Venting I don't want to die a virgin

[mallows]

I don't even know why, but there's something about dying a virgin that just feels so wrong to me ( personal thing, doesn't bother me if someone else does. ) I don't know anyone in my town ( moved too many times to count ) and I don't know where to look for anyone, but joining dating sites just for sex feels so low. I'm kind of at a loss. Do I just do the latter or suck it up and ctb already ?

 

[until death]

You should save your first time for the right person

 

[Yaffle]

You should save your first time for the right person

I agree with the sentiment but how many of us actually did that?

 

[Arvid Schopentar]

It's not all it's cracked up to be, especially when you consider the fact that the only reason the act is pleasurable in the first place is to trick us into producing more suffering beings like ourselves, and on and on in perpetuity.

Were it not for this fact, the human species might long ago have gone extinct, as who in good conscience would transmit the ignomies of existence to another generation of their loved ones?

You could regard dying without having ever succumbed to this particular piece of DNA brainwashing trickery as something of a personal victory over the miserable treadmill of evolutionary history.

That said, if you're determined not to clock out until you've "been there, done that and got the t-shirt" then I expect a local sex worker will appreciate the extra work - you wouldn't need to save up much for it if you're planning on your financial outgoings quickly turning to zero.

Either way, godspeed on your voyage through this hellish world. May you find peace and rest

 

[SexyIncél]

but joining dating sites just for sex feels so low.

Be low, be shameless. It's a low & shameless world. Feel free to do what it takes. You're leaving this universe anyway

 

[Tears in Rain]

Ibut joining dating sites just for sex feels so low. I'm kind of at a loss. Do I just do the latter or suck it up and ctb already ?

Try dating sites or escorts, might as well if it's playing on your mind.
As a guy in a film once said:
"Sex without love is a meaningless experience, but as far as meaningless experiences go its pretty damn good.".

 

[oddetoad]

It's overrated as hell first of all. It's nothing special at all.

I'd say hire an escort it really doesnt matter who you do it with. The women in this reality are very strange to say the least and it's nothing wrong with hiring an escort in this reality because it's so twisted anyway. I have 0 shame doing it.

If this was a normal reality I would certainly have a different opinion.

 

[грустная сука]

If you're looking for a hookup then I think dating apps are your best option. I would say hiring an escort would be more "low", as you have to pay for it. Anyway, you never know, you could end up meeting someone you really like.

 

[oddetoad]

If you're looking for a hookup then I think dating apps are your best option. I would say hiring an escort would be more "low", as you have to pay for it. Anyway, you never know, you could end up meeting someone you really like.

it's not low thats just what society has tried to shove down our throat

 

[UnwillingSavior]

Even doing it with the right person won't change your life for the better. It will be an awesome memory that will be nice to look back on but I guarantee it won't solve your problems. I remember when my gf and I took each others virginity it led us into an addiction of degeneracy. Sure, sounds fun to lose yourself with another person but what happens when they lose interest? When they hate you for being as perverted as they are? When it interferes with your ability to see each other for more than just sex? The fun blinds your sight to your problems for a bit but not for long. You fall down together but hit the bottom separately, far away from each other. I wish my gf and I waited longer before having sex, and that we set clear boundaries for how to do it. I think we both wouldnt be so broken now. One of my biggest regrets.

 

[TheShadowKing]

I agree with the sentiment but how many of us actually did that?

I actually got to do that I'm not with that person anymore but I definitely don't regret waiting for the right one (I'm a guy if that matters)

 

[DinoDaAltaTCPCacaRt]

Try tinder, kid

 

[Necrosis]

Other people are straightforward about seeking out sex on dating apps. I think of you're being honest about what you're seeking out it isn't "low". Even if you still think that, it shouldn't stop you. You're at the end of your rope so prioritize yourself in your last moments.

I will say though it probably wont be great if you're going about it that way. It will be disappointing. If you're gonna have a first time, let it be an awkward learning experience with someone you trust enough to do that with.

 

[dreamingofrest]

You need to make the right choice for you, but I don't think there's anything low about using a dating app for just sex as long as you're up front about that being what you want and the other person is looking for that too.

 

[DinoDaAltaTCPCacaRt]

Other people are straightforward about seeking out sex on dating apps. I think of you're being honest about what you're seeking out it isn't "low". Even if you still think that, it shouldn't stop you. You're at the end of your rope so prioritize yourself in your last moments.

I will say though it probably wont be great if you're going about it that way. It will be disappointing. If you're gonna have a first time, let it be an awkward learning experience with someone you trust enough to do that with.

Just asking. Why it would matters if he is going to die? Sex is good. It gives that pleasure principally in the first time dont matter who is your partner, he just dont want to die a virgin it seems, after he finish it he would feel great with himself

 

[Necrosis]

Just asking. Why it would matters if he is going to die? Sex is good. It gives that pleasure principally in the first time dont matter who is your partner, he just dont want to die a virgin it seems, after he finish it he would feel great with himself

sex can be disappointing. not everyone feels amazing like they think they would afterwards. Also I'm just applying their own logic here about feeling "low" about the dating app method.

sex can be disappointing. not everyone feels amazing like they think they would afterwards. Also I'm just applying their own logic here about feeling "low" about the dating app method.

to add on to this.. i think its a good idea to care about the first time in this scenario just because its more likely to go alright. Someone whos more experienced might get frustrated or just use them and toss them aside. Its more like damage control for the possible outcome. I dont shame anybody who "saves" themselves for the one or whatever. I dont think that it always matters. I just think if this is a last wish kinda thing to take more precaution.

 

[Little_Suzy]

Die a virgin. None of these losers deserve you.

 

[DinoDaAltaTCPCacaRt]

sex can be disappointing. not everyone feels amazing like they think they would afterwards. Also I'm just applying their own logic here about feeling "low" about the dating app method.

to add on to this.. i think its a good idea to care about the first time in this scenario just because its more likely to go alright. Someone whos more experienced might get frustrated or just use them and toss them aside. Its more like damage control for the possible outcome. I dont shame anybody who "saves" themselves for the one or whatever. I dont think that it always matters. I just think if this is a last wish kinda thing to take more precaution.

Thank you for explaining. I dont understand much about it tho because I got my first bj when I was 7, I dont even had the time to think about precaution but it does seems fair for him.

 

[IchijouRirika]

I get you 100%, I live in a country which hiring an escort is not illegal or they try to incriminate you for hiring one so, I think I might hire one before I CTB, I just feel a bit sad that, I could not get anyone to feel attracted to me honestly and at this point, nearly every girl out there has already fucked a couple of people in some degree so yeah. I don't know where you live but, I would tell you if it really worries you that much, try seeing with an escort or something if you really wanna see how it is like. I'm still second-guessing myself on CTB or not so I'm also second-guessing on going for one but, at the end of day it's up to you.

Also, for the people recommending dating apps: unless you're a woman, you're NEVER getting anything out of it as an average guy. Don't even waste your time on these, it will just make you feel even worse.

You should save your first time for the right person

Life is no fairy tale, there is no "special someone" or "right person" anymore, every single person out there is rotten to the core.

 

[Pg.964]

The unfortunate reality is that sex kinda sucks when you're depressed, especially on meds. But if it is something you're interested in there's no shame in dating apps that's the only way I can get some. Try not to feel so guilty over something normal :) good luck

 

[BornByGhosts]

sorry you feel like that
personally i dont care if i do. when you think about it a lot of people that only have had sex using a condom are virgins because they technically had sex with the condom. and of those that did have real sex, how many of them made love? there's a big difference to me

if anything bothered me at the time i decide to ctb, being a virgin wouldn't be near the top of my list. it would even rank lower than my inability to start my sentences with capital letters.

 

[mallows]

Lots of interesting takes in the replies here tbh. I'm already on a few dating sites but I might just shift my bio around and say I'm looking for hookups and nothing else. Doesn't feel fair to emotionally invest myself when I'm looking to ctb. Thank you to everyone that replied ! ^^

 

[Roseate]

I agree with the sentiment but how many of us actually did that?

A lot of those people who didn't wish they did

 

[kane9191kosugi]

I understand where you're coming from, but I completely gave up on the thought that I would be able to "get a perfect ideal girl" BS and went to a prostitution lol.

Sex itself was overrated as hell (well for me at least). You are nervous at first, but it gets pretty old fast. The best part is probably the whole process, conversation, interaction BEFORE you actually have sex lol. Whether it is actual dating from love or just straight up dating app/prostitution.

I wouldn't be too concerned with this "virginity" ideal. It's not worth it, especially if you're a dude (not sure if it's the same with a girl).

 

[tabletop]

If you're looking for a hookup then I think dating apps are your best option. I would say hiring an escort would be more "low", as you have to pay for it. Anyway, you never know, you could end up meeting someone you really like.

No matter what you pay for it. The question is how are you paying and is the person upfront about the cost? As far as that's concerned no one is more honest than a sex worker. Noatter what sex or just plain affection there is always an exchange.

People only look down on "paying for it" (keeping in mind everyone pays always) cause of the strong influence religion has on this world. For example people leave religion yet still get married.

I think it's incredibly dumb how many of us aren't religious yet we hold ourselves to religious standards.

Prostitutes were once considered a very high class.

 

[BornByGhosts]

every relationship is transactional

 

[Intoxicated]

The best part is probably the whole process, conversation, interaction BEFORE you actually have sex lol.

I think, you were just unlucky with girls, bro. Only nearly 1 of 10 is good at sex with strangers, and 1/30 are superstars. Score more girls, and you'll find your sex goddess sooner or later.

 

[kane9191kosugi]

I think, you were just unlucky with girls, bro. Only nearly 1 of 10 is good at sex with strangers, and 1/30 are superstars. Score more girls, and you'll find your sex goddess sooner or later.

I mean sure, there were girls who were good at sex, but that's definitely in the minority (as you said).

And when you get used to it, the whole meeting up, conversation, interaction part which leads to sex becomes more interesting than the actual sex itself.
But maybe that's just personal preferences rather than a general opinion.

 

[zombiegirl]

damn. dm me no reason

 

[darkenmydoorstep]

It's not all it's cracked up to be, especially when you consider the fact that the only reason the act is pleasurable in the first place is to trick us into producing more suffering beings like ourselves, and on and on in perpetuity.

Were it not for this fact, the human species might long ago have gone extinct, as who in good conscience would transmit the ignomies of existence to another generation of their loved ones?

You could regard dying without having ever succumbed to this particular piece of DNA brainwashing trickery as something of a personal victory over the miserable treadmill of evolutionary history.

That said, if you're determined not to clock out until you've "been there, done that and got the t-shirt" then I expect a local sex worker will appreciate the extra work - you wouldn't need to save up much for it if you're planning on your financial outgoings quickly turning to zero.

Either way, godspeed on your voyage through this hellish world. May you find peace and rest

A great point made. It is just that. A trick of giving something pleasurable so we enslave ourselves as parents and create a person who didn't want to be here.