I have been living a lie the entire time

[FireFox]

Before I got fired I really believed I was the worst employee in the department because a couple of days before getting fired my boss said I bring "nothing but problems" to the department ever since I arrived and that I "bring absolutely nothing" to his team. He brutally criticised all my numerous workplace mistakes and even my immaturity. My boss was so cruel towards me that day he made those comments.

Months after getting fired I was severely depressed over my boss criticisms of me because I really thought I was the worst employee and I even believed I was not good enough work in anything

It has now come publicly the entire time there was work colleagues who did even worse things than I have done and my boss has been covering up for them and himself while blaming me.

I fucked up badly in my job and I was openly honest about my workplaces mistakes. I always took responsibility for my multiple failings and did everything honestly. I struggled to fit in with my colleagues and keep with them.

The day I got fired I said to my boss " i take responsibility for my actions" and "it's not easy to admit to wrongdoing or publicly apologising for mistakes other people would have been hiding their wrongdoing if they did my mistakes" My boss disregarded my point "I don't know any employee from here" and argued he "never seen this behaviour of covering up and lying"

He fucking lied and knew there was work colleagues who did far worse things than me and has been covering up for him and himself. I have been discovering more about my workplace it turned out the day I arrived in that department it was already under investigation for its poor practices in handing housing cases only the management knew and a select few employees whoose cases were being investigated. After I got fired it publicly came out about my previous workplace poor practices. The department was found to be engaging in severe maladministration in a housing cases, poor records keeping, falsyfing information etc as a result vunlerable people are trapped in unsafe housing and not getting a good service

 

[Das Nichts]

Was this a government type of job ?

 

[SexyIncél]

Yeah, helps to internalize the famous wageslavery motto: "It's nothing personal"

Almost everyone displays false competence. Just like in school, they're masturbating in bathrooms/zoom (yes women too), spending the day browsing notorious incel sites, etc. And those are probably the productive corporate cogs! The rest schedule endless meetings where most have no idea what's being said, nodding sagely hoping no one asks them a question

 

[chocolatebar]

I'm sorry for your experience. Unfortunately, workplaces are full of all kinds of power games, and newbies are always the weakest end. It's a very predatory environment that takes a heavy toll on so many people.

However, it's nice that you finally understand that you have nothing to blame for. I'm sure you did well, and worked your best.

And one more thing...if their poor practices came out to the public, can't you sue them for being fired based on false statements, or for what they did to you? I don't know the laws where you live, but it may be possible, and, perhaps, it could help you. It can draw too much energy from someone, so it's understandable if you prefer not to.

 

[ikadasui]

Honestly, it's sad but it's truly better to just try and hide any mistakes under the rug. at the end of the day the only point of work is the money and if something can jeopardize your chance of getting it it's best to just shove it aside and pretend it didn't happen

 

[FireFox]

Was this a government type of job ?

@Das Nichts No . I worked for a large housing corporation that houses people across England, majority of the people who use the coroporations housing services are on government welfare, suffer with issues substance abuse and addiction and are generally vunlerable. I worked in the complaint handling department. My role was to make sure the housing residents complaints about housing repair issues were being responded to. I

The corporation is also charity. In the UK it is common for charities to provide public services to the general public and here in the UK charity is a very massive thing here.

Seeing my former workplace getting publicly shamed and exposed is so funny and satisfying for multiple reasons

• The company when I joined at the time was undergoing a merger with another housing corporation already employees and my boss were worried about losing their jobs. The exposure of my workplace poor practices came out when the merger was still undergoing so it brought a lot of embarrassment to the department and company.

• The public exposure the department I worked in is so bad that the company taking over do not want the employees from the department doing their complaint handling.

• My boss is going to lose his job. My mum works in the company in a different department and the news has spread across the entire company. The staff in that complaints department I worked in are being offered redundancies and new people will be hired.

My boss is now getting a taste of his own medicine and I am so happy. He humiliated me and brutally criticised all my numerous workplace mistakes and my character. Now has to live with the humiliation of his poor leadership being exposed because all these incidents and controversies happened under his watch and will have to answer to management to explain himself.

My final days at work was pure hell because of him and his cruelty now he is going to experience the pure hopeless of having your work performance brutally ripped apart along with the tormenting fear of knowing your employment will be terminated and there is nothing you can do about it.

The man deserves it.

This is justice.

I'm sorry for your experience. Unfortunately, workplaces are full of all kinds of power games, and newbies are always the weakest end. It's a very predatory environment that takes a heavy toll on so many people.

However, it's nice that you finally understand that you have nothing to blame for. I'm sure you did well, and worked your best.

And one more thing...if their poor practices came out to the public, can't you sue them for being fired based on false statements, or for what they did to you? I don't know the laws where you live, but it may be possible, and, perhaps, it could help you. It can draw too much energy from someone, so it's understandable if you prefer not to.

@chocolatebar I never celebrate people's misfortunes but I am so glad my boss is going to be losing his job and his poor management has been exposed. Its soooo satisfying that my boss is getting a taste of his own medicine. This is justice for me.

My boss and I used to get along then he changed. I felt so sorry for my boss when he expressed his sadness to everyone at work over its position being not being secure then the same day after he had his lunch he processed to lash out against me. The man went into a pure frenzy in criticising me and blaming me for bringing problems to his department, insulting and just humiliating me. I ended up shouting at him because he kept being a supreme arsehole.

Now its his turn. Now has to live with the humiliation of his poor leadership being exposed because all these incidents and controversies happened under his watch and he will have to answer to management to explain himself.

My final days at work was pure hell because of him and his cruelty now he is going to experience the pure hopeless of having your work performance brutally ripped apart along with the tormenting fear of knowing your employment will be terminated and there is nothing you can do about it.

No I can not sue because I was fairly dismissed and I struggled immensely with the job. I worked in the complaint handling department. My role was to make sure the housing residents complaints about housing repair issues were being responded to. It was very challenging role because of the organisations bureaucracy and the private contractors they used to carry out repair works were poorly organised and difficult to reach I struggled with the case work and so many things.

I failed to meet and deliver the organisations standards of high customer service which was why I got fired. I have no means to sue under UK employment laws to sue for unfair dismissal a person must have worked for 2 years in the company they are suing. I worked less than that so I am not eligible to sue.

This is justice. My boss and workplace humiliated me and now they are getting humiliated.

 

[FireFox]

Honestly, it's sad but it's truly better to just try and hide any mistakes under the rug. at the end of the day the only point of work is the money and if something can jeopardize your chance of getting it it's best to just shove it aside and pretend it didn't happen

@mistoras In my job I thought I was the worst employee in the department because I didn't close the cases I was assigned quick enough, made loads of mistakes which caused disruption at times, and I struggled with the role.

Reading the investigation reports it is now clear people that I worked with were rushing their work and engaging in dishonesty to help reduce their case load work. I was just too honest for my own good.

 

[FireFox]

Yeah, helps to internalize the famous wageslavery motto: "It's nothing personal"

Almost everyone displays false competence. Just like in school, they're masturbating in bathrooms/zoom (yes women too), spending the day browsing notorious incel sites, etc. And those are probably the productive corporate cogs! The rest schedule endless meetings where most have no idea what's being said, nodding sagely hoping no one asks them a question

@absurdtimeline I always felt too different from my work colleagues. I am outspoken always have been whereas my other colleagues was pretty much quiet and go along with the flow. Being outspoken made me unpopular with the management.

I like adventure, exploring and learning new things. When it came to workplace Microsoft Teams meeting people were always talking about the football game they watched over the weekend. The women at work joined in these conversations about football.

No matter how hard I tried I just couldn't fit in and keep up with everyone.

 

[chocolatebar]

This is justice. My boss and workplace humiliated me and now they are getting humiliated.

It's great that you found a conclusion to what happened. I confess that even I feel much better now when reading your story. Just be careful not to let your anger grow too much >.<

And even better is that now you know that nothing was your fault.

No matter how hard I tried I just couldn't fit in and keep up with everyone.

Again, try not to blame yourself for that. I remember you mentioning that you're autistic (you mentioned, right? I hope my mind isn't too damaged to be creating stuff like that). In that case, it's natural to struggle to fit in most places, to be outspoken, to find most discussed topics nonsensical, to do certain things late in life, among many other things.

I know all that by experience. I could never fit anywhere, despite all attempts. It really feels like this world wasn't made for us (well, it wasn't).

 

[FireFox]

It's great that you found a conclusion to what happened. I confess that even I feel much better now when reading your story. Just be careful not to let your anger grow too much >.<

And even better is that now you know that nothing was your fault.


Again, try not to blame yourself for that. I remember you mentioning that you're autistic (you mentioned, right? I hope my mind isn't too damaged to be creating stuff like that). In that case, it's natural to struggle to fit in most places, to be outspoken, to find most discussed topics nonsensical, to do certain things late in life, among many other things.

I know all that by experience. I could never fit anywhere, despite all attempts. It really feels like this world wasn't made for us (well, it wasn't).

@chocolatebar I am sooooo happy and free because now everything now makes sense. I never had a chance from day 1.

The day I arrived in that department these investigations from authorities was taking place, the company was going through a merger and people were worrying about their jobs. I was very vunlerable inexperienced trusting person who craved companionship and love then people like the older male colleague I fell in love with took advantage of that. I even had an older woman work colleague who gossiped about me at work while pretending to be friend and caring about me. These arseholes made my life hell with their bullshit. It hurt because I saw them as friends.

Being humiliated by older work colleagues who should know better than to be playing these games has been disappointing. I thought people this age behaved themselves and had no time for games.

I came in that workplace at a very bad time but got fired at the perfect time. I am not autistic. I suffer from anoxeria.

 

[chocolatebar]

Being humiliated by older work colleagues who should know better than to be playing these games has been disappointing. I thought people this age behaved themselves and had no time for games.

Unfortunately, people tend to behave the very way they behaved when teenagers, but with more social rules. Maturity is something so rare.

. I am not autistic. I suffer from anoxeria.

Sorry, I have no idea why I thought it. I didn't mention it in a bad way, sorry for the confusion.