she replied "I know I had nothing to do with it but some part of me still feels some kind of guilt"

Some people called her out saying she definitely had something to do with that death. (That was a breath of fresh air tbh) Some others were like "it was her own choice"

 

[never mind me]

The good thing is that once you are dead you don't have to worry any more about what people say about you. Really I couldn't care less what people say about me and my suicide, if I actually commit.

 

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[here_for_now]

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May that person rest in fucking piss, let me know if they ever die, I will celebrate on your behalf