I don't think I really need the liver transplant.

[PoisonTeaTime]

I'm qualified for a liver transplant and due to the cause, my name will be high up on the priority list. However, I feel like I don't need it that much. I don't consider a future for myself and I would honestly rather die than watch people I care about die and the world go deeper into shit. There's probably far more people who are much more deserving and who need it far more than I do. But no way in Hell would I ever tell my family that I willingly want to die because they don't deserve that. I wish I could just die now and have it be done with.

 

[MyChoiceAlone]

does your family know that you need a new liver?

 

[PoisonTeaTime]

does your family know that you need a new liver?

For sure. And that's why it's no longer my decision to make anymore.

 

[Mayonaise]

Your story reminds me of something a friend of mine told me about. She had a friend who was severely mentally ill, and was eventually diagnosed with cancer.
He didn't want to live anymore so he never told his family, never got treatment, and died from it. Very sad story, as yours is, but it makes perfect sense.
When the new liver arrives, is there a way you can hide it from your family? As much as I wish you to get better mentally I respect very much your desire to sacrifice your life for the sake of others

 

[PoisonTeaTime]

Your story reminds me of something a friend of mine told me about. She had a friend who was severely mentally ill, and was eventually diagnosed with cancer.
He didn't want to live anymore so he never told his family, never got treatment, and died from it. Very sad story, as yours is, but it makes perfect sense.
When the new liver arrives, is there a way you can hide it from your family? As much as I wish you to get better mentally I respect very much your desire to sacrifice your life for the sake of others

Unfortunately, hiding anything from my family concerning my health is near impossible. My mother now has power of attorney and the hospital will call literally EVERY number.

 

[willitpass]

Unfortunately, hiding anything from my family concerning my health is near impossible. My mother now has power of attorney and the hospital will call literally EVERY number.

Power of attorney doesn't give her the right to make decisions on your behalf if you're still in your right mind. They only get to make those decisions if you become mentally incapacitated. If you are an adult (which you should be or you cannot be here), it is your right to tell them not to contact other people on your behalf unless it is an emergency and you cannot do so yourself. There are privacy laws in place that protect your information from being communicated to others, family included, without your consent in many countries. If you truly do not believe you want this transplant and feel it should go to someone else, be honest with your team and let them know. Part of the transplant process is psychological, if you tell them you don't want it and truly don't have a desire for it that can change things. Transplants are high demand low supply, they want to ensure that people receiving them will take care of their new organ. If you tell them you don't believe you will and you would like to be removed from the listing that is your right.

 

[suffering_mo]

I would personally NOT do the transplant if that were me. You can get out of it because they aren't going to give it to someone who can't mentally handle it. My brother in law got one and while he did "well" with it, he had a positive personality and tolerance for pain, discomfort, medication side effects, etc. How long do you have, as is? A terminal condition is my dream right now.

 

[kms4]

Your story reminds me of something a friend of mine told me about. She had a friend who was severely mentally ill, and was eventually diagnosed with cancer.
He didn't want to live anymore so he never told his family, never got treatment, and died from it. Very sad story, as yours is, but it makes perfect sense.
When the new liver arrives, is there a way you can hide it from your family? As much as I wish you to get better mentally I respect very much your desire to sacrifice your life for the sake of others

Is it wrong to feel envious of this person? Though physical suffering would be so so awful, I often wish I had cancer or something that would kill me this year. I had a pre-cancerous thyroid tumor and I wish I could just go back in time and ignore the lump on my neck.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Is it wrong to feel envious of this person? Though physical suffering would be so so awful, I often wish I had cancer or something that would kill me this year. I had a pre-cancerous thyroid tumor and I wish I could just go back in time and ignore the lump on my neck.

No, it's not "wrong" to feel any which way. In any event you'd hardly be the first person to long for a terminal disease.

 

[PoisonTeaTime]

Power of attorney doesn't give her the right to make decisions on your behalf if you're still in your right mind. They only get to make those decisions if you become mentally incapacitated. If you are an adult (which you should be or you cannot be here), it is your right to tell them not to contact other people on your behalf unless it is an emergency and you cannot do so yourself. There are privacy laws in place that protect your information from being communicated to others, family included, without your consent in many countries. If you truly do not believe you want this transplant and feel it should go to someone else, be honest with your team and let them know. Part of the transplant process is psychological, if you tell them you don't want it and truly don't have a desire for it that can change things. Transplants are high demand low supply, they want to ensure that people receiving them will take care of their new organ. If you tell them you don't believe you will and you would like to be removed from the listing that is your right.

Thank you for the advice, but even if my medical team hides it from them, my family will for sure put me on the rack and demand answers which won't turn out well for anyone.

I would personally NOT do the transplant if that were me. You can get out of it because they aren't going to give it to someone who can't mentally handle it. My brother in law got one and while he did "well" with it, he had a positive personality and tolerance for pain, discomfort, medication side effects, etc. How long do you have, as is? A terminal condition is my dream right now.

My family is going to do their damndest to make me live. I'm supposed to have one year before my condition deteriorates to the point where I won't able to sustain enough oxygen to survive any surgery.