d-tea
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- Apr 7, 2024
- 50
I don't think I even remember ever liking my mother. It's not that she did this horrible thing and abused me or anything, she's just an insufferable and disgusting person in my opinion. Here's a list to explain!
She doesn't wash her hands after going to the toilet
She's loud and talks while eating, and gets upset when I tell her that it bothers me; no ability to sense others discomfort aswell, when she's being loud and obnoxious in a public place.
She has always barged into my room without knocking.
I have never had any issue with people being fat but for some reason it disgusts me that she is chubby. I have never felt that way about someone's weight before.
I also have something like misophobia when I hear her chewing or breathing very loudly, it makes me panic, want to get out of the situation or destroy the source behind the sound (wild overreaction on my part but that's how it is idk).
She can't be wrong, she stands her ground and gets louder even if someone is actively disproving her and if she realizes they are not backing down and are clearly right she seems irritated and agrees to disagree.
She smokes a lot. In the car. With other people in the car. In the house. With other people in the house. With the dogs in the house. At least she waits until after everyone has finished eating to smoke. You can't talk to her about it, she'll get upset at even the mention of her smoking habits. When I get upset about her smoking in my face and create distance, she also gets upset and says that it never used to bother me... like... as a child...
Great.
She always cooks for herself, even tho she could reasonably cook for all of us. She uses my dad being pescetarian(veggie + eating fish) as an excuse, and just doesn't cook for me idk.
She works 20h a week when my dad is working his ass off to pay off the house they bought. She could work a 40h week with no issue, she's healthy; just doesn't want to. And then she goes on weekend trips alone and spends tons of money on temu packages....
Doesn't contribute, no chores. Maybe she sweeps the floor and does the dishes every once in a while. She DOES put effort into the garden, to be fair. But my dad does the laundry, usually the dishes, the cleaning. I'm not home often but I could also do more... anyways.
She also lies. We had an agreement that she'd walk the dogs in the morning, she agreed to do it, then later changed ger mind and argued we agreed only during the week, not on weekends... fine. If only she'd actually do it. I tie a knot into the leashes in the evening just to get home from work the next day and realise it's still there. I ask her about the dogs poop and behaviour during the walk and she makes up some shit. She actually walks them maybe once or twice a week...
We have huskies. They need at least a little walk in the morning. Just the garden isn't enough.
And then she complains that I should be doing more with the dog and all her behavioural issues would be corrected. On the other hand, she talks about our younger dog like she's the most well behaved dog when SHE walks her. Like SHE doesn't have that issue with our dog, the dog never pulls on the leash when SHE walks her....
Sure. How can someone be so delusional? It's like if she repeats something often enough, it's true.
She also had no understanding of mental illness and suffering. In her mind, the only "real" depressed people are completely non functioning, the others are just pretending. She called Chester Bennington when he caught the bus "selfish" because he had a family. Like he wasn't clearly sick and suffering?
When I was 11, the police came by for a welfare check bc of some stuff I'd said online (scariest experience of my life lol). My mother actually went to the kitchen and laughed her ass off because she CANNOT imagine me having any issues and being depressed because I come across as very happy and functional. Managed to convince the police it was just an online role play taken too seriously (LOL) but yeah.
I don't really like my mom.
She doesn't wash her hands after going to the toilet
She's loud and talks while eating, and gets upset when I tell her that it bothers me; no ability to sense others discomfort aswell, when she's being loud and obnoxious in a public place.
She has always barged into my room without knocking.
I have never had any issue with people being fat but for some reason it disgusts me that she is chubby. I have never felt that way about someone's weight before.
I also have something like misophobia when I hear her chewing or breathing very loudly, it makes me panic, want to get out of the situation or destroy the source behind the sound (wild overreaction on my part but that's how it is idk).
She can't be wrong, she stands her ground and gets louder even if someone is actively disproving her and if she realizes they are not backing down and are clearly right she seems irritated and agrees to disagree.
She smokes a lot. In the car. With other people in the car. In the house. With other people in the house. With the dogs in the house. At least she waits until after everyone has finished eating to smoke. You can't talk to her about it, she'll get upset at even the mention of her smoking habits. When I get upset about her smoking in my face and create distance, she also gets upset and says that it never used to bother me... like... as a child...
Great.
She always cooks for herself, even tho she could reasonably cook for all of us. She uses my dad being pescetarian(veggie + eating fish) as an excuse, and just doesn't cook for me idk.
She works 20h a week when my dad is working his ass off to pay off the house they bought. She could work a 40h week with no issue, she's healthy; just doesn't want to. And then she goes on weekend trips alone and spends tons of money on temu packages....
Doesn't contribute, no chores. Maybe she sweeps the floor and does the dishes every once in a while. She DOES put effort into the garden, to be fair. But my dad does the laundry, usually the dishes, the cleaning. I'm not home often but I could also do more... anyways.
She also lies. We had an agreement that she'd walk the dogs in the morning, she agreed to do it, then later changed ger mind and argued we agreed only during the week, not on weekends... fine. If only she'd actually do it. I tie a knot into the leashes in the evening just to get home from work the next day and realise it's still there. I ask her about the dogs poop and behaviour during the walk and she makes up some shit. She actually walks them maybe once or twice a week...
We have huskies. They need at least a little walk in the morning. Just the garden isn't enough.
And then she complains that I should be doing more with the dog and all her behavioural issues would be corrected. On the other hand, she talks about our younger dog like she's the most well behaved dog when SHE walks her. Like SHE doesn't have that issue with our dog, the dog never pulls on the leash when SHE walks her....
Sure. How can someone be so delusional? It's like if she repeats something often enough, it's true.
She also had no understanding of mental illness and suffering. In her mind, the only "real" depressed people are completely non functioning, the others are just pretending. She called Chester Bennington when he caught the bus "selfish" because he had a family. Like he wasn't clearly sick and suffering?
When I was 11, the police came by for a welfare check bc of some stuff I'd said online (scariest experience of my life lol). My mother actually went to the kitchen and laughed her ass off because she CANNOT imagine me having any issues and being depressed because I come across as very happy and functional. Managed to convince the police it was just an online role play taken too seriously (LOL) but yeah.
I don't really like my mom.
