I HATE BEING A GIRL

[chocolatebar]

1. women are more likely to get raped than men.
2. i will get judged by my looks wherever i go.
3. i am weaker than men.
4. i'm perceived as less competent than men.

I just hate being a girl.

I'm sorry for all the negative answers you got here. The world is a terrible place already and this place is like our last hope and seeing some responses here is really saddening.

Here, have my warmest hug

 

[skippingrecords]

Would you feel any better being a boy? You might be dealing with gender dysphoria.

Being uncomfortable with the dehumanization and objectification of her gender isn't indicative of being trans - it's a woman who wants to be seen as a human being. I think a lot of people mistake women not being happy being societally viewed as subordinate as gender dysphoria.

Modern society worships women, it's much better than being a man. Men are viewed as disposable and their issues rarely taken seriously.

Yeah, that's why women are dehumanized and objectified in every form of media possible. That's why sex work is one of the ONLY jobs that are predominantly women, thats why porn is one of the most popular forms of media yet almost every porn star has a horrific rape or abuse story from set (the director will still post those videos btw, you never know who's being raped in porn), thats why one in four women are raped, (and 99% of rapists are men) 97% of women are sexually harrassed, one in four women are physically abused by their partners, 80% of disabled women are sexually abused, and 137 women across the world are killed every day by partners or family. That's why female infanticide is a thing, that's why acid attacks and forced marriages are a thing. That's why female genital mutilation is a thing. That's why war rape happens. Because we're just so worshipped. Do you realize how stupid you sound?

 

[motel rooms]

We play the hand we are dealt. I'm just fucking sick of meeting people who are fucked up as I am or more. Gay men are... well I don't get on with younger gay men and most older men may claim to have no baggage but they are just as fucked up.
I lost interest in sex this year. Just masturbating ocassionaly now.

Liking older men its like I have to come out twice. First I come out. Liking men. Then it's assumed I like pretty 'gay' men or middle aged muscle men. I don't. Eventually when people find out I like older men its assumed I am a gold digger or need a 'daddy'. Then I have to explain my like for mature men (for me it's a masculine thing and a physical development with age that turns me on). Since 10 I knew. I adore the mature physical strong body.

Plus never really being able to hold hands in public or show affection. All those negatives of being gay. I know it's easier here in the UK. At least I won't be imprisoned or tortured/killed.

And people always fucking assume gay men just want fucked, to be fucked or to suck cock.

I know it's never really greener on the other side but I like the ideal of family. Of being responsible for someone. Having a kid or two.

Whatever the case I am what I am. Just at 44 it's not worked in any positive direction. I sure as fuck don't want a relationship now. It's just time for me to go.

Yeah, being gay definitely isn't easy... I feel like I have absolutely nothing in common with at least 70 % of other gay guys. I don't find "pretty" attractive either. "Stereotypically gay" men have accused me of looking down on them a hundred times just because I wouldn't let them grope my crotch & suck me off. Don't touch my dick, I'm simply not into you & I can't help it. I'm not interested in fabulous clothes & shoes, I don't watch RuPaul's show, I don't use skincare products - that doesn't mean I suffer from internalized homophobia.

My life is extremely complicated. I was molested by my father as a boy, so I have C-PTSD (nightmares & flashbacks of abuse) & hypersexual disorder (sex addiction/compulsive sexual behavior). I'm constantly plagued by sexual thoughts, I masturbate way too much & I'm very promiscuous. I'm exclusively a top & a control freak. I'm only into other masculine, fit guys a lot of whom are versatile, which means they often think they can persuade me to bend over, which can't happen because I was abused, but I can't tell them that so I just keep saying no, but they think I'm just playing hard to get, so I have to resort to violence, & it's a wonderful world.

I have a 28-year-old bf. He's an alcoholic hustler & he was abused too, of course. I recently broke down & told him about my childhood. He's understanding & supportive, but he drinks. He's the only guy I've truly made love to, cried with, held & been held by. That means everything to me, I love him. We're getting married in 2 weeks even though I can't stop occasionally fucking other people & he still sells his body. At least he can inherit my property if I finally ctb.

 

[BluesRunTheGame]

He's an alcoholic

My kind of guy. But is this (and the rest) not a problem for you?

 

[skippingrecords]

1. Men are more likely to get attacked/killed in general.
2. Men get judged too, if not harder. It's much easier to get laid/attention/whatever as a woman. This isn't an opinion, it's just a fact that many men are more invisible than women. You can get laid by just asking 5 random guys if they want to have sex. Men can go YEARS without a single kiss despite trying their hardest. Balding/height can't be fixed, there's no make up for that.
3. Okay? Literally nobody cares about the physical strength of a woman when measuring their worth. Again, men are judged for spaghetti arms.
4. In what ways? As a care-taker? Doubtful? As a CEO? Probably. But who cares I can say the same thing as I am in a generally female-dominated field.

one in four women are raped, (and 99% of rapists are men) 97% of women are sexually harrassed, one in four women are physically abused by their partners, 80% of disabled women are sexually abused, and 137 women across the world are killed every day by partners or family. Should I bring up female infanticide, arranged marriages, child marriages, acid attacks, female genital mutilation, war rape? or sex work being one of the ONLY jobs made up of predominantly women, thats why porn is one of the most popular forms of media, showing aggression towards women in 90% of porn videos, how almost every porn star has a story about being abused or raped on set, and those videos are usually posted anyways. You sound really stupid.
What measures a womans worth? Why is strength strictly masculine? Why must women simply look pretty, be fragile? Also, being able to have sex easily isn't what you think it is. It's because men view us as nothing but holes to fuck in the first place. Women don't sleep with men as easily because we want connection and love. Men want to fuck something real quick then leave.

 

[BluesRunTheGame]

Women don't sleep with men as easily because we want connection and love.

 

[sanu189]

I personally hate being a boy. No one really cares what happens and loneliness sucks . It feels like being invincible and not in a good way too

 

[motel rooms]

My kind of guy. But is this (and the rest) not a problem for you?

Alcoholics deserve love too. He's not a binge drinker, he doesn't make scenes. He can go 2-3 days without having a drink, he's trying. Yeah, pretty much everything in my life is a problem...

 

[Meretlein]

I have seen many threads of this nature and as I am sure everyone can predict, they turned out this way. I know both men and women have their issues but if I were given the rerun of life that I desperately want, gender would be the last of my concerns. I would be far more concerned about where I am born, class, intelligence, and health (both mental and physical).

I will be locking this thread because it has run it's course many times.