How to overcome perfectionist thinking?

[Autumn Blaze]

Hi, posting this thread because I've not yet found an answer that works for me from professionals: how do you get over perfectionist thinking?
I have a condition that has rewired by brain to think rigidly, and I have been beating myself up internally for about eight years by now. It's been very difficult as a result to just can the self hatred and thoughts that I'm not good enough, no matter how much I try.
It even weasels its way into my relationships in a way that's especially destructive because I always tend to set impossible standards for myself…

Any advice helps.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Does it put you off attempting to do things to begin with? You can see that as a bad symptom of it. I suppose also- focussing on the negative side effects of doing this to yourself. If it makes you act strangely in your relationship.

I eventually tackled limerence- which was an obsessive thought pattern- because I recognised it was doing me more harm than good.

I suppose practically speaking too- look at how this is affecting your life. I'm imagining with things like cleaning say- are you all or nothing with it? But then- does that make the environment either really good or, really bad?

Do you think you may have other underlying issues that cause this? OCD maybe? You could look at what's available to treat that.

I wasn't ever overly perfectionist but, I used to want my creative work to be better. I still do. But then- very often, there isn't the time or budget to attain the level I'm hoping for. I suppose what pushed me through it was knowing it was better to submit something not perfect rather than miss the deadline or quit all together.

 

[peacebenow]

DBT And CBT both can be helpful here.