Discussion i am thinking about exposing my abusive family to the world before i ctb.

[quietly_gone]

still not sure on how i would do it since im completely isolated from the rest of my family, have no social media, but i feel incredibly bitter when i think about them pretending to grieve my death and earning sympathy from others while they were almost 70% responsible for it. i want to ctb so badly and im just waiting on my order of sn to arrive, but i can't stomach the fact that these people who hurt me so much will be left unaffected in the end.
what do you guys think? what would you do?

 

[AerialBoundaries]

You should. They hurt you.

 

[Pluto]

I face this dilemma too. The family will portray themselves as victims and feign grief, while making me out to be someone unstable who couldn't be reasoned with. And I won't be there to defend myself. Whatever happens, they've already won.

Currently, I plan on publicly mentioning the extent of my traumas and it should be pretty easy to deduce what a great family I came from. By showing anger, I would give them ammunition to portray me as an aggressive person. They have mastered this game. Again, they have won.

 

[Salvation_]

You could just make a Facebook specifically for your last message. As for whether or not you should expose them, of course as always it's a choice. If the thought of not exposing them eats your insides out, then do it so at least the people who are looking will have your side of the story. On the other hand, it's not an obligation and if you feel like you don't want to expose them in the end, don't feel bad about it. Just prioritize yourself and what you want :)

 

[quietly_gone]

I face this dilemma too. The family will portray themselves as victims and feign grief, while making me out to be someone unstable who couldn't be reasoned with. And I won't be there to defend myself. Whatever happens, they've already won.

Currently, I plan on publicly mentioning the extent of my traumas and it should be pretty easy to deduce what a great family I came from. By showing anger, I would give them ammunition to portray me as an aggressive person. They have mastered this game. Again, they have won.

This is how I feel too... with the way they twist my words even while I'm alive and able to defend myself, I can only imagine what kind of narrative they're going to adapt to once I'm dead. But still, it feels so unfair to leave this world without making them pay at least a little for it. It's dumb but I fantasize about this a lot. I guess I'll write something slowly, without letting anger take over so I can appear reasonable... Still very unsure though. How great that they make even my death so unpeaceful

 

[leloyon]

Do it. By any means necessary.

 

[ThisIsLife]

There's nothing you could control in this life when you're dead. Anger or revenge never are a solution. You'll waste a lot of time exposing your family probably for nothing in the end. As you already said, they'll twist your words and push a narrative...

Be at peace with yourself, the afterlife is supposed to be forever and i think preparing for it is the most important. Try to be the best version of yourself before you go. It's easier said than done but i think it's worth it to just try to live your last days on earth with a better control over your ego.

 

[blue_muse]

If exposing your family brings you peace and closure, then who is anyone to tell you to let go and move on.

I've got the same predicament as you. My family will definitely capitalize on my death, like a hall pass, for when they want sympathy or impunity from their disgusting actions. To be honest; I wish I could be a fly-on-the-wall and watch the fallout after CTB to see family, the people they turned against me and authority figures try and avoid criminal charges (10+ years imprisonment) for the part each of them played.

 

[ringo99]

Make a video on YT and spread it on social media. Explain precisely what happened. If your country is one that mandates police investigations into suicide tell a trusted friend to ensure that the police see that video so your family gets investigated

 

[FuneralCry]

It's up to you honestly, but it sounds like they deserve it. It's so horrible how extremely cruel humans create so much suffering. But I wouldn't see it as being the best idea if doing such a thing interferes in ctb plans or leads to some other negative consequences for you.

 

[HerculePoirot]

Tbh, as a matter of principle I don't think it's a good idea to use your suicide as an ashaming tool. It's basically an exit route to escape an unbearable situation. Everyone will understand the implicit message your death will carry.

Of course I have no knowledge of your particular case, which may justify a particular way to make your suicide a revenge.

Peace first.